The cutting play date guest 🙄

[Ledkr]

Anyone else has one of these?
Over the years I've had many.
Todays 7 year old.

Your house is MUCH smaller than ours.

Don't you have a piano?

Why is the basin so small in here (downstairs loo)

I felt quite judged. 😂

She did at least eat what I have her which is unusual.

My cousins daughter went to visit our uncle, her great uncle for the first time a few years ago and ran around the house counting the bathrooms (there was 3) and stole a few pieces of toilet roll to bring home to show her dad because it was so soft ! His house isn’t actually that big and is pretty standard for where we live - they don’t live in the same area so was just visiting

Growing up, I had "friends" remark...

"Isn't it funny how all the houses here try and look different to each other when they're all the same?" (Twatty 15 year old boyfriend)

"You could fit 2.5 of your house in my mum and dad's house" supposed school friend.

"God it's a bit rough round here isn't it?" (Friend 1's boyfriend. Friend was wealthy, the boyfriend was from a 'rough' place too. He got told off by friend)

"I didn't realise you lived in the ghetto" (friend 2's boyfriend. He had ASD and no filter and was wealthy. He also got told off)

"I love your house, it's so.....cosy" (friend of friend who is lovely, meaning well and grew up on massive farm)

I remember being a bit embarrassed but also baffled as to why they judged when we all lived with parents still so not really a reflection on us. Also taught me money doesn't buy manners!

Oh god I was that tactless bint once. No excuse though as I was about 19.

Went round the house of a new boyfriend. Long row of terraces with very low fences between the gardens, only maybe 3 feet tall so you could see all the gardens.

Sitting outside in the sun with his mum whilst he got changed and thoughtlessly said “oh what a lovely garden, especially as you can see all the other gardens too!”

She told him later she thought I was too posh for him, which was extra ironic as I grew up in a council house...

As I was growing up my best friend lived close by but in a much bigger house. Through her I was friends with a girl who lived in an even bigger one in a much posher area. Friend 1's dad was solicitor, friend 2's a bank manager. My dad was a head teacher but I was one of 7 kids and we had a standard 3 bed semi, so it was a bit over crowded.

Friend 2 had her own flat in the top of their house from 10.

Friend 1 I am still friends with now and I saw Friend 2 for the first time in nearly 50 years last year.

She said 'I was always jealous of you, Your mum always did things with us and took you places' it was only then I realised how lonely this girl must have been as a kid. In your own flat, except for dinner all the time. She was making her own breakfast and lunch at this time and her parents pretty much ignored her.

From dds 5 year old friend-
"I dont mind at ALL that you're an unmarried mother"

Friend of DD’s came round when they were about 6, we have all wooden floors and they have all carpets
“hopping, can you actually hoover these floors then?”
When I get round to it

Hecateh wow, that gives a perspective doesn't it?

When we were debating a 3rd child a friend said the thing with having more than two is, then you are definitely having kids because you just love having them about.

I once went to the weirdest play date when I was about 7 - the girl and her mother told me I wasn’t allowed to touch any of her toys. She served spaghetti for dinner..... just the pasta, nothing on it at all - no sauce, no butter, no cheese - just spaghetti. Then told me I had to sit in the hall in quiet by myself until my mother came to get me but wouldn’t let me use the phone to get her to come early. They seemed to think it was perfectly normal, and when my mother picked me up, they said “we hope you’ll come back again soon”!! I said “NO THANK YOU” very firmly and got a big telling off from my DM!

I had my daughter's primary school friend come home, walk in the door, straight to the fridge, and go through everything in it, commenting on how nice, or horrid, everything was.

That was weird enough. But when her mother came to collect her, she did exactly the same thing!

4 year old "our door is better than yours". All because she couldn't open the back door as it was locked.

I'm a single parent. The worst was a friend of one DC's saying " but you are not a proper family".

I never understood the attraction of a big house.its just more cleaning to do, isn't it

I never understood the attraction of a big house.its just more cleaning to do, isn't it

Is that from a 5 year old?

You can teach them that it's exactly the opposite, much faster to clean when there's space to move around. Bigger houses are so much easier to maintain and live in.

No, that's from me! 🤣

I'm just surprised by all the kids (and therefore adults) that are concerned by small houses/number of bathrooms.

I would hate to have more than one toilet or anymore M2 floor area

Plus, more Carey/floor covering, more walls to paint, furniture...nah not for me. I'm moving onto a house boat when the kids are gone

I would hate to have more than one toilet
but the queues!
and when you need the urgently!
and the lack of privacy!
and guests using YOUR toilets!

Seriously, I hate small spaces, the bigger the house the better! As I won't ever have the budget to buy Buckingham Palace, I will never be confronted by a house too big for me

@MarniLou Yes my 2 youngest have had this - "you're not brother/sister, you're not even related!" because they (shock, horror) have different surnames. I was livid. My DS was only 6 and genuinely confused, the girl who said it was Year 6 😡 I complained to the school (it had happened at after school club), who dealt with it perfectly. My son was older and a bit 'meh' about it all. I said to my DC, "We all live in the same house, we love and care for each other and THAT's what makes a family, not what your name is!"

My niece once said "do you actually live here?!" we were renovating at the time and to be fair the house was a bit ramshackle!

She also said (quietly to her mum) on another occasion "this room is really messy" I just replied that me and uncle x were grown ups and if we didn't want to tidy we didn't have to. I said we had more fun things to be doing than tidying up

“where’s the rest of your house?”

Not a play date but the child of some friends who had come round to see us. It was a small house and we just found it funny.

That was weird enough. But when her mother came to collect her, she did exactly the same thing!

That’s bonkers! What did you do/say?! I suspect I would have just stood there in stunned silence.

Bit different, but after a birthday party at home my daughters friend, age 8 told me how much fun she'd had 'for a party at home' lol

We've not long ago moved into a house with a massive garden and visited friends who have merely a large (and lovely) garden - my 4 yo commented on how small it was... I did correct him! Going to take pains that he doesn't grow up spoilt, he is very literal though...

That’s bonkers! What did you do/say?! I suspect I would have just stood there in stunned silence.

Cracked up and said, 'like mother like daughter - could you please get your head the hell out of my fridge?!'

The lovely boy who could not go in DDs bedroom because he suffered from claustrophobia and her room was smaller than his wardrobe at home.
'I don't mean to be rude but you are sleeping in a cupboard. I just can't go in there. I'm so sorry'. He was 7.

@bullyingadvice2017 but sure if it's the same mistake but a little boy in my class made just a tiny mistake with the word "terraced" and said how he'd moved into a terrorist house over the summer hols 😳