Update on DS who was abused by a "friend" - TRIGGER WARNING

[MyNewNameForNow]

I posted a couple of weeks ago about DS (early teen) who disclosed sexual abuse. I had promised I wouldn't tell the police when he said "if I tell you sth do you promise...".

Due to the strength of feeling on my post (which I subsequently asked to be removed) i did pursue things, very gently. I won't go into detail but the boy is already known to the police/child services and DS is giving a video interview next week.

I've handled it very carefully with DS and we've talked a lot about how I was wrong to make a promise I potentially couldn't keep. I should have known better given I was a victim of abuse for many years. I didn't tell anyone until I was in my 40s, some 30 years later.

I'm so proud of him.

Thank you all for telling me what I needed and wanted to hear.

I would remove my son ASAP. No question.

Thank you for your replies. I think DS will also suffer from changing schools. He's just found a new friendship group. We live in the burbs and there is another school one mile away and all the kids mix etc. TBH what I really want to do is move from the area, but DS1 starts A Levels in September.

As much as I don’t think it’s your job to move iyswim having the older one start a levels in sept is a good time to move surely as not in an exam series, although a tough time to move. So sorry that this is your reality atm

We've discussed changing schools bit DS says he doesn't want the LS to win.

The college DS1 is starting a separate sixth form with all his friends. We will move from the area once their education is done (and now possibly in 2 years rather than 4). It's not the time to move areas now (we want to move to an adjoining county).