Fuck fuck fuck I thought my IUD had shifted but I'm fucking pregnant and it might be ectopic

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I thought my IUD had shifted from a bad coughing fit and I was getting bad crampy pains so I went to the hospital. They did a test and I'm fucking pregnant. And it might be ectopic. Fuck fuck fuck. I only had my period two weeks ago. This doesn't make any sense. DH is at home with our DC and I don't know whether to call him. Fuck.

I've had the shock of my life. I'm shaking.

I know the dangers, yes. I've been strictly advised by both the EPU and my retired doctor DM to quicksmart it to A&E if I have any pain.

Have also told my boss I won't be in Tuesday.

I do hope everything works out for the best whatever that may be for you x x

Oh, op. I’m so very sorry you are going through this. My 17 yr old daughter had an ectopic pregnancy with an IUD in place. It was a scary and stressful time. I hope you get answers very soon💐

Aww this sounds scary and confusing at the same time. Not a good combo. Try to think about the immediate future of looking after yourself and finding out if it's eptopic. Then talk about what you want to do if it is a viable pregnancy. There's probably little point trying to make decisions when you have had this shock and don't know what's going on. Take care and keep us updated

Op I had an ectopic years ago so only have one tube now.

Then 9 years ago I couldn’t feel my thread from my IUD and my period was late. Test was positive and GP sent me to EPU for testing. No sign of baby and coil in the right place.

Went back for 48hr bloods and an early scan the next week. DD is now 9 years old!

I had extreme pain early on in my pregnancy with DS2, obviously it wasn't ectopic but he was as close as it could be without being it.

When do you have to go back?
Any idea when you would have ovulated this cycle?

Hate to point it out but hcg is higher earlier if there’s more than one embryo, and ectopics have variable hcg levels, so there are reasons why hcg can be unreliable. I hope you get answers soon

Hey thanks to everyone who commented yesterday while I was at the hospital freaking the fuck out. It's so valuable having someone in your pocket that you can talk to when you're not yet sure if you can bring your DH in. I just really didn't want to tell him something so big over the phone with the kids gambolling all over him, and I didn't want him to feel torn about wanting to be there when he really couldn't.

So I'm calm today and we're focusing on finding out whether the pregnancy is ectopic or not. There are of course a million what-ifs swirling around in my head and I feel ambivalent at best about the prospect of a viable pregnancy, but trying to delay those thoughts until I need to think them.

From looking at my Fitbit data and a few other things (including when DH was away) I reckon I'm just about 5 weeks pregnant and that I somehow contrived to conceive both two days before my period, and with an IUD in situ. What can the odds conceivably (hah) be on that? My cycle has always been regular and, though I've always conceived quickly when we've tried, DH and I have never had so much as a serious scare when using contraception in 15 years together. I guess somebody had to be the tiny fraction of a percent who get pregnant with a coil in the right place, but I never thought it would be me..?

Oh and I'm going back tomorrow for more bloods, and EPU are re-scanning me on Tues morning.

The bloods will be because generally HCG levels are much higher with ectopic pregnancies. They’ll be watching to see what they do.
DD1 was suspected ectopic, so much so that they took me into surgery to remove the tube. Only to find she was in the right place.
The uncertainty is exhausting, look after yourself xx

I had an ectopic with Mirena in place. Iirc it was about 8 weeks in when it was discovered by ultrasound. I had methotrexate to treat it which was very unpleasant. Fingers crossed for you OP

That sounds unbelievably stressful. I hope you’re ok. Did your DH come to the hospital to be with you?

He didn't end up coming to hospital, no. I was dealt with very quickly after the pregnancy test turned up positive and by the time I was able to call him I was just waiting for blood tests - I would have been finished and home by the time he could get there even if he brought the kids.

So sorry to hear this OP I hope everything turns out ok and that you're able to make any decision you want to make

How did the blood test go today, OP? How are you feeling?

Blood test done, but hospital never called with results as promised, so no further insight. I did spend a significant chunk of the afternoon getting diagnosed with a(nother) chest infection, and realising that I really need to get properly signed off work, because the stress and physical health issues I have already are a challenge.

I really don't know what I'm going to do. If it's ectopic or I'm already miscarrying it will obviously be pretty horrible, but there'll be no decision to be made. If it turns out to be a viable pregnancy... I don't know. I really did not want another baby, certainly not right now when job and finances are not good. But as we all know, ending a pregnancy that is already there is very different to choosing not to try for one...

Thanks for thinking about me.

That’s so frustrating, can you call today for the results? Either way, you’ll know for sure tomorrow.

If it does turn out to be a viable pregnancy, don’t put pressure on yourself - you have time to process it and make a decision once the shock has worn off a bit.

Hope your chest infection clears up!

Thinking of you, OP.

No luck calling hospital for results. "They'll call you... At some point..."

Thinking of you.

In my 3xperience, if they fear or suspect an ectopic from the bloodwork, you'd have had a call pretty quickly.
Hopefully, in this case, no news is good news (I wouldnt wish the 3 weeks post my ectopic on anyone).

Thanks SunshineSpring, I did think that if the HCG change was indicative of ectopic they'd be more likely to call, but obviously j won't actually be able to relax until I have a bit more info. Not having the best day really, the chest infection's given me quite a high temp and I've had to leave the DC with DH and go to bed.

Hope you get some answers soon OP

Have started to bleed a bit, so all of this may yet be moot.

DH and I have talked and he definitely doesn't want another child, but would stick by us all and love us if I chose to continue the pregnancy.

Hope I at least find out a bit more this morning.