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The cutting play date guest 🙄

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Ledkr · 17/05/2019 21:31

Anyone else has one of these?
Over the years I've had many.
Todays 7 year old.

Your house is MUCH smaller than ours.

Don't you have a piano?

Why is the basin so small in here (downstairs loo)

I felt quite judged. 😂

She did at least eat what I have her which is unusual.

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UnicornBrexit · 17/05/2019 21:35

A 5yo who looked me square in the eye and said "you're not very rich are you?"

She's grown up to be a lovely 30 year old !

Popskipiekin · 17/05/2019 21:36

Oh I dread this. Only at 4 years old right now, boys, and they get stuck into playing mostly, but I’ve been asked where the rest of our garden is... Just breezily use it as an opportunity to educate I guess (“oh people’s homes come in all shapes and sizes!”) and push on till pickup time.

ALemonyPea · 17/05/2019 21:38

Yes!

I watched a friends two children (4+6) as a favour so she could go visit her DH in hospital. They commented several times how messy my house was (it wasn't) and when their mum came to pick them up, one of them commented "be careful where you stand, the floor is very messy"

I have a clean home, the only messy things on the floor where the toys they'd been playing with. Never invited them back around after that.

Summerorjustmaybe · 17/05/2019 21:39

'These socks are brand new, you need to stitch them now'.. .
Clicked on our shabby stair carpet with poking through grippers!
He was 9!!

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Ledkr · 17/05/2019 21:43

Haha. In glad it's not just me.
She was mostly ignoring poor DD and rooting through her stuff.
Me and DD ended up playing a game at the kitchen table whilst rolling our eyes.

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Stuckforthefourthtime · 17/05/2019 21:50

Oh god yes!

Recent classics including the 8 year old who helpfully told me that his mum thinks blinds always look cheap, and the (actually quite sweet) 5 year old who said comfortingly to me "don't worry, the boys can always borrow some of our things, we have LOTS of toys" (we are drowning in the stuff here, maybe she missed the shelves full of the stuff). Also "at home I do like potatoes, but that's because my mum cooks nice ones".

I dread to think what my own DCs do at other people's houses....Confused

DelusionalDog · 17/05/2019 22:18

my (then) 4 year old DD told a friends mother during a playdate "do you not get much time to clean?" Blush. i was mortified.

Summerorjustmaybe · 17/05/2019 22:24

Ds told our neighbours (about their goldfish) that I thought fish were boring things that swam around with poo hanging out their bums!!
I confess I did say it.
Guilty...

bullyingadvice2017 · 17/05/2019 22:42

One quite well to do friend of my dd 12. As we pulled up at home for a sleepover.
" eww I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to sleep here. People kill themselves in terraced houses."

Honestly I was speechless

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Ledkr · 17/05/2019 22:44

Oh my goodness bullying what did you say?
These kids just hear some of this stuff surely

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MsMustDoBetter · 17/05/2019 22:48

*People kill themselves in terraced houses
*
I am speechless!

bullyingadvice2017 · 17/05/2019 23:25

I told her that is a very rude thing to say and that she sounds ignorant and very stuck up. This is not how to make friends.
She has had a very privileged life and gone thru the best private school in the area. Obviously manners are not high on the agenda!
She won't be having a return visit.

Dd has been to her very posh high walled house in the countryside. Stables and staff.
She said it was so posh you felt like you couldn't relax as it was like being in a show home. I am confident this friend will not last long.

DishingOutDone · 18/05/2019 00:16

Just a few I can think of, more will come to me though:

7 year old boy first time coming to my house with his mum, walked in, through two rooms and announced "Mum! Its DIRTY!" - Mum replied "Its not dirty, it's just ... different" ....!!!

Few years ago when it was all the rage, 5 year old asking to go home as we didn't have a Wii. Same child refused to wash her hands before dinner as we didn't have a downstairs cloakroom.

Yabbers · 18/05/2019 00:54

I had the opposite. Sister of DDs friend came to join them on a play date and wandered round, wide eyed saying “you have so much space” Her house isn’t tiny it’s just there are 5 of them in it and only 3 in ours.

MrsPinkCup · 18/05/2019 01:29

My sons friend "our fireplace is the same as yours but it doesn't have dust on it" 😂

MrsDrSpencerReid · 18/05/2019 01:51

A friend of 7yo (at the time) DS walked into our house and exclaimed “Oh my GOD, this place is a MESS!”
I’d done a big tidy before he came round Blush

The terraced houses one is Shock

Expressedways · 18/05/2019 01:54

My aunt had a child that took it upon himself to bring his swimming trunks, change into them and then ask if the pool was inside or outside (spoiler alert: there was no pool).

TinselAndKnickers · 18/05/2019 02:00

At the time when my little brother was 9, his friend came round and wouldn't drink water because it wasn't Evian. Wouldn't drink squash because it wasn't Robinson's. Wouldn't drink the lemonade as it wasn't a "good one".

Then had the cheek to tell his mum we'd forced him to go without a drink Hmm

Mumsymumphy · 18/05/2019 02:17

How the other half live hey! 🤣

These comments remind me of the Catherine Tate 'yo-gurt' sketches! Sounds like there really is people like that that walk amongst us.

I remember when my eldest was little and made a new friend at drama class. It appeared the friend's well-to-do dad was sussing us out by asking her if we played chess at home (we didn't - shock, horror!) I said "No but I play a mean game of draughts!"

Sobeyondthehills · 18/05/2019 02:39

DS has a friend, he is an amazing little boy, I think he is on the spectrum, but I have never had "the" conversation with his parents cause really its non of my business.

At aged 4 he corrected my grammar

I am not sure whether it was bad he was right or the fact he corrected me. At that age I left it

Theclearing · 18/05/2019 02:48

Picked one up the other day who announced on departure from his, ‘I live in a SUPER BIG HOUSE. Do YOU live in a SUPER BIG HOUSE?’

No.

He was so rude and bullied and then HIT my three year old!!!!!

Byeeeeee!

beethebee · 18/05/2019 03:03

DS 11 is friends with a delightful but definitely posh boy who's the son of a diplomat. Lives in an official residence that's a bit like a museum and has dozens of staff loitering about.

He loves coming to our (decidedly not posh) little cottage and one day looked around at the 4 dogs and tiny house and unkempt garden and general chaos and just said 'I adore your house, it's so....unrestrained'.

I thought it was sweet.

TheAssemblywomen · 18/05/2019 06:27

people kill themselves in terraced houses Grin

NaturalBornWoman · 18/05/2019 06:32

The mother of one of my children's school friends said 'oh you live in a street'.

iMatter · 18/05/2019 06:36

I took my ds round to a friend's house when he was about 6. To be fair it was quite possibly the messiest house I've ever been in - stuff absolutely everywhere, chaos.

Ds asked his friend"s mum if they had been burgled. Confused

I was mortified.

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