Just witnessed some horrible parenting

[Scion123]

In the local park and a family (looks like the mum’s are sisters with their children). Mum gets on one of those big basket swings with her mum. The aunt starts swinging them, little girl gets very upset, sobbing and shouting ‘Please stop I feel sick’. The mum’s are absolutely creased up with laughter. Poor little girls gets more and more distressed and eventually starts screaming. Aunt is still pushing higher and higher. The girl then goes silent and they gradually bring the swing to a hault. She says ‘I couldn’t breathe’ and is doing those deep sobs. Takes herself off and sits quietly by herself while the mum’s are still cackling like a pair of hyenas.

Stupid bitches.

I've intervened ( verbally) when I saw 4 year old twins being smacked round the head by their mum years ago. I got chased down the road with her fist in my face and threatened in front of my toddler who was in a pushchair at the time. Never again. There's no reasoning with such stupid people.

Just to add I did report the incident to the school though.

"Well of course then nc100 you must be right and common old me must be wrong.

I'm surprised you've not told the OP the child she saw was just having a tantrum too."

Why would I tell the OP the child was having a tantrum? She gave enough detail to clearly understand that wasn't the case. You, on the other hand, described my child when he's having a tantrum. With no other info.

Other than the obvious chip on your shoulder. I have never called you common or mentioned class or your age

MrMeSeeks are you actually thick? English is my second language and even i could have understood that i have never once quoted to intervene. Re read the comment of mine you actually quoted and STILL implied i had told Op to intervene!!! Jeez!

Clearly not thick enough to tell op to ring 101 to strangers in the park

nc100 There may be children who dream of strangers intervening and stopping their parents from abusing them. Wouldn’t you rather those strangers get it wrong from time to time than ignore child abuse?

But the stranger needs to think about their own safety and not get involved in a dangerous situation. By all means report to the police, but don’t risk your safety by intervening!

The stranger also has to try and work out if intervening will help or if it’ll actually make the situation worse for the child.

@MrMeSeeks i told her to report the abusive behaviour she witnessed that she was too scared to confront the adults involved about. I never told her to ring 101 to report random people playing in the park like you imply. Do you just go through posts nit picking at bits of information?

My dmum wouldn’t think twice about saying something in a situation like that. If the parents responded by giving her a mouthful of abuse or being violent, I would feel sorry for them because she is hard as nails

@howwudufeel I'd rather strangers intervened if they felt they could do so if the situation was clearly abusive/wrong like in the OPs situation.

I don't appreciate busy bodies patronisingly saying "ooh, is he ok? He looks very distressed. Can I help with that?" when my toddler is having a meltdown.

No shit Sherlock, he's absolutely devastated because trains can't fly and he's finished his kit kat. Knock yourself out if you think you can sort it though 🙄

I’ve started a thread on a horrible incident I witnessed
For what purpose? Nobody was going to say it’s fine. What were you looking for?

Those saying it’s pointless to report to the police, we had a situation locally where a couple were seen dragging their crying child through a retail park, shouting at her. Police were called and an appeal put out to find them. They were found and charged with abuse after an investigation found quite a few issues with the family. So, yes, it is worth reporting it.

nc100 I think there should be more busybodies. They may get it wrong sometimes but they could also save a child’s life. So why don’t you knock yourself out too.

we had a situation locally where a couple were seen dragging their crying child through a retail park, shouting at her. Police were called and an appeal put out to find them. They were found and charged with abuse after an investigation found quite a few issues with the family. So, yes, it is worth reporting it

Quite a different situation. Not comparable at all.

nc100
Well I would expect staff in a reputable business to uphold the law. It is after all not legal to try & strangle a young child. We were in THEIR property - if someone walked into my workplace & acted illegally & it was harmful to someone else I'd tell them to leave. What would you do??

nc100
Your comments make you sound like you are very young.
Methinks you protest too much....

@ilikemethewayiam
How distressing- & well done for doing something.
Child abuse is allowed to happen - & I agree with @howwudufeel it is actually ALL OUR RESPONSIBILITY to protect children.

That’s pretty much what I am saying Chocolate.

There are 4 types of abuse which are all reportable.. one of them is emotional- humiliation and belittling children comes under this, from what OP described this is what was happening to a child.

In the other persons case in clarks this was Physical abuse and hopefully, discretely the staff did take note of what happened and reported the incident offering instore CTV as evidence and so the people could maybe found. They might not have made a big thing about it at the time.

I'm pretty sure that Clarks staff didn't do anything actually... nice thought though

But he'd be leaving with the child he just strangled. That's what I was asking. The only think they can do that you can't is ask him to leave.

That doesn't protect anyone in any way.

And no, unfortunately I'm not young. Is that meant to be an insult? Just genuinely baffled at how being told to leave a shop protects a child. (Worked for many many I'm old years in an environment where safeguarding is paramount, and I can tell you it doesn't)

True dull. My point is that hopefully anyone in the shop did that. Staff or customers. One minute it's everybody's responsibility and the next there's a hierarchy of responsibility.

I believe its EVERYONES responsibility but judging by comments on this thread lots dont and think its best to ignore and not getting involved. They think getting involved only means confronting the people and reporting is ridiculous 🙄

Seems that way. Confronting them doesn't make a difference generally whereas reporting can.

@nc100 👍🏼

@Scion123, I saw a mum do this too in one of those spinny bowl things. Child screamed for her to stop and she laughed and looked over at me to "share the joke" I just shook my head and she stopped it and said "Oh, you're alright."
My son had previously, accidentally spun himself too fast in it and the second he called for help I pulled him out and gave him a big hug. I felt sick seeing the way she treated her son...but maybe I'm too soft on mine. ???