What's the scariest thing you've ever been through?

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Obviously you don't have to share details if you don't want to.

Could be woo, a painful or life threatening situation or x near accident or an existential fear.

I'm going to think what I think mine was. In pain so engaging in distraction

The doctors telling me DD might die after a accident. Three weeks of sitting by her side not knowing if she’d make it.

When 5yo DD went from "I am not feeling well, I need to have a nap" to convulsing in about 30 minutes.
Then she stopped breathing.
I still re-live those two or three minutes when I go to sleep.

(It was encephalitis. She is better now.)

I was in an armed robbery and had petrol
poured on me and they threatened to set me alight if I didn't empty the contents of the till & safe.

HELLP Syndrome and my daughter not breathing at birth for 1 minute. I was surprised when I found out at my debrief that it was only 1 minute I was convinced it was about 10 felt like that anyway!

I think my scariest is the deep throws of Major depression and anxiety disorder. That existential fear and complete hopelessness.

I've had several scary experiences but most had some form of ability to feel in control or ability to make me learn a lesson of some kind.

But that impending doom and dread was awful.

PND.

Most vile thing ever

My then 8 year old being blue-lighted to hospital vomiting blood last April. I was the picture of calm until I went back to work five days later and broke down.

Also the sleepless night after an op under general anaesthetic to remove a large ovarian cyst, waiting for an ultrasound to see whether I was still pregnant with my 13 week foetus. I was, she is 6 now.

When I was 6 I was knocked out at the dentist having some teeth out.

I remember trying to wake up, I could hear the dentist and my mum calling my name and feel them shaking me, but I couldn’t move or see.

I was so frightened and I will never have a GA again.

The birth of my first child. Overdose on diamorphine, surgeon forgot to come back, kept passing out and waking up with them pulling my baby out via forceps when I didn't think I was contacting, honestly thought they were going to rip my baby's head off.
Ended up with a 4th degree tear and had to be rebuilt (220 stitches inside and out).
My baby bacame extremely ill and had to be resuscitated 3 times, needed a lumber puncture and was in ICU for 2 weeks.
I wasn't allowed to see him for 3 days
You couldn't make it up

Visiting my dad and realising something was very wrong. I never went back home as he was diagnosed with vascular demention.

The darkest time was waiting until he went to bed and going to cry in the car so he wouldn't hear me. He'd brought me up and was my only family member.

DC1’s birth. I was in maternity triage and had a really strong feeling something was badly wrong, but couldn’t get the midwife to listen. Eventually she put the belt on me for a trace and we listened to the baby’s heart beating, and then getting slower and slower and slower until an alarm started going off, and then the heartbeat sounds stopped all together while two of them ran with me on the bed down a corridor.

It turned out it was ‘just’ a decel and the reason it sounded to me like the heart had stopped altogether was because they’d disconnected the monitor to rush me to labour suite once the alarm sounded. But I didn’t realise that at the time and I was 100% convinced the baby had died. Even DH pointing out that he could see it kicking didn’t get through to me, I was so sure.

Also getting as far as the second trimester with DC2 after several miscarriages, then waking up one night with blood pouring out of me and it just wouldn’t stop. Horrible.

(Both of them are fine and well now.)

Mine was being hit head on by a boy racer doing about 80/90mph and he lost control on a bend. Time seemed to slow down and DH was saying "he's going to hit us, he's going to hit us" and then the loudest bang ever and then the sound of 3 of my kids screaming.
Given the damage to the front of our car (engine & bonnet simply didn't exist anymore!), it was a miracle that me & DH walked away with just small fractures (wrist/hand - me, ribs - DH) and all of us were badly bruised - I've seen accidents where people have died in smaller crashes at less speed. We could have so easily have died and left DC1 all alone and that was hard for me to get my head around for a while.

Whilst walking my dogs between Wansfell and Baystones In the Lake District I walked into a bog literally up to my chest... I was so frightened, I could not get myself out, luckily I was with my Husband and I don't know how but he managed to find solid ground to steady himself and lift me out... it was winter, freezing cold and the wind was like the worst I've ever experienced, I was absolutely freezing cold and sobbed all the way back to our hotel. It took me hours to warm back up and calm down...

Divorcing and having a ticket for the Lockerbie jet, couldn’t get the right days leave and had to fly the next day.

User - holy shit!

My DS (8) went off on a ride at the water park on holiday with DD (12) & her friend without telling us. I'd only gone the loo and when I came back DH wasn't sure if he had gone with them. I was like a lunatic and thank god they all came back together. That was the worst 30/45 minutes of my life.

Have an organ transplant was pretty up there too. Really wasn't sure I would make it after being ill and not knowing why.

Adult sized DS having a horrific, meltdown in public. Nowhere for me to run, no doors to hide behind. I literally felt my life flash before my eyes.

Then dealing with the aftermath where he escaped being placed in and ATU by the skin of his teeth and the devotion of his psychiatrist.........he's come on massively since then. I mentally thank the devotion of everyone involved with him for the second chance he got.

DS going into anaphylactic shock.
He was intubated and resuscitated right in front of me. It was the worst day of my life and it has shattered my mental health into a million pieces.

I had a mini stroke when I was 33. It only lasted for two minutes but it felt much longer. I was strangely calm with the paralysis until I realised that I couldn’t form words and I howled with the fear.

It’s so minor compared to the story’s on here but for me that was the single most terrifying moment of my live so far.

My GM dying and a few life threatening (noot mine I hasten to add) situations at work.

Being diagnosed with breast cancer and needing surgery.

Being at the top of an abseiling tower for an abseil I backed out of as a child.

I have other very terrifying and distressing things happen to me since, but I think that's the only time I've been actually genuinely petrified and unable to move with terror. Someone had to physically coax me back down the scaffolding.

Another time, the police had to come and rescue me from the top of some play equipment because of a similar incident.

I was determined to overcome this and I've been sky diving, abseiling, and hang gliding as an adult. I also got the cable car to the top of Sugar Loaf mountain the same day I went hang gliding. It was a very proud moment!

I was in the bath the first time my son decided to roll over. A voice from somewhere in my head shouted “GET THE BABY!” I leapt out of the tub and ran to his room. He had rolled over to his stomach and was face down on the blanket unable to lift his head up. He was completely blue when I got to him. After a short stay in hospital he was cleared to go home.

Same son, age 15. Decided to have friends over for a drinking session at our home. I was in bed asleep totally unaware. Friend crept into my bedroom and whispered “Secret, ummmmm, I don’t think Hunter is breathing”. Spent 24 hours in hospital whilst alcohol cleared his system. Alcohol poisoning and teens is real and it’s terrifying.

Viral meningitis, 2 brain surgeries, just happened. Completely life threatening and absolutely terrifying, over the moon to be home with my kids , hospital for 4 weeks😩