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Putting notes through door of street I want to buy in...

64 replies

ParkingIInPlainSight · 08/05/2019 11:19

Is this a mad idea. What would you think if you got one of these.

How much detail would you give?

Would you just say if you are thinking of moving please get in touch or more detail?

We've had an offer, can be flexible about moving. The street is nice with gardens and period properties. We would be cash/almost cash buyers with no chain.

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Damntheman · 08/05/2019 13:15

@Catchingbentcoppers I genuinely don't understand your need to belittle my opinion. I already agreed it was the minority. It's fine to be okay with this note pushing, it's also fine to not be okay with it. What on earth makes you think it's alright to mock a person for having a differing opinion? That was really crass and cruel.

ThanksItHasPockets · 08/05/2019 13:18

What exactly is an ‘almost cash buyer’?

CharlyAngelic · 08/05/2019 13:18

Ms K Alsopp did recommend it on tv .

PCohle · 08/05/2019 13:19

Catching just said that there was a "touch of the dramatic" about your perspective Damntheman. Calling that "really crass and cruel" seems ... a touch dramatic.

Catchingbentcoppers · 08/05/2019 13:19

@Damntheman. Wow. I'm a little shocked. Can you explain which part of my post was crass and cruel please?

LoafofSellotape · 08/05/2019 13:37

Damntheman peering through your windows? Give over Hmm

WeepingWillowWeepingWino · 08/05/2019 13:43

I do know of someone who scoped out the house opposite from their friends' house. They did buy this house but the then owners (who I know) felt really freaked out when they realised how much this couple had been scutinizing their house over a number of months.

I also know a couple whose house was watched and repeatedly burgled whenever they travelled and the neighbours were out.

I can understand why some people find this idea rather invasive.

Damntheman · 08/05/2019 13:46

I already did Bent. Mocking me was cruel and crass.

Damntheman · 08/05/2019 13:48

Thank you WeepingWillow! It might be a minority response to this kind of thing, but it's certainly not unheard of and neither is it invalid. Dismissing someone's valid opinion just because it doesn't align with your own is a really nasty thing to do.

Essentially OP, sure send your note. It might upset the owners, it might not. If it doesn't upset them you might get what you wanted! If it does upset them you'll likely never know.

Original poster
ParkingIInPlainSight · 08/05/2019 13:50

Hiya

Yep it's a whole street rather than a particular house! I've not been peering in anyone's windows.

And yes, in a position to proceed with buying, far better than almost cash buyer - point well and truly taken with that one.

I'll phrase it politely!

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Catchingbentcoppers · 08/05/2019 13:57

I already did Bent. Mocking me was cruel and crass.

No, you didn't. Where am I 'mocking' you @Damntheman. I think using the terms 'cruel and crass' to describe my post is very unfair. If you are going to accuse me of such unpleasantness, you could at least have the decency to explain what you mean.

Damntheman · 08/05/2019 14:00

I would have thought my meaning was perfectly clear, but if you're insistant on being obtuse alright, I'll bite. Calling my very valid opinion 'dramatic' was undermining it and mocking me. This was crass. You're either not understanding what is and is not okay in polite conversation, or you're just not being a very pleasant person.

cottonwoolmouth · 08/05/2019 14:05

I wanted to do this but DH said it was a crazy idea!

I’m going to go for it now. I’m renting in a beautiful area and no fucker puts their house up! Grin

PCohle · 08/05/2019 14:05

Jesus, literally nothing could have confirmed that you are in fact wildly overdramatic more than claiming someone saying your opinion has "a touch of the dramatic" is "crass and cruel" and "mocking you".

Are you familiar at all with irony?

Catchingbentcoppers · 08/05/2019 14:06

@Damntheman. Good grief. GrinGrin Talk about hyperbole ...

Damntheman · 08/05/2019 14:08

Cohle I am admittedly struggling to see where the proof of my wild dramatics lie in calling out unpleasant behaviour in a calm and rational fashion.

Catchingbentcoppers · 08/05/2019 14:08

Thanks @PCohle, I was beginning to think I'd stumbled into a parallel universe there. Grin

Damntheman · 08/05/2019 14:08

Catching - unpleasant person it is then. I see no point in engaging with you further.

Lou573 · 08/05/2019 14:12

Can I just ask how you come up with a price if you bypass estate agents? I suppose if there’s a lot of comparables it would be easy enough, but if not?

PCohle · 08/05/2019 14:13

Because calling someone's opinion a bit dramatic isn't cruel or crass or mocking them. So you are not being "calm and rational" you are wildly overreacting. In the manner of a very dramatic person.

Catchingbentcoppers · 08/05/2019 14:14

Catching - unpleasant person it is then. I see no point in engaging with you further.

Please don't @Damntheman, this is by far the oddest interaction I've ever had in the past 14 years on this site, so that's just dandy with me.

PCohle · 08/05/2019 14:17

Can I just ask how you come up with a price if you bypass estate agents?

For me that's the issue with the idea as a home owner. I'd be very reluctant to sell "off market", and in fact had a relative who did so and really lost out.

I think I'd only be willing to do so at a decent premium to what I thought the market price was. I suppose the idea is that if a purchaser is leafletting you then they must really love the house and would be willing to pay above the going rate.

stucknoue · 08/05/2019 14:21

Can work but you can't put cash buyer unless you actually have the cash in the bank - if you are selling a property you are in a chain.

Dandelion1993 · 08/05/2019 14:23

I get notes like this every bloody week and it angers me.

This is my home. If I want to move and sell then you'll see a sale sign outside.

Catchingbentcoppers · 08/05/2019 14:31

When we bought ours, the sellers had their own valuation done and of course our surveyor valued the property too. We probably paid a little over the odds for ours at the time (almost 15 years ago) but we knew it was what we wanted and we had/have no plans to move.

I think these kind of situations can work only if all parties are honest and transparent.