Do you tidy your teenagers bedroom ?

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If it gets to the point where the mess/dirt/smell etc is affecting other members of the family?

I’d left it and left it. Things got to the point where it was foul it was becoming a health hazard. Spent HOURS and less than 24 hours later it’s a mess again what am I meant to do. This was the first time I’d given in but I was genuinely worried for the rest of the family as it was disgusting not to mention I don’t want a whole room / carpet/ furniture etc ruined so had to intervene

I go in most school mornings to take away any cups or food and put up the blinds. In the school holidays, they do it themselves.

I have friends whose dd was like yours OP. They told her that she had 2 weeks to clean it up - if it wasn't clean then, they would pack up everything, put it in storage (they have a storage unit) and she would have to pay to get it back. it worked.

My dd has autism as well and would find it overwhelming if there was a big mess that she had to clear up. She keeps it tidy because she has routines for the few jobs she has to do. Can you give her a timetable of when certain jobs are expected so daily she needs to empty her bin and put all dirty clothes in laundry basket. Twice weekly she needs to put clean clothes away, weekly she needs to change bedding, hoover and dust surfaces. Perhaps if you did it together until she gets in the routine it might help.

Mine have to tidy up at the end of every day. It might sound harsh but it’s not really as it pretty much just means put dirty clothes in the laundry bin and hang up blazers and jumpers if being worn again, towels hung up dry.
No food upstairs and they’re hardly playing with Lego or toys at this age.

Circe you made me at the remove their door threat/promise.
DD1 kept her bedroom at home pretty clean and tidy - forgot how to at Uni.

DD2 - hopeless from the time she could get toys to play with. Even worse at Uni.

No threats ever worked.

Both now in 30s and very houseproud.

My teen with ASD has a PECs board just for weekend tasks, which included, tidying and hoovering his room. He is totally verbal and intelligent, but the PECs board was a shocking help. I think tidy your room, is too big a task, each part separately is manageable. It took a few weeks to keep reinforcing the jobs, but we got there, and now, although there is plenty of arguing and begging not to do it, he does actually get on and do it. Because it is weekly, it never gets to total pig-sty situation either. Now if I could find a way to work with my pre-teen boy, then I would be happy!!!!