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Dd1 is off school being sick

53 replies

lucysmam · 13/05/2019 08:03

She's 12.

She says she'll be fine alone while I go to work this afternoon (dinner lady then afternoon ta).

I'm going to sort someone to be with her but wondered if, at 12, you'd have left your dc home alone for max 4 hours?

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Stylemebabyonemoretime · 13/05/2019 08:05

I only have a young child but our ewo would not be impressed to find an ill child of 12 on their own.

BillywilliamV · 13/05/2019 08:07

Yeah, lock her in. Tell her how to get out in an emergency, don’t answer door or house phone and leave your number in a prominent place. She’ll be fine.

StealthPolarBear · 13/05/2019 08:08

Is she vomiting

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BillywilliamV · 13/05/2019 08:09

It’s all about risk assessment, what is genuinely likely to happen?

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lucysmam · 13/05/2019 08:09

I'm not leaving her Billy, I'm going to organise someone to be with her! I just wondered if others would have been ok with leaving a 12yo for that length of time. It's a very long time to be alone with no-one else at home.

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AlexaShutUp · 13/05/2019 08:11

I would leave a sensible 12yo for four hours but not when they are ill.

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lucysmam · 13/05/2019 08:11

Stealth she was, earlier this morning. She's got tummy ache at the mo.

Her dad's going to try and get back from work. If he can't then I'll drop her off at Nanna's or my friend's house on my way.

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strongswans · 13/05/2019 08:11

Not when I'll no I wouldn't leave them. Especially if they have been vomiting.

Stylemebabyonemoretime · 13/05/2019 08:12

For a well child it would be fine but not an ill child.

arethereanyleftatall · 13/05/2019 08:14

Your posts don't make sense. Are you leaving her alone, or are you organising someone to be with her?

Gazelda · 13/05/2019 08:16

I would if there will be someone with her.

I wouldn't if she would be alone.
It sure which scenario applies in this case, your post is a little contradictory,

arethereanyleftatall · 13/05/2019 08:16

Sorry, I get it now. Kids were interrupting! As you were.

HypatiaCade · 13/05/2019 08:16

Not while I'll, but you're going to have 2 days when she's fine, but can't return to school, where you could leave her on her own.

StealthPolarBear · 13/05/2019 08:17

I think op was asking theoretically, I'm case it happens again and there is no one I suppose.
I'd not leave her if she was being sick or there was a good chance she would be. Same would apply for an older child too I think

TheRedBarrows · 13/05/2019 08:18

At 12, yes, if she is no longer vomiting.

Aprillygirl · 13/05/2019 08:23

If she was really poorly no,otherwise yes of course.

coffeegrounds · 13/05/2019 08:24

wondered if, at 12, you'd have left your dc home alone for max 4 hours?

Yes. But not if they were unwell.

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lucysmam · 13/05/2019 08:25

Sorry, was on the phone with her dad.

I'm not leaving her today.

I was asking (obviously in a confusing way, sorry Blush ) if folks would be happy to leave a 12 year old home alone for four hours. She has a key, access to mobile and landline, numbers of everyone I could imagine she might need to call, and I only work 15 mins (on foot) away from home. Oh and she's very sensible.

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Drogosnextwife · 13/05/2019 08:27

I would. Leave her things to eat etc and she will be fine.

Schnitzelvonkrumb · 13/05/2019 08:34

Not while I'll, but you're going to have 2 days when she's fine, but can't return to school, where you could leave her on her own

My DDs school has no exclusion rules after d and v.She is 12 and at senior school. I collected her one lunchtime as she was sick. It seemed a one off and she wasfine by the time we got home. I planned to keep her home next day and school called and asked why she wasnt in.

Disfordarkchocolate · 13/05/2019 08:39

She's 12, I would be fine leaving her on her own in those circumstances. It would be different is she had a very high temperature or was mobile.

Springwalk · 13/05/2019 08:41

No I wouldn’t not a sick child ever. She could choke on vomit, deteriorate with fever etc.
I am not sure her nanny or a friend will be the solution. I would not be impressed having a sick bug delivered to my house in the way of your child.

frumpety · 13/05/2019 08:41

If she has stopped actively vomiting and is just feeling a bit off by the time you would be going to work , then yes I would leave her. Duvet, drink, snack and sick bowl on the sofa and a charged phone. She should be fine watching rubbish TV for four hours.

KnifeAngel · 13/05/2019 08:48

Not if they are ill.

bibbitybobbityyhat · 13/05/2019 08:53

I'm sure Nanna or your friend will be delighted to have a contagious child with a vomiting bug left with them for the afternoon Hmm.

Isn't this one of those occasions where you or your dh have to take the day off work to care for an unwell child?