Fuck fuck fuck I thought my IUD had shifted but I'm fucking pregnant and it might be ectopic

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I thought my IUD had shifted from a bad coughing fit and I was getting bad crampy pains so I went to the hospital. They did a test and I'm fucking pregnant. And it might be ectopic. Fuck fuck fuck. I only had my period two weeks ago. This doesn't make any sense. DH is at home with our DC and I don't know whether to call him. Fuck.

I've had the shock of my life. I'm shaking.

Sometimes you can have periods when pregnant ... how are you now?
You need to call your husband ... you need his support, you have done nothing wrong and this is a huge thing x x

Oh dear, that must be a shock. Sorry to hear that. At least you're in the right place.

I'm sitting in A&E waiting to be seen by gynae. I just don't know whether to call him until I know more. He will want to come and there's nobody who can easily take the DC.

Also he really doesn't want a 3rd child. And after some complex feelings neither do I. I'm also reasonably sure that my IUD is still in there. I just don't know what's going on.

Have you got any idea what the waiting time is op? If it's going to be a while you could do with some support.

Let your husband worry about child care cover, you need to let him know, you need his support either in person or over the phone.
Honestly call him let him decide / make plans if he wants to come over x x

Given that this has happened you’re in the right place. I’m so sorry it has happened. Have a deeply unMN virtual hug.

How stressful op. This is obviously a shock, so try and give yourself some time to adjust before making decisions about how to proceed.
Do you have anyone else who could be with you ? Because you may need surgery, and so would need basic supplies and some emotional support.
I hope you get seen quickly.

Got scanned, fortunately very quickly. IUD still there. No sign of a pregnancy anywhere, so 48hr blood tests. I had them take my IUD out anyway which has relieved the cramping a lot.

Just totally befuddled. I called DH. I don't know if I'm pregnant or miscarrying or ectopic and I don't really know how to feel about any of the above.

This happened to me OP, my IUD was dislodged during a pelvic exam though. Pregnancy turned out not to be ectopic but it was very nerve wracking waiting in emergency for the scan results.
I was later told most IUD pregnancies are not ectopic.

How weird that the test was positive but no sign at all. Could anyone explain why that might be ? Also why the IUD would be causing cramping ?
I hope you get a clearer picture soon.

They were pretty bloody sceptical about the IUD, but I knew it just didn't feel right and it was an immediate relief when they pulled it. It was apparently in a slightly weird position.

They said it might just be very early, but the timing still doesn't make sense to me, nor why I would get two apparently very clear positives on the crappy cheap tests they use in hospital.

My job is super stressful and pay is not that great, and I'm trying to change jobs, I'm actually quite advanced in the hiring process with several, but if I change now no maternity pay. Fuck fuck fuck.

What a worrying and stressful time for you.

You don't have to continue with a pregnancy if you don't want to.

I hope you have some answers soon. Glad the pain has eased a bit.

Well. There goes the hope that a GP doesn't know how to read a two pregnancy tests.

I had checks for ectopic. I was also very early on, they repeat bloods, to check that HCG levels are doubling daily. If they are, then it's not ectopic. I know I couldn't fly though while they were testing for it - just in case you've any flights booked or anything.

Have you spoken to DH yet? As you're so early on, you've every option open to you.

Ohh I know how scary this is it happened to me 15 months ago. Sadly I did miscarry although at the time it was probably for the best as we were not at a point we wanted another child. Sending you hugs x

Is it possible you’ve already lost the pregnancy but still have residual hormones?

Could you have been pregnant longer than two weeks?

An early scan wouldn't show any sign of pregnancy.

HCG just came back at 1,450.

And have spoken to DH. He's... Worried about me, mostly. I think we're putting off worrying about anything else until we find out whether this is a baby or a life-threatening bodily misfire.

Ye first things first. I'm sure the gynae explained the dangers to your life if it is ectopic?

So around 4-5 weeks possibly

How worrying this must be. Hope you get answers soon op
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Oh OP how scary for you, I do hope your ok