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If you said to your dh this period is making me feel awful, what would he reply

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Lardlizard · 28/04/2019 23:29

Mine just goes mmmmmm

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TheTreeHearsYourSecret · 29/04/2019 08:22

Mine would help me put the TENs machine pads on my back (I have endometriosis) get me a snickers bar from the stash, bring me a cup of tea and any pain meds.

My sons are 16 and 13 and if Dh isn't here they do the same. They understand it is painful, they have even run me a bath before.

We all look after each other. Caring for someone shows how much they mean to you.

I have been married 20 years. My MIL was an amazing woman and raised her son to be kind and considerate.

SeaViewBliss · 29/04/2019 08:23

Most days he would ask if I needed anything and give me a hug. Some days if he’s a bit distracted I might get an ‘oh dear’ non reaction.

AwdBovril · 29/04/2019 08:26

Bath, brew, hot water bottle, bed or snuggle up on the sofa. He would probably do housework if it needed doing, & would probably go out to buy me chocolate & something delicious for dinner.

BertieBotts · 29/04/2019 08:27

Would make a sympathetic noise and suggest running a bath/a back rub. He thinks baths cure everything :o Actually he'd probably run around doing the labour exercises in an exaggerated fashion and ask "Does this help?" unless it seemed to annoy me, then he'd stop.

cushioncovers · 29/04/2019 08:32

Mine (exh)would of said 'have you taken any paracetamol? And then said we'll go and lie down for a bit'

PregnantSea · 29/04/2019 08:33

I moan so much to my DH when I'm on my period lol. He's always sympathetic and gives me a cuddle and brings me a little hot water bottle. He'll usually offer to go to the shop for chocolate as well.

It goes both ways though - if he's sick I look after him.

QueenofallIsee · 29/04/2019 08:37

He would buy me what I needed, bring me drinks and food, encourage me to lie down and cuddle me lots...he is a lovely, caring person.

SleepingStandingUp · 29/04/2019 08:38

Tbf OP he was concentrating on work, you came in said your periods were shit and he was working so not paying full attention. You exoe Ted him to immediately drop work to run your back which he wouldn't know would help unless you told him.
Try asking for what you want

cakecakecheese · 29/04/2019 08:38

He says nice things and cuddles me.

My ex said it was 'self inflicted' as I'd been out the weekend before it started. Pillock.

MitziK · 29/04/2019 08:39

He wouldn't say much, but would provide a cup of tea, a glass of water and two paracetamol and then poke about my lower back, sacrum and hips until the feeling that my pelvis was trying to leave my body from the back and my uterus was attempting to crawl out over my pubic bone eased for a while as I bitched incessantly about how pointless it was to be infertile and still have periods and how fucking long is it until menopause, interspersed with yelps as he found a particularly tender spot.

SleepingStandingUp · 29/04/2019 08:40

How are so many of you married to assholes and seem to have no problem with it? You talk like it's so normal their response... it's really quite sad

This.

If you tell your partner you're in pain and he literally ignores you, or counters back with how he's much worse off, that isn't healthy. Please think about how you deserve more

lastqueenofscotland · 29/04/2019 08:42

He would give me a hug and offer to get me some drugs or something sweet to eat

NCbilliontimes · 29/04/2019 08:43

Mines pretty good really. I give him a heads up a few days in advance so if I’m crying or want to throw up when I open the fridge then he knows why. He’s been even better since the DCs were born, he understands what hormones do to me now after seeing me pregnant.
Don’t think he’d do anything out of the ordinary, but if I needed painkillers or chocolate he’d go get them, no matter what hour.

SoupDragon · 29/04/2019 08:44

He could at least rub my lower back

Does he know this would help and is what you'd like? I would hate anyone to touch me!

I agree he could have shown more sympathy mind you. No point him offering painkillers etc this time given he doesn't appear to have been there though. I'm guessing he's always unsympathetic.

PetrichorRain · 29/04/2019 08:47

He’d say ‘Poor you! Can I get you anything, darling?’

findingmyfeet12 · 29/04/2019 08:49

I usually get sympathy, offered a cup of tea and offers to sort dinner (I usually do all the cooking as he doesn't get home until it's too late to start cooking),

FrenchFancie · 29/04/2019 08:51

I’d get:
‘Oh. Is there anything you can do about it?’

It’s not that he lacks sympathy as such, he just doesn’t get periods - he’s one of three boys and, as far as I can tell, my MIL never had periods when they were growing up as they were never mentioned at all.

OurChristmasMiracle · 29/04/2019 08:53

Mine would ask me if I had taken any painkillers and whether I had my tens machine on me. (He knows this is the one thing that helps when painkillers have little to no effect) he would ask if I was actually well enough to be at work and tell me to rest up baby, and let him know if I need anything.

He’s a good man and knows what makes me feel better.

bellinisurge · 29/04/2019 09:05

"Can I get you anything?"

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