Where is the MN I joined in 2007?

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It's getting increasingly frustrating.

This place used to be full of funny, witty, wise and kind women.

Now a poster asking for advice in a surprise pregnancy is getting slated - think she's posted all of 3 times but assumptions are being leapt upon that she's a benefit Waller out for all the good taxpayers money

Another poster who had a terrifying medical episode- that gets overlooked so people can feel justified in piling in to berate her 14 year old daughter for not taking control and dialling 999

This place used to be sensible and in the main - kind .

Wtf had happened? It's like sport now ?? Goady miserable misinformed goady fuckers every where ?!

Is it me or has it changed? Posters just seem meaner and nastier - the nest of vipers thing always made me laugh because it wasn't!(it was honest but not cruel!) It is now! It's not even honesty it's just spite and bile for the sake of it. What's happened to the supportive network of parents this used to be? I find it quite sad .

Its probably 100 times bigger in that time, its published on social media attracting even more trolls. Nothing stays the same

Penis beaker happened unfortunately. Site has never been the same since

You're not wrong OP.

I was thinking just that OP. Nothing funny anymore. Lots of pile ons, not robust as they used to be but petty and snippy.

It's back in 2007. Things change in 12 years funnily enough.

The SoH fails are what get me. MN was funny.

& taking selves so seriously. Everything has acquired potential to be upsetting or scary, only those words don't suffice. Instead the stupendously stupid word 'trigger' gets applied. Argh.

Anonymity makes people say things they wouldn't say in person.

I find that people post mundane shit like it's a 4-person group chat or something they could ask Google.

It IS ridiculous that a 14 year old doesn't know how to phone an ambulance. If the OP didn't want people to comment on that then it would've been better undisclosed.

I joined in 2010 and it was nicer then. I suppose it is true, the site has grown a lot since then.

It hasn't grown .
It's for more users maybe but it's gone backwards I think.

And the 14 year old did know how - mum confirms it but was telling her dd she was fine etc and it still beggars belief to me that people who have probably never had to ring 999 in their life feel so self riteous and smug that they can ignore the real purpose of thy thread and pile in to slate a child. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Threads like that current one on Unpopular Opinions shows the ugly side of MN as it is today. Obviously there have always been wankers but it's taken a turn for the worse in the last couple of years.

I was thinking the same thing. Ive seen some very hateful, classicist posters on here today. MN used to be a fun frolic but now it appears kind of hard and tattered.

I find it full of very uptight, very judgemental people.

AIBU is fucking awful. Full of nasty, bitchy bullies who can’t wait to wade in with their judgey comments.

You have to be the funny, the kind, the straight talker, to dilute.

Some folk are really unpleasant so develop the skim past them technique.

Of course it's changed a lot. Sunrise you're remembering it in the later stsges, pre penis beaker?

Because I think you're remembering it with rose-tinted-spectacles, 15 years ago it was extremely cliquey and often posts weren't even acknowledged .

I'm new, as in I've only been here a couple of weeks. I've found it very much depends what threads you are reading, I've encountered a few where I've gone this is unfair and people are so mean! My example would be the ham missing incident from Sunday or yesterday and the amount of people who piled on the poor bloke about mental loads, when it wasn't even on the shopping list!
But then I've encountered some lovely, supportive and absolutely hilarious threads.

I think the anominity of online gives people the chance to be really cruel as well as really helpful and nice. I'm trying to look for the nice ones and to be that friendly voice when everyone is just being mean.

I joined in 2007 too. I used to be scared to post because everyone seemed so much more intelligent than me. There was much more warmth to it too and lots of belly laughs. Nowadays people can't even be bothered to read the OP properly, let alone the whole thread. SOH fails are so commonplace that you have to literally spell it out that a thread is light-hearted or face a flaming.

It's a shame but things change. The hacks (computer and journalist) have fucked things up. Everyone name changes for anonymity so the familiarity of regular usernames is gone and with it the tendency to be polite and considerate.

But this has always been anonymous. It just wasn't so full of mean spirited nasty fuckers I don't think. ?

Sorry that was me being prescriptive and bossy. You don't have to be anything.

Can someone tell me what penis beaker is?

This place used to be full of funny, witty, wise and kind women yeah, everyone's buggered off

Yes, always anonymous but fewer name changes. A regular moniker was more common so you'd get to know people. Now people often name change as a matter of course.

Completely agree OP. So many judgey fuckers . It used to a funny informative forum, now I fear for anyone who post something, cause you know any minute some vile viper will come out to comment and judge 😪

Sadly, Trump happened. The bloody referendum happened and we've all been subjected to the flood of sheer but previously concealed hatreds that many have felt free to unleash. It's poisoned everything, even mumsnet.

I was vicarinatutu.

I name change cos of a stalker.