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Kids invited to stay with relatives with unfenced swimming pool... wwyd?

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SkaterGrrrrl · 12/05/2019 20:52

I just feel so uneasy about this! Very close, very dear relatives have invited the kids to sleepover. They have a swimming pool with no fence around it. DC1 can swim, DC2 cannot (despite weekly lessons- they will get there eventually!) Relatives assure us they will supervise, but I'm just getting a 'no' feeling about DC2 around that pool. What would you do?

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horizontalis · 12/05/2019 20:53

How old are the children?

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SkaterGrrrrl · 12/05/2019 20:54

Relatives are loving but a bit...blase.

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SkaterGrrrrl · 12/05/2019 20:56

DC1 is 8 and DC2 is 6.

Six yr old has lessons and is water confident but can't swim yet without a flotation device. Pool is deep and kids cant stand in shallow end.

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queeneye · 12/05/2019 20:57

Is it in the UK?

NuffSaidSam · 12/05/2019 20:57

I think it depends entirely on whether you trust them to supervise and your DC to do as they're told (stay away from the pool).

In general an unfenced pool is fine....as long as they're being adequately supervised.

AuditAngel · 12/05/2019 20:58

How old are the DC?

We stayed with relatives with an unfenced pool, I think 4 years ago, the DC were 4, 8 and 10, all could swim.

We set a rule that the DC could only go in the pool if 5here was an adult in the back garden. It was only on the last but one day that they forgot the rule. I had been sat in the front garden eating my breakfast, so heard them.

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SkaterGrrrrl · 12/05/2019 20:58

Yes, in UK.

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user1493413286 · 12/05/2019 20:58

I don’t think I would to be honest as if you’re getting that feeling now you’ll be an absolute nervous wreck while they’re there

CarolsBiggestFan · 12/05/2019 20:58

It would be a no from me.

NuffSaidSam · 12/05/2019 20:59

Tbh if they're 8 and 6 it's about how well behaved they are? Do you trust them?

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SkaterGrrrrl · 12/05/2019 21:02

I'm not worried he will get in the water all alone ( he is pretty law abiding, so we can lay down that law before the visit). I suppose I'm worried that while he is swimming with the adults/ group, they won't adequately support him. If I take him swimming I stay by his side. Can't tell if I'm being paranoid!

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Starryskiesinthesky · 12/05/2019 21:03

I wouldn't.

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SkaterGrrrrl · 12/05/2019 21:04

Thank you for your replies. I'm not usually so stressy. Just feel like it would only take a minute of inattention for him to go under.

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crophopper · 12/05/2019 21:04

No chance.

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SkaterGrrrrl · 12/05/2019 21:05

What happened auditangel?

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Myneighboursnorlax · 12/05/2019 21:05

If you’re not worried about him going in alone, but are worried about the adults taking him swimming and not supporting him, then really the fact there’s no fence isn’t the problem...

MerryMarigold · 12/05/2019 21:08

I would just wait another year. Not worth risk.

Dermymc · 12/05/2019 21:09

Why would the adults not support him?

The lack of fence isn't the issue here.

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SkaterGrrrrl · 12/05/2019 21:09

"If you’re not worried about him going in alone, but are worried about the adults taking him swimming and not supporting him, then really the fact there’s no fence isn’t the problem..."

Yes that's true. Smile Though lack of fence does hint at a lack of awareness of drowning dangers... they have toddler grandchildren!

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Scanon · 12/05/2019 21:10

No.

Dermymc · 12/05/2019 21:11

Or the lack of fence means they watch kids like a hawk as none of them have drowned /fallen in yet.

Doje · 12/05/2019 21:11

Nope, I wouldn't.

puma84 · 12/05/2019 21:12

I wouldn't

JassyRadlett · 12/05/2019 21:14

Jesus no. Though my view may be coloured by being Australian. Any unfenced pool is seriously irresponsible.

ibuiltahomeforyou · 12/05/2019 21:14

I would ask them to get a floating pool alarm before you go. They are less than £100.

My FIL has a landscaped swimming pool and we asked them to have a safety system fitted because it would have been dangerous to have our young DD there.