I don't know if anyone else's partner was like this but he's driving me up the wall. We're having a baby and starting to discuss the house arrangements. At the moment we have the master, dd's bedroom, a study and a spare bedroom. Dh sleeps in the spare room as he thrashes around like a fish and I would throttle him. My suggestion has been to get two single beds in the master so we're in the same room but not disturbed.
He has questioned why the baby needs a nursery, says he won't give up the spare room and questions any piece of equipment that needs to be bought. Ie cot, stroller. He says it's all 'top of the range'. It's not, it's just average baby stuff. He says baby can go in the study, which has no wardrobe and currently has loads of furniture in it that I've no idea where we'll move it to.
I feel like he's being incredibly obstructive to purchasing anything or changing anything for the baby, which he very much wanted. He is complaining about the cost of everything. We're not broke and he earns well, he just refuses to use savings for anything. I guess in my mind I think well when a new baby comes along, it might not be a year we save and we have to accept some additional expense.
At this point I'm thinking I either just stop discussing buying furniture and let him see the practicality of no nursery/change table/wardrobe. This means the master becomes my bedroom and nursery, and it'll be me that has to work it out.
My other option that I'm seriously starting to consider (because I'm hormonal? Or just really fucking sick of being the only one adjusting to a baby) is leaving him. Less money on my own, but at least I can spend it as I see fit and buy a fucking cot without being called extravagant.
I also wouldn't have to listen to him go on about how he'll be the only one making sacrifices (financially) once the baby is here. As though giving up a job, my own income, superannuation, and stretching my body to all hell isn't a sacrifice.
Thanks for coming to my Ted talk.