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It's my birthday tomorrow

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fluckityfluckfluck · 02/06/2019 17:05

I'm so lonely. And tired of being strong. Single mum to 3 amazing dc so will plaster a smile on for them but I'm homesick, heart broken and just fucking exhausted.

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ssd · 02/06/2019 17:07

Oh god I'm so sorry. I wish I could give you a hug but please know I'm sending you FlowersCake. Hope you can have a treat for yourself tomorrow xx

IStillMissBlockbuster · 02/06/2019 17:08

Happy Birthday for tomorrow!

Sorry you're having a shit moment, have you got any family to celebrate with?
You say you're homesick, for where? And where are you?

You're doing an amazing job. I hope you can get some respite though.

carmat · 02/06/2019 17:09

Happy birthday for tomorrow. I'm lonely too

SecretWitch · 02/06/2019 17:10

Oh, Op 💐 Can you plan even a little special thing for yourself tomorrow? A nice bath and some wine after your children are asleep? Can you manage going for coffee and a bit of cake?

I’m sending love, hugs and a big Happy Birthday to you! 🎊🎊

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fluckityfluckfluck · 02/06/2019 17:20

And now I'm crying. I moved here 15 years ago for now exh. Tomorrow will be usual breakfast club/work/ASC/etc. My dad won't remember. My dsis text today to say sorry hadn't sent card. It is what it is, just another day, but wish it was over already.

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carmat · 02/06/2019 17:20

Where about are you op?

Heratnumber7 · 02/06/2019 17:22

Do you have any friends you could meet for lunch or invite round in the evening?

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fluckityfluckfluck · 02/06/2019 17:29

I'm meeting friends later in the week. I feel pathetic being this way. 40 next year, what will I be like them ShockGrin

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rainbowlou · 02/06/2019 17:31

Whereabouts are you? I wonder if there’s others on here in the same boat?
Happy Birthday for tomorrow Flowers

sugarcubed · 02/06/2019 17:33

Happy birthday for tomorrow OP , hugs x

DramaAlpaca · 02/06/2019 17:38

You share your birthday with me, OP Smile

Happy birthday for tomorrow Flowers Cake Wine

Catlady89 · 02/06/2019 17:42

My birthday tomorrow too!
Happy birthday for tomorrow OP & @DramaAlpaca CakeWine
I hope you find a way to enjoy your special day 🖤

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fluckityfluckfluck · 02/06/2019 17:54

Thanks everyone and happy birthday to others who share Cake. Sorry for the self indulgent post

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Livedandlearned · 02/06/2019 18:12

Happy birthday for tomorrow! I spent my 30th birthday alone with my dcs. Two mutual friends of mine and exh knocked at my door and gave me a big Galaxy bar and a bottle of Lambrini.

I've never forgotten that, it meant so much at a very lonely and stressful time.

BrewCakeStarThanks

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fluckityfluckfluck · 02/06/2019 18:16

That is lovely lived. I'm worried they will be nice and make a bit of a fuss in work and at the moment I just can't control the tears once they start. So tempted to just be 'sick' instead of embarrassing myself all day

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SherlockHolmes · 02/06/2019 18:17

Happy Birthday for tomorrow! FlowersCake

I've had lonely birthdays too, so I feel your pain. They won't always be though.

BlueMerchant · 02/06/2019 18:23

Don't go 'sick'. You are sure to feel much worse sitting ruminating at home alone.
Could you pop to buy yourself something nice, not expensive necessarily, like a nice bubble bath and enjoy when DC are in bed?
Just something to remind yourself how special you are. Or you could get a cake to enjoy with DC.
Best wishes for tomorrowCake

Stuckandsad · 02/06/2019 18:36

Happy birthday Cake for tomorrow!
If funds allow then do get yourself a little something, pair of new pjs or just a bottle of wine and a big cake. You deserve it. You really really do.
Single mums are made of steel and are amazing. When your babies are older they will spoil you and you will know all these hard times were worth it.
Chin up birthday girl

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fluckityfluckfluck · 02/06/2019 19:31

Thanks everyone. I really appreciate the kind words.

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Mac47 · 02/06/2019 19:49

You need to rethink this. I'm a single mum with zero social life and also get nothing from anyone. So I do exactly what I want instead. If you can afford it, hit amazon tonight/pop to shop tomorrow and get something for yourself. Do not have crap boring tea tomorrow. Get a voucher code and go out with the kids for tea, or get a takeaway or at the very least get (favourite thing) for dinner at home. I find quaffing champagne (or £3 equivalent) and a bit of dancing with dd to be very therapeutic. It may not be the most exciting day, but with work and kids, it rarely is. Make it happy, because why not?? Flowers

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fluckityfluckfluck · 02/06/2019 20:00

I know Mac, and I genuinely approach life like this 99%of the time but it's all just gotten on top of me today. Sorry.

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Mac47 · 02/06/2019 20:07

God, don't apologise, I really get where you are coming from. I hope you manage to have a good day regardless and do a nice something for you.

ssd · 02/06/2019 22:42

I spent my 50th wandering around the shops myself crying. But things have improved. Hope they improve for you too op x

twitterbird · 02/06/2019 22:48

It was my birthday on Thursday and if it's any consolation I was the same, I've been in a depressed funk since weds. I'm the Shane age so maybe it's an approaching 40 thing Wine

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fluckityfluckfluck · 03/06/2019 06:25

Feeling stronger this morning. Up half the night with insomnia but have written a list of things to achieve before next year. Thanks again for the kindness yesterday Thanks

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