Where is the MN I joined in 2007?

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It's getting increasingly frustrating.

This place used to be full of funny, witty, wise and kind women.

Now a poster asking for advice in a surprise pregnancy is getting slated - think she's posted all of 3 times but assumptions are being leapt upon that she's a benefit Waller out for all the good taxpayers money

Another poster who had a terrifying medical episode- that gets overlooked so people can feel justified in piling in to berate her 14 year old daughter for not taking control and dialling 999

This place used to be sensible and in the main - kind .

Wtf had happened? It's like sport now ?? Goady miserable misinformed goady fuckers every where ?!

Is it me or has it changed? Posters just seem meaner and nastier - the nest of vipers thing always made me laugh because it wasn't!(it was honest but not cruel!) It is now! It's not even honesty it's just spite and bile for the sake of it. What's happened to the supportive network of parents this used to be? I find it quite sad .

I joined in 2007 too. There used to be a sense that everyone knew each other, lots of familiar posters who cropped up on every thread. Witty and funny, and lots of in-jokes that no one not on MN would understand. Quite cliquey too, but I didn't really mind as I generally just lurked rather than joining in.

Totally agree OP, I saw someone say no wonder their partner divorced them and it was over something really not worthy of divorce. I intervened and told her to stop being mean and all hell broke loose.

People are much braver behind their computer screens, I almost feel like it gives them some power they wish they could have in their own lives or something.

A lot of people on MN are vicious on these threads, make assumptions, and are judgemental.

So I now just take the site with a pinch of salt and not too seriously or else I’d go insane!

Agreed, I used to always be laughing about something but rare to do so now.
I do think that some of the threads away from AIBU can still be helpful though

I have been here since 2006 and there were nasty people here then.
Its bigger now and aibu doesn't help

Now OP I know exactly who you are. I remember your posts about your profession and you were extremely informative (and still are, I just wouldn't have known).

I miss that warm feeling I got there when I saw OPs old name, you knew who you were dealing with and whether they would engage with you.

I joined in 2008. I was Summerbird. I changed for outing reasons, I went through a rough period in 2010/11 and got a shed load of support on here.

I agree OP. I don't get the same warmth here now

I was thinking same thing just yesterday. I suffer from anxiety and came here for advice, I received several helpful replies from lovely mumsnetters, but also a few nasty posts from members that were obviously spoiling for a fight, even accused me of being a troll, just because I mentioned the fact that DD is doing well at school.

The atmosphere has changed, I miss the funny posters from years ego...

I remember you
There was snark, and some downright nastiness at times, but so much laughter along with it.

But it changed for good after Christmas 2008...

Then came the Professionally Offended...

Chat is now like AIBU, definitely.

And Chat isn't deleted after 90 days any more, so you may wish to withdraw the post where you reveal who you were.

Jodie571 I was on a thread yesterday where a poster commented that the op’s husband should just leave her and she deserved to be divorced. Just really vicious.

I do remember sometimes feeling left out of certain threads back 12 years ago but I mostly remember the humor and fun.

You're right. I hate when posters deliberately misunderstand the OP and it sets the tone of the thread. It's so aggressive.

I agree OP. I often saw threads about how mean MN has become but didn't really see it myself - However, I have noticed it a lot lately. I know the thread being talked about, (The 14 year old girl.) and felt so sorry for the OP. She had a scare and people were pilling on and sticking the knife in! It has got a lot more spiteful around here lately.
However, I do still think there are some wonderful posters around luckily. In fact Aimily has proven that pint rather nicely with this quote:
I'm trying to look for the nice ones and to be that friendly voice when everyone is just being mean.
to all the nice posters!

If I ever needed proof it's on the unexpected pg thread.

A poster saying having an abortion "separates the wheat from the chaff "
Because that poster thinks the op should have an abortion ☹️