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School gate fights between parents

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Hattifnatt88 · 21/04/2019 09:52

I've been speaking to some friends of mine in a facebook group with people around England. (not just "online friends").

It seems quite a lot of them have seen actual physical fights and arguments between mothers? In one case, the police were called!

Is this common place? I'm new to this, and not seen it in my son's school.

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Berthatydfil · 21/04/2019 11:22

Gosh it almost sounds like you’re looking for material for an article. Even if you’re not I bet this will get picked up by the media,

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Hattifnatt88 · 21/04/2019 11:39

I'm not a journalist Smile, just not a very active member here anymore, but I do post very occasionally! My kid (5) got called a nasty name a few days ago in the playground, and it made me think of this.

For what it's worth, I live in the one of the roughest part of town, and all the parents "politely" ignore each other here!

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GarthFunkel · 21/04/2019 11:51

I've seen one baseball bat/parking one and one parent going mad at another parent who had clipped his walking child with her wing mirror at 30 mph on the way into school.

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Hattifnatt88 · 21/04/2019 12:01

To be fair, I probably would have gone mad if someone clipped my child with their wing mirror Shock

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Blackandpurple · 21/04/2019 12:13

I work in a school and ive seen a few. The mums are rough as..... and usually it when one has been off with some bloke belonging to someone else.

And drugs are usually involved too.

Makes staff room gossip interesting anyway.

IhateBoswell · 21/04/2019 12:14

When I was at primary school in the 80s there was a local pub which hosted a singles night. Two of my classmates mums took a shine to one man there, and I believe there was some overlapping in the relationship between them.
One day after school they (the mothers) got into a ferocious slanging match, and all of a sudden the bigger mother slapped the other with a proper full hand slap, cue their children screaming and the other parents Shock

TunstallTansy · 21/04/2019 12:14

typical estate school

The most dramatic one I witnessed was at my dn's v mc school, it started over something which began at the golf club and spilled over into school.

BurnedToast · 21/04/2019 12:22

Never seen it in 9 years of having children at primary. There's been plenty of back stabbing though, parents becoming TAs and gobbing off in the pub about other parents /children, gossiping, bitching about someones house/child/SAHM/wohm. Blah, blah. Thanks goodness the primary school years will be over for us this year. Secondary school is great by comparison.

gingajewel · 21/04/2019 12:29

Yep I’ve seen three at my daughters religious school and she is only in year four!

BlueThursday · 21/04/2019 12:30

A parent at the local primary here got shot after drop off

Luckily Hmm he was wearing a Kevlar vest so survived but it’s clear he was wearing it for a reason

lyralalala · 21/04/2019 13:04

typical estate school

Much more common at nicer schools in my experience of working in schools.

I've seen a few over the years. One school I worked in banned parents from the playground after a parent screamed in the fact of another child and ended up in a physical fight with the child's grandmother.

Arguments are fairly common, especially if the school has a bullying problem and a poor Head.

GarthFunkel · 21/04/2019 14:24

To be fair, I probably would have gone mad if someone clipped my child with their wing mirror

Ah but the twist is that she reported him for abusive language after he told her to watch where she was going in her large car. The police were involved, by her Hmm

Amongstthetallgrass · 21/04/2019 14:26

Mine go to a very naice private school where this wouldn’t be dreamed off!

However I’ve seen school mums chuck fizz in each other’s faces at the school parents ball Grin

Amongstthetallgrass · 21/04/2019 14:27

Arguments are fairly common, especially if the school has a bullying problem and a poor Head

Yes I can see why that would set of fights

Gingerkittykat · 21/04/2019 14:38

Two primary schools, one in a nice area and one in a rough area with almost exclusive social housing and a lot of drug use in the area.

I never saw a single physical or verbal fight between parents.

Tilikum · 21/04/2019 14:47

Two mothers had a fistfight at my niece's parents evening; the teachers had to drag them apart. It was high school too so you'd think the parents would have mellowed a bit by that stage.

CottonSock · 21/04/2019 14:50

I don't see it happening at our school, but have seen it at a local soft play which was parents on a school trip.

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Hattifnatt88 · 21/04/2019 14:59

Ah but the twist is that she reported him for abusive language after he told her to watch where she was going in her large car. The police were involved, by her

The mind. It boggles.

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Awwlookatmybabyspider · 21/04/2019 14:59

"Typical estate school Hmm".

Well not everyone can upper middle class and put their poppits in 1 million pound per term independent schools, can they,Hmm.

I'm from an estate, and No I've never seen anything like this. Not even fights between parents In the street.

DisgraceToTheYChromosome · 21/04/2019 15:11

DD's primary had a mixed intake, where Range Rovers mingled with rusty Saxos. There were two mothers who had been banned from the premises and for 50 metres around it for assaulting staff, other parents and children. Between them, they had 11 children attending over a period of 23 years. At least they got out of World Book Day.

lyralalala · 21/04/2019 15:21

At least they got out of World Book Day.

I'm now considering suggesting to my friend we have a mock row if it gets you out of what WBD has become...

Honeytothebee · 22/04/2019 10:10

FYI
No Snob. Live on said estate, was brought up on another estate but all the scumbags moved here and just act like that SCUM. Druggys and drunks. So if I would rather my children to attend a better school and mix with nice children with nice parents then that's my choice.

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Hattifnatt88 · 22/04/2019 10:14

That's kind of understandable! I want my kid in a better school, though I can't afford to move.

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Awwlookatmybabyspider · 22/04/2019 11:14

Just because their parents may be drinks or druggys, which like it or not is an addiction so an illness in itself.
Is that the fault of their children, honey. Does it mean a child is horrible because of their parents problems.
I'm sorry but you won't be seen as better than those on your estate because your kids go to "better" school". The thought process will be well if you're so much more better than everyone. Why aren't you living in a 10 bedroom house (on suite in each) with electric gates, and your kids in private school. Like I say.
The 'we're so prefect' act won't be washing..

marvellousnightforamooncup · 22/04/2019 11:23

It's very friendly at our local school. Occasional gossip but generally polite chit chat and mostly people are supportive of each other.

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