“I’m hiding this thread now”

[BertrandRussell]

Why??

I can understand it it’s personally triggering- particularly if the title is. But apart from that? And actually announcing it seems extraordinarily passive aggressive. The Mumsnet equivalent of “I’m going home and taking my bat”.

I think it's used by people embroilered in an argument/dispute who want to say "I'm leaving but don't think you have won, it's just not worth it to me".

I'm not being snarky, I've done this myself!

I would also like to know, has anyone ever said this and then not looked at the thread again? I always have to look

Comes across as fairly self absorbed and passive aggressive doesn’t it?

They invariably return to the thread five or six posts later with
"And another thing....." !

Ouch

Ouch to cherrycoke I mean

they usually do it on aibu as it is a particularly vile topic and everyone piles in with personal attacks.

I wish more people would flounce. Flouncers corner doesn’t get nearly enough posts anymore

I hide 'em but don't tell. And I don't relook.
So all the frothing berserkers can carry on fruitlessly sullying my good name. Bwa ha HA.

TBH I don't hide many, maybe one a year, tops?

It's fine to bow out of a discussion when there's nothing positive coming from it any longer, of course it is, healthy even.

Anyone who has a problem with it probably just doesn't like having their fun spoiled and/or their haranguing/smug pontificating curtailed.

I always hide the thread after I have said it so I don't feel tempted to go back.

Of course it’s fine to bow out. Very sensible and it should happen more often. I don’t understand hiding though- unless it’s to stop yourself giving way to the “and another thing” temptation. And I really don’t understand announcing it.

Yes sorry webuiltthiscity it’s the act of telling everyone I’m referring to rather than the actual hiding itself

Maybe they think people will stop posting?

Well why not? It's a verbal/written drawing of boundaries and withdrawal from what they may feel is a hostile discussion. Totally fine.

You'd prefer people ran away with their tail between their legs without taking a bit of control back? That they should take their multiple roastings and slink away in cowed silence?

I don’t understand hiding though- unless it’s to stop yourself giving way to the “and another thing” temptation.

Well what else would it be ? And that's actually fine too.

I don't get what you don't get about it. It's all perfectly normal behaviour.

Carol we used to draw a line. An ACTUAL LINE. Nutters (said fondly)

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I've never started a thread so never have done this but I can understand why it might be done. I hide threads that have the potential to get my dander up because it's not worth the stress of fighting on the Internet! Much easier to just not see it.

can always go to the local pub to see verbal disputes

I think it’s normal . And acceptable. You get heated on a thread. You’ve had enough. You want to bow out. You want posters you’ve had a ding dong with to now know you’re not there to carry on arguing.

Am not sure I’ve said it. I just hide threads without the declaration. But I understand a reason why people do.

that's surely worth a come back flibberty?

There used to be a Mumsnetter who said this on practically every thread, but never left. She'd post about half an hour after 'flouncing' then repeatedly after that. It was most annoying.

“Carol we used to draw a line. An ACTUAL LINE. Nutters (said fondly)“

ThA

Aye then the scrapping either went stratospheric or was abandoned. Fun times!

Option A
I am not going to be replying any more but don't think you have won, oh no, I am taking the higher ground.

Option B
I am not going to be replying any more and I thought I should let all my loyal fans know, so they can also leave the thread, which will be worthless without me - I wouldn't want them to be waiting for my next pithy reply and to be disappointed.

I think it's fine. It means they aren't going to answer any more ridiculous questions so there's no point anyone asking them, or badgering for further info as it won't be forthcoming..

I don't tend to announce it, but have been known to say 'I'm done' or some such.

I regularly hide threads having posted enthusiastically at the beginning then realising I don't actually care any more.

They do often announce that they'll be hiding the thread though, then return. I'm not sure why they bother.

I don't hide threads, but there are ones that I never go back to. I should try the hide facility some time! I have hidden some categories to stop them coming up in the 'active' for me.

If it's a thread you've been involved in for a while, I can see why people would say they are leaving but just in a 'goodbye' way, not expecting to take other posters with them (especially if your own view is contrary to others).

But yes, I've been on threads where your realise some of the posters are way too invested and I've stopped reading/contributing and no, I don't feel the need to go back. Thread starters who say they are hiding it are usually not getting the response they wanted expected IME.