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Uncontrollable 10 year old daughter

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Shelley1020 · 07/06/2019 09:35

My 10 year old gets angry at the smallest of things, if she can’t find something all hell breaks lose and she picks up chairs and anything she can find and throws them across the room, slams doors, shouts at me and says very hurtful things, I’ve tried taking things away from her like her phone etc but it doesn’t work, she will just grab them back of me, she’s very tall for her age 5ft 2, I end up crying at work as it’s all getting to much for me, any ideas of any help would be gratefully recurved

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HebeMumsnet · 07/06/2019 21:18

Oh, OP. You sound at the end of your tether. You're definitely not alone though. We're going to bump this for you, but if you'd like, hit report on your post and we can always move the thread to somewhere that's a bit busier - possibly Chat? You might get more people passing with a few ideas.

In the meantime, of the top of my head... Have you checked there's nothing else going on here? No big events at home? She's not being bullied at school and taking it out on you? Might be worth asking her teacher if s/he's noticed anything.

If not, by 10 this obviously isn't ok behaviour and not fair on you. Perhaps try sitting her down when she's calm and asking what she thinks you can both do to help - put the ball in her court a bit but in a way that makes her feel supported. I think at this age it's ok to explain how it makes you feel and that it needs addressing. If she's stressed maybe you could look into something like some yoga or mindfulness for her. Maybe she's lashing out because she doesn't feel listened to and you could offer a bit of one-to-one time with her?

Just a couple of ideas anyway. Do remember that firstly, all things pass eventually, but also that kids only act up when they feel safe enough in your love to know they can. So you must have done something right!

Good luck! Hopefully someone else will be along with more ideas soon but do yell if you'd like us to move the thread.

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HebeMumsnet · 08/06/2019 18:17

That sounds really hard for you, OP. Flowers And maybe Wine too.

Would you like us to shift this over to Chat for you and see if you can get some other ideas there? Just hit the report button on this post and someone will move it over for you.

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LouMumsnet · 08/06/2019 21:14

@Shelley1020, thanks for reporting your thread. As requested, we've nipped in and shifted it over to the Chat topic. Hopefully, you'll get some really useful advice from other MNers here but do let us know if we can help further, won't you?

Best of luck Flowers

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