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handhold please - waiting for DH urology consult

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Divorcingjack80 · 02/05/2019 09:13

I’m not a new poster but have name changed for this. I have approx 4.5 hours to get through before we go to find out what the lump on my DH testicle is. He had an ultrasound yesterday and all the technician said was “that doesn’t look right, you shouldn’t have waited 3 weeks for the appt, we should have seen you that day, it’s very serious.” Which scared the living daylights out of us, and was not tremendously helpful, seeing as the GP wrote “urgent, urgent” all over the request. We are seeing the urology consultant. I’m more scared than I’ve ever been and feel like crying, puking and running away all at once but trying to hold it together for him. I don’t know how I’m going to get through this morning.

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justforthis7 · 02/05/2019 09:28

How awful for you both OP Thanks And terrible you had to wait so long! When is the consult? How is your DP doing?

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Divorcingjack80 · 02/05/2019 09:32

It’s just after lunch. He’s very quiet, his head is all over the place. He’s not going to work this morning but is out distracting himself I think. I can’t even think about it without sobbing so we haven’t really talked about it apart from joking via text. I think we have both googled a lot and I have a list of questions for the consultant. I just can’t stop playing out scenarios in my head.

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Weenurse · 02/05/2019 09:35

I hope you get answers today and a clear plan going forward.💐

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HollowTalk · 02/05/2019 09:35

I hope everything goes well. It wasn't exactly helpful, what that technician said, was it? At least he will be seen today and if he needs any treatment it'll start quickly. Best of luck.

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Divorcingjack80 · 02/05/2019 09:42

Thanks all. Does anyone have any experience of testicular cancer? He was coughing last night and I couldn’t stop thinking about the cough he had a few months ago that just wouldn’t go away and then I couldn’t stop thinking that it had spread all over the place. I just wish I could switch my brain off.

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BlackPrism · 02/05/2019 09:44

On the plus side, testicular cancer is one of the most treatable cancers - 98% live at least 5 years after diagnosis which is a huge percentage.
It could also be a gross gristle lump Grin

Mintandthyme · 02/05/2019 09:47

My best friends brother had testicular cancer aged 29. He is now 45.

ReganSomerset · 02/05/2019 09:48

Handhold for you, OP. Thinking of you and hoping for the best news possible. x

NewYoiker · 02/05/2019 09:49

Good luck it is very treatable if it is cancer. Even if it's spread.

Windygate · 02/05/2019 09:51

Giving you a virtual handhold. My DH has been through something similar.

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Divorcingjack80 · 02/05/2019 10:00

Thank you all so much, this has made me cry too! I know in my head that if it is cancer that it is the “best” kind to have but it’s just so bloody terrifying. We’ve not had to deal with something like this before. I feel like I’d cope much better if it was me, because he’s always been my rock, so what the bloody hell do I do?!

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Divorcingjack80 · 02/05/2019 10:01

What questions should I ask - I’m taking a notebook so I can write everything down but is there anything I shouldn’t miss?

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Prequelle · 02/05/2019 10:01

Hand holding. I hope everything is going to be okay

DontCallMeShitley · 02/05/2019 10:05

If this is any help I knew someone that had one testicle removed and was fine, and someone else who thought he had cancer and the lump turned out to be a cyst.

I know there is no point saying try not to worry, because you will anyway, but try to look on the bright side if you can, and hopefully it will not be as bad as you think.

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Divorcingjack80 · 02/05/2019 10:12

Dontcallmeshitley, that’s pretty much the only thing he’s said “I think they’re going to cut my ball off”. I said that he’s got the rest of his life to look forward to “one bollock” jokes from his friends and family then. FFS I’d let them cut my leg off if it would help.

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Fruityfruitcake · 02/05/2019 11:19

Oh love I can't imagine what you're going through. Not practical advice but it is possible to get prosthetic balls! Also if you don't have children yet find out about freezing his sperm if you would like them in the future.

derxa · 02/05/2019 12:25

Flowers Having just had a DH in hospital I can sympathise. i have no medical knowledge about this I won't give any info. It's the horrible shock though. The problem has been picked up now. Good wishes to you both.

Chimpfield · 02/05/2019 12:47

Thinking of you both x

sunshinefinally · 02/05/2019 12:49

Thinking of you both OP

Kez200 · 02/05/2019 13:08

Thinking of you. I know someone who had treatment for testicular age mid 30s and is now in his 50s. Thinking of you today x

foreverhanging · 02/05/2019 13:19

Hope it goes ok op

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Divorcingjack80 · 02/05/2019 13:20

Waiting for the consultant now

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PointlessUsername · 02/05/2019 13:23

Good Luck Flowers

BlackeyedGruesome · 02/05/2019 13:24

Good luck.

PerpendicularVincent · 02/05/2019 13:32

I hope all goes well and your DH is ok Flowers