Having to remind husband to cut the sodding grass is doing my head in

[Whisky2014]

Why cant he just.do.it?

My mum paid a gardener to do it for the rest cut of the year. 6 weeks have passed and its not cut. I mentioned it after 2 weeks and said it was a dry day so a good day to cut it. Didn't happen. Another 4 weeks on and it's still not done. I hear all the lawnmowers going in the village but not ours :(
I cut the grass every 2 weeks all last year, I think he did it once..maybe!
Yesterday I was off and I absolutely did a full deep clean of the house. I'm 22 weeks pregnant we both work full time/same hours.
This morning he got up at 9am I stayed in bed to 10.30. When I came down he was sitting in the living room, all the curtains closed watching fucking Netflix. It's all he does unless we have plans. So i mention doing the grass and he gives me a "mmhmm" response. He gets up and I'm thinking oh great he is gona do it! No, he goes for a shower and has gone into town to get a haircut. Ughhh
I have been out planting seeds and picking weeds but my back is sore, I'm not and tired. I'm fed up!

First cut if the year* That should say on first sentence.

Lovely.

The only grass he’s interested in by the sounds of it is the stuff he can smoke as he appears to be very laid back.

Tell him that you threw his car key in the overgrown lawn and he’ll have to mow it to find it.

Must be frustrating for you op however at this point I would just do it myself on a day you have some energy

I literally couldn't do it. I can barely get up the stairs without being completely out of breath! I'm fine to do it any other time as i have for the last few years. And i dont go on I've mentioned it 3 times over 4 weeks...I expect him to use his brain and think when would be a good time to do it himself.

Wow some harsh replies here op! Does he pull his weight around the rest of the house? Do you feel you both do an equal share?

Who the fuck mows the lawn every two weeks?!

Just because your standard is higher, doesn't mean you're right.

Does he do anything else or is he a full man child?

Ugh same here. DH is an intelligent man, works very hard but gets home early every day (3.30, I don’t finish until 6pm) but doesn’t now the lawn unless I specifically ‘tell’ him to. I resent doing it because I do almost everything else.

Ah you need a dude who likes cutting the grass. I'm having to stop mine because the dandelions are bees first food. He's chomping at the bit.

Tell him he can engage a Gardner to come and do it if he won't. It's not worth the stress.

Might be worth getting your iron levels checked if you're feeling a bit out of puff OP. Just makes pregnancy harder.

Is (not) cutting the grass the only thing he does? Or does he otherwise pull his weight and does 50-50 of all housework cooking etc? If it's the latter, I would get a robot lawnmower. If Netflix is his entire contribution to running the household, you're certainly not U.

If you don't feel up for it the maybe the gardener sounds like a good idea! It must be very annoying through that you have asked him multiple times and he doesn't seem to care less

Mowing the lawn every two weeks is not 'high standards' - mine will definitely have grown long again in that time frame.

OP I don't know why you are getting a hard time over this, it sounds like you are still doing your share despite the pregnancy.

Just tell him to go and cut it now.

moominfan
He does do the majorty of the cooking, and loading and unloading of dishwasher. I do majority cleaning, laundry. So that is probably fine although I have higher standards of house living than him so I probably so more ifyswim?
But he just doesn't finish things. He started to dig a pond when we first moved in, and he dug up alot of earth had to get a flstbed lorry to take it away. Cost alot of money. But has it been finished? No. 2 years later it's still a mud plot and there's a wall starting to crumble because the earth he dug up seemed to support it a bit. He went on and on and on about this kind then made a mess and hasn't completed it. It's really frustrating! I want to do up the house a little, it's been untouched since we moved in and decor is ok but we have 4 spare rooms and only have beds in. No bedside tables etc. He think there's other priorities. But whatever those are (I dont know) they don't get done either. So we just stay in limbo!

Oh dear. What difference is the grass having on your life? As a PP does he pull his weight in other areas?

I have no bedroom door handle, a wonky kitchen tap and the silicone in the bathroom needs replacing and has done for 5 months and he still hasn't done it but he does help with other housework and he does all the cooking and well... The tap still works and the silicone is just unsightly so I just gently remind him once in a while not lose my shit like you seem to have.

Userplusnumbers definitely does need does every 2 weeks. Most people in the village do it every week!
Didnt want to get a gardener because we need to save money for the little one coming but yes, maybe I'll just organise it and save the hassle.

He does watch alot of tv though he does do stuff in the house.

I think you’ve had some harsh replies here! Of course being pregnant might stop you cutting the grass, especially if you’ve got a heavy machine. Also, @userplusnumbers, it’s perfectly normal to cut the grass every week through the summer (especially if you are a keen gardener).

It annoys me when jobs need doing and don’t get done. Fortunately my dh is a very keen gardener so it’s more the indoor jobs that get neglected!

lose my shit like you seem to have.I haven't lost my shit. The extent of the conversation was me saying "will you do the grass today?" Him saying "mhmm" then telling me he was going to get hair cut and buy milk and bread. I will believe it when I see it.

Spaceunicorn6789 heh see the tap and door handle would irritate me but id prob try to fix the handle myself!

Perhaps he's planning to do it this afternoon or this evening? I could sort of understand if you were writing this at 9pm tonight but maybe he mentally added it to his list of things to do today including 'get a haircut'.

I mowed the lawn through both pregnancies so if you really want to make a point there's no reason you can't mow it yourself. Or maybe you could sit down, have a cool drink, chill out for a bit whilst you've got the house to yourself (because that rarely happens ever again once you have a baby) and give him a chance!

Also maybe forget the pond - it's the last thing you want with young children around.

It annoys me when jobs need doing and don’t get done. I think this is why it annoys me. If see something that needs doing, I just do it. I dont wait for people to suggest or ask or whatever. Why can't he?!

I absolutely hear you OP. Mowing the grass is pretty much the only thing I don't do because I can't physically start the mower. Ours desperately needs cutting, and I'm a keen gardener so I like it to look nice. I'm signed off sick at the moment due to an eye condition but still managing to cook and clean for everyone. He's had a week off on annual leave but still hasn't managed to cut the bloody grass.