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Can I wear this to a wedding?

110 replies

WaroftheWorlds · 03/06/2019 21:40

I hope the attachment works.

Yes, I know it breaks the rules, but the navy trim I am hoping kinda mitigates against the cream. I own the dress already. It is lovely on, not bridal. I would wear with a big navy fascinator, nude shoes and a navy handbag.

For context, wedding is a medium sized affair. Local church and then local social club for typical buffet/disco reception. Bride is in a big white dress. Very big skirt.

Is it a no?

Can I wear this to a wedding?
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Bodear · 05/06/2019 09:50

Unless you’re going to keep the pashmina wrapped around you ALL day then it doesn’t really help. You know it’s not a great dress to wear to a wedding or you wouldn’t have posted so why do it? Hmm

BarbedBloom · 05/06/2019 09:50

I wouldn't. I have also heard some nasty comments about people wearing similar outfits in the past. But it does depend, if bride is wearing a standard wedding dress it would be fine, but I wore a very similar shape and colour at mine so aside from the navy and a bit of lace, it could have been awkward.

BillywigSting · 05/06/2019 09:51

It's a no from me.

It's almost identical to the dress a friend of mine got married in so it looks very bridal to me

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NoSauce · 05/06/2019 09:54

It's almost identical to the dress a friend of mine got married in so it looks very bridal to me

Surely that has no relevance here unless the OPs friend is not wearing a bridal gown.

NoParticularPattern · 05/06/2019 09:57

I wouldn’t. I know it’s not a wedding dress or even remotely bridal (in the traditional big white dress sense) but I do think it’s just a bit too white. It’s more about realising that you have literally any colour at your disposal except for the one that you know the bride will be in (or thereabouts anyway. Unless you know she’s non-traditional and wearing fuschia pink with black stripes or something!). There are lots of other colours available, choose one of those!

Theghosttrain · 05/06/2019 10:11

As long as you don't add a veil and carry some flowers, I think you should be OK Grin

Really dont get this thing about not wearing white/cream, why ever not?

Bigsighall · 05/06/2019 10:15

I would. It’s lovely. What brand is it?

peachgreen · 05/06/2019 10:23

Nope. If you wear white or cream to a wedding, even if the bride doesn't mind you will be judged.

LoafofSellotape · 05/06/2019 10:24

peachgreen you know that for a fact ,do you?

Spiceupyourlife · 05/06/2019 10:29

I have that DRESS!!!

Marks and Sparks FTW it’s lovely.

However I get married this week and I think I’d be a bit 🤔 if a guest wore that. It’s a lot of cream! If you put it with navy or brightly coloured accessories and a navy jacket/shawl I think you’d get away with it though xx

Bigsighall · 05/06/2019 10:44

Thanks Spiceupyourlife
I can now keep an eye on eBay in case one comes up :)

peachgreen · 05/06/2019 10:46

@LoafofSellotape Well, obviously not because it depends on the number of guests at the wedding. It's certainly happened at every wedding I've been to where a guest has worn white or cream, and lots of other people have told similar stories on this thread. For the record, I think it's ridiculous, and didn't give a monkeys what anyone wore to my wedding (in fact my bridesmaid was in an off-white!). But that doesn't negate the fact that a lot of people still have very strong feelings about it.

Lweji · 05/06/2019 10:50

I think it's fine.
No hint of bridalness.

daisypond · 05/06/2019 10:50

It’s a lovely dress and fine to wear to a wedding.

ZippyBungleandGeorge · 05/06/2019 10:59

It's isn't bridal, of you were going to a low key registry office only ceremony, with the bride wedding something very simple I'd probably avoid, but if the bride will be in a big white princess dress I don't see the issue. So many people asked me before my wedding what colours to wear or if they should avoid certain things, my answer to all was wear whatever makes you feel good, I might've drawn the line at a veil but other than that I just didn't care. Everyone knows who the bride at a wedding is or they wouldn't have been invited.

widgetbeana · 05/06/2019 11:07

No, no, no!

You can just about get away with it if it's 50% of the look or less, but this is far too white. A pashmina doesn't work unless you determine never to take it off! A cardigan is a better choice if you do decide that's what you are going to do, but please don't.

SuperSange · 05/06/2019 11:08

It's perfect with navy accessories.

Namechangeishard · 05/06/2019 11:11

I think it's pretty outdated now that you can't wear white or cream to a wedding.

It really isn’t.

LittleKitty1985 · 05/06/2019 11:15

I wouldn't! Do you really want people staring and whispering about you all day?

LoafofSellotape · 05/06/2019 11:17

Omg who are all these wedding guests who stare and whisper and JUDGE?!Shock

Bodear · 05/06/2019 11:18

Irrespective of any individual responses here the chance of offending is too high to risk it imo.

Bodear · 05/06/2019 11:18

Me!! I would judge! I wouldn’t stare though.

BrylcreamBeret · 05/06/2019 11:18

Are the couple getting married heavily religious and waiting until marriage to have sex? If the answer is no, the importance of white is irrelevant and you can wear the dress with the accessories you mentioned. It's beautiful btw.

LittleKitty1985 · 05/06/2019 11:28

Omg who are all these wedding guests who stare and whisper and JUDGE?!

About half of them if this thread is anything to go by!

PCohle · 05/06/2019 11:31

I wouldn't.

It's perfectly easy to avoid wearing a long white dress to a wedding.