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“I’m hiding this thread now”

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BertrandRussell · 25/05/2019 11:13

Why??

I can understand it it’s personally triggering- particularly if the title is. But apart from that? And actually announcing it seems extraordinarily passive aggressive. The Mumsnet equivalent of “I’m going home and taking my bat”.

OP posts:
ClapTrapVonTrapp · 25/05/2019 12:49

I'm hiding this thread now.

RedDogsBeg · 25/05/2019 12:52

I always think the people who do it want others to plead with them to stay on the thread.

Agree it's a passive aggressive snark with a touch of attention seeking thrown in.

The ones I've seen do it either because they are losing the argument, can't back up their claims, or are doing it for attention. I find it very funny when they then come back to the thread.

The most irritating, which has happened a couple of times recently, is when someone comes on to a thread where the subject of the thread is clearly explained in the title and then they announce they are hiding the thread because it's triggering, why open the thread then? Usually this is accompanied with vitriol aimed at the poster who started the thread and those contributing for having the temerity to read and contribute which smacks of censorship.

If I've had enough of a thread I just stop reading and/or posting no need for an announcement.

Sparklingbrook · 25/05/2019 13:08

I always think the people who do it want others to plead with them to stay on the thread.

But most say they are hiding it and immediately hide it, I have never seen anyone try and beg them to stay.

WeBuiltCisCityOnSexistRoles · 25/05/2019 13:11

Clap Grin

Maybe we should start saying "ok whatever. I'm fucking off now" Smile IFON could be a new acronym

I saw someone on another thread (not taking credit myself!) suggest JHFTDM (just here for the deletion message) which I loved

RedDogsBeg · 25/05/2019 13:21

I've never seen anyone beg them to stay but I think it's what they want them to do, but that is probably just me as I see the grand announcement as attention seeking. I've seen quite a few recently who have not hidden the thread immediately as they were still responding several posts later.

ChicCroissant · 25/05/2019 13:40

Love the acronyms!

That's a good point, there are some for whom it's a genuine flounce and they won't go back and there are others for whom it is a bit of attention-seeking and are probably madly refreshing the thread in the hope that someone says 'don't go'!

I agree that you look a bit daft if you go into full-on flounce mode and then keep replying!

bibbitybobbityyhat · 25/05/2019 13:45

Why not? Seems an eminently sensible thing to do if, for example, you're having an argument with one of those posters who never stops to draw breath or who will NOT let it go even if days have passed.

UrsulaPandress · 25/05/2019 13:48

Then go and get the thread deleted. Like the rural parking one. See that has disappeared at the ops request. Never used to be like that.

WeBuiltCisCityOnSexistRoles · 25/05/2019 13:55

I'm thinking about just random posters on the thread not the OP, I just realised. Yes, it's different if the OP does it. It's a bit toys out of the pram then.

Ursula it really didn't, did it? No one seemed to have "privacy concerns" in the old days

DDIJ · 25/05/2019 13:59

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Sparklingbrook · 25/05/2019 14:25

Why shouldn't there be a Hide Thread option DDIJ?

Hide Thread and Hide Topic functions make the MN experience so much better.

Teateaandmoretea · 25/05/2019 14:38

I hide threads when I start falling into the trap of arguing with stupid. I don't announce it though I just move on.....

bibbitybobbityyhat · 25/05/2019 14:38

I think some privacy concerns are perfectly legit - have you read any of the gutter press recently? A Mumsnet thread appears somewhere or other most days.

Scratching head as to why Hide Thread shouldn't be an option except on SN boards? Can't see any logic there.

ShirleyPhallus · 25/05/2019 16:19

There shouldn't be the option to hide threads except in the SN sections.

Why on earth not?! I spend more time hiding threads than I do clicking on them

Zero interest in pregnancy, baby due threads, brave babes, the word game threads, anything relating to trans, most of the feminism chats, anything related to most TV shows.... the list goes on and on

bibbitybobbityyhat · 25/05/2019 19:19

Only 3 comments on this thread from you @BertrandRussell? That's unusual!

magicBrenda · 25/05/2019 19:23

People will hide it so it doesn’t appear on threads ‘I’m on’ whilst they are still on line. You can still see the last posts.

I only wish I could hide posters....

limitedperiodonly · 26/05/2019 12:27

It's mildly irritating but you haven't mentioned another really annoying habit beloved of some posters, which is to start a debate and then withdraw to watch us all commenting like we are white rats in their personal laboratory.

That really gets on my tits. What do you think, BertrandRussell?

DameDoom · 26/05/2019 12:51

If you hide a thread there must be an overwhelming desire to look - like Christmas presents when you're a child?

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BertrandRussell · 26/05/2019 18:26

I tend to post only when I think I’ve got something to say- surprising though some people might find this! And there seem only to be two points of view-a) it’s a perfectly reasonable thing to do and b) ir’s often making a point in a passive aggressive way. So not much for me to say!

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Gertie75 · 26/05/2019 18:54

I imagine those who announce they are hiding the thread are the same people who put FB statuses such as "Can't believe this keeps happening to me" then don't elaborate or 'check in' at the local A&E.

gamerwidow · 26/05/2019 18:59

I hide 'em but don't tell. And I don't relook.
So all the frothing berserkers can carry on fruitlessly sullying my good name. Bwa ha HA.

I do this to save me from myself. There gets a point sometimes when I think ‘why on earth am I letting myself get this wound up’? So I hide it and forget about it.

Teateaandmoretea · 26/05/2019 19:04

Exactly that gamer, I'm not getting drawn into arguments online.

In terms of If you hide a thread there must be an overwhelming desire to look - like Christmas presents when you're a child? nope its when I let it go....

Sparklingbrook · 26/05/2019 19:14

I have never gone back to a hidden thread. I forget all about it. I hid it for a reason!

I do think if you start a thread asking a question it's the norm to comment on what people have said though and chat about it. Isn't that why you start a thread?

SpeckofStardust · 26/05/2019 19:31

I don’t hide threads, I don’t announce I’m leaving either, don’t see the point, I just leave. Sooner or later they’re all going to sink down the list and over the page anyway. I don’t imagine anyone much cares whether I stay or go and, for my own part, if they’re the dog-with-a-bone types or argumentative for the sake of it, I don’t much care if they do care.

limitedperiodonly · 26/05/2019 23:14

I tend to post only when I think I’ve got something to say- surprising though some people might find this! And there seem only to be two points of view-a) it’s a perfectly reasonable thing to do and b) ir’s often making a point in a passive aggressive way. So not much for me to say!

You forgot (c) I come back after several hours but never directly never address my critics BarteredEnd

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