Would you report this person to social services?

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My neighbour is a pretty atrocious parent - always smells of booze, screams at the kids (more than is even slightly normal), swears at them etc.
How they sleep through her smashing up the house and screaming drunkly in the garden any time there's a reasonably warm night to sit outside, god only knows.
But what's worrying me is she's got back with her ex yet again and he beats the living shit out of her every time they get back together. He's been arrested etc before and she's still taken him back.
How can she let someone like that be around her kids? Should I report her? If so, how?
I looked online but there only seems to be helplines for abused kids, not this situation.

Yes definitely. If you look up social services in your area there should be a phone number or an online form. Otherwise call nspcc.

You absolutely have to report it. Google 'children's services [your area]', or the NSPCC will be able to advise you.

If you Google "how to report someone to social services" lots of information is available.

Each time you hear them smashing up the house, violence or screaming in the garden call the police.

Yes, as above re social services in your area, might come under "safeguarding board" also nspcc at [email protected] or 0808 800 5000.

I would be surprised if social services are not already aware of this family, all the more reason for you to contact them.

Yes. Your local council website should give details on how to do this. Don't expect much to come of it though. My friends neighbours could be these people the similarities are that great. They have been reported 5 times, social work come and go. Once the kids were taken into foster care for 3 days then returned. That was 3 years ago. Nothing has changed.

@Littlechocola I'd love to report them every time but I want to sell my house so can't have reports against them otherwise I'd have to tell the new homeowner.

Things are mostly fine when he's not there, but she keeps taking him back and I'm at the end of my tether with it all. I loved living here until a couple of years ago but now feel I'm getting pushed out of my home by them.

@englishdictionary doesn't surprise me that nothing has been done. I'm sure she will have had dealings with SS before and I'm sure there's far worse parents out there, but they don't seem to do a lot to warn them to be better parents.

I complained to the council once before about them but they weren't even slightly interested that their tenant was wrecking the place and ruining people's lives.

"I'd love to report them every time but I want to sell my house so can't have reports against them otherwise I'd have to tell the new homeowner."

Really?

"@Littlechocola I'd love to report them every time but I want to sell my house so can't have reports against them otherwise I'd have to tell the new homeowner. "

SIOB..............isn't it just any current disputes you need to report?

It's easy. You ring 999 every time there's a dosmectic incident .

You ring your local council children's services reporting line

The disputes with neighbours thing and the reporting of a crime thing are separate. Don't worry. Just get on with reporting to police that there is an assault going on and children are involved.

I'd love to report them every time but I want to sell my house so can't have reports against them otherwise I'd have to tell the new homeowner

No you don't, that only applies to disputes between the two of you. Reporting domestic violence is totally separate - as is reporting abuse and neglect of children. Please please please call the police and alert SS.

Well so long as you are able to easily sell your house who cares eh ?

@Herland don't be a twat. I've not seen her abuse the bloody kids or anything and he doesnt hit them so it's not like I think they're in danger. Just that I know he's violent to her when they're drunk.

And yes I do bloody care about selling my house. My life is hell thanks to them. Get off your high horse.

@MoaningMinniee I've already had disputes with her when she first moved in so am trying to keep my distance. She threatened to kick my head in.

So report them anonymously and don't declare anything. At least something might get done.

Shocking that your house sale comes above her safety!
You’re worried but are willing to ignore it?
‘I know that he’s violent to her’

Call the police during an incident. Even if kids are in bed, if you hear arguing etc.

You can call police and stay anonymous, just say you are a neighbour and can hear loud arguments/fighting whatever you can hear and say you know children are also at the address.

The police will attend to check it out and they forward all reports to social services, who will also follow up.

None of that will come up/need to be declared when you sell your house.

I would yes.

Can you record the noise you are hearing or phone while it's happening & hold phone up to wall?
You definitely need to report!

@Littlechocola other neighbours call the police each time but they'll be moving away some time soon and dreading it all being on me.

She's got no reason to keep going back to him yet she does - he's not the father of any of her kids so she's clearly stupid or desperate (both from what I know). And before you have a go at me for anything else, yes I've had an abusive husband and I didn't keep taking the knobhead back.

Yes my house is my priority. I've worked damn hard for it and she gets hers handed to her on a plate along with free money to drink away. This isn't a judgement - it's a bloody observation before I get flamed for not enjoying my hard work paying her benefits.

She isn't exactly a 'battered wife' - she starts every one of the fights with him.

@Littlechocola also I've had the police round many times but nothing gets done. I'm fed up of being knocked up on a Saturday morning by the police coming to ask around the street what went off this time.

@converseandjeans the noise is just muffled if I try to get it inside the house on my phone.