What does Family Flowers Only mean?

[BertrandRussell]

Mil’s partner’s funeral is next week, and for various complicated but valid reasons, only my adult dd is able to go. The death notice says family flowers only- does that mean it’s OK to send a wreath or not? We didn’t know him very well but he was a very traditional man and I don’t want to put my foot in it....

Put the donation in an envelope so no one knows how much you have given.

At RC funerals I've been to someone stands with a basket as you are filing out nad people just put envelopes in. Sometimes the church will have pre printed envelopes and you can fill in details so the charity can claim back tax.

If you do send flowers I know several people with bad experience of inter flora, I've had nice flowers by calling a local, to the bereaved family, florist and talking through options.

The last one I sent was delivered before the funeral just saying I was sorry I couldn't attend and that I would be thinking of the family that day.

The florist had the idea of putting the flowers in a, I can't remember what it's called, but the cellophane wrapping the flowers is made into a vase and water put in. As the florist said, "They'll have enough to do without finding a vase".