Would you report this person to social services?

[whatamidoingwithmylife]

My neighbour is a pretty atrocious parent - always smells of booze, screams at the kids (more than is even slightly normal), swears at them etc.
How they sleep through her smashing up the house and screaming drunkly in the garden any time there's a reasonably warm night to sit outside, god only knows.
But what's worrying me is she's got back with her ex yet again and he beats the living shit out of her every time they get back together. He's been arrested etc before and she's still taken him back.
How can she let someone like that be around her kids? Should I report her? If so, how?
I looked online but there only seems to be helplines for abused kids, not this situation.

I don't understand why you're asking if you're not going to to report it anyway

She isn't exactly a 'battered wife' - she starts every one of the fights with him.
I think you are probably best quitting while you are slightly ahead and not saying any more comments like ^^

I don't understand why you have started the thread if you have no intention of reporting it and do not seem to really care about the woman next door.

Most PP have said report it, as that is the right thing to do when you know violence is happening. Wether he is violent with the children or not, they should not be exposed to it and he shouldn't be violent with her wether she "starts" it or not.

Without hesitation. Statistics are horrifying and rising. Do you really need to ask the question when children are also involved?

I would report immediately for this scenario.

All the best.

If he is hurting her you really must call 999 every time. Women get killed by violent partners, you seriously don’t want that on your conscience.

You can call the NSPCC and report it anonymously.

Unbelievable.
You started this thread because you're envious of her "free money"
Have some decency, vulnerable children should come above your house sale. Not that it would affect it anyway.

So selling hour house is more important than your neighbours children's welfare?

Everything handed to her along the way? Free money to drink
Away?
Your vile OP. I feel sorry for the poor children caught up in the middle of DV, and for the record, those not on BENEFITS ALSO ARE VICTIMS OF DV. So you get off your High-horse and pray nothing bad happens to those kids.

What a sad society we live in if the people in it will shrug their shoulders and not call the police to a domestic violence incident because of an unfounded belief that it will make the house harder to sell/can't do it anonymously/it's too much hassle.

Even with no sympathy for her, we know with certain fact that kids get horrendously damaged when they witness DV.

I'd love to report them every time but I want to sell my house so can't have reports against them otherwise I'd have to tell the new homeowner."

Are you fucking kidding me?

Being exposed to domestic violence is a form of child abuse.
If you can't ring the police to help her, are you really unable to do so for the children?

You won't need to declare anything when you sell; you're reporting a crime, not involved in a dispute - that means things like boundary disputes.

Wow. That is some astonishing selfishness there OP. Seems almost narcissistic

Life long harm for the poor kids and possible murder of someone (given the horrible stats) vs selling a house.

May I ask OP why you opened the thread?

Of course you can do what you like, I just wonder why ask the question if you weren’t going to do anything anyway.

Perhaps this is a massive windup and I fell for it too.

I think all the folks flinging shit at me need to read all the posts before being so fucking vile.

I HAVE RUNG THE POLICE NUMEROUS TIMES ABOUT HER AND NOTHING GETS DONE. THEY ARE EITHER NOT INFORMING SOCIAL SERVICES OR SS ARE NOT BOTHERING TO GET INVOLVED.

I've shown her sympathy, tried to help her and all I get from her is threats to kick my head in - YET IM THE PERSON IN THE WRONG????

I've been a 'battered wife' too yet that's fine with you all as long as I continue to take her abuse and live my life in fear and anxiety.

It really is a shitshow on here and just a way for vile people to throw abuse at people who really are struggling with things. I've seen numerous threads lately where people have awful things said to them by a set of people who are supposed to be here to offer ADVICE, not hurl abuse.

@wellhelloyou I opened the thread because I'm living in constant anxiety about these people.

Nice of you all to be a bunch of twats to me.

You ain't doing yourself no favours here.

What is your concern OP?
The woman?
The children?
The noise?
The sale price of your house?

'Not exactly a battered wife'

I appreciate you having been in a violent relationship and had the fortitude to leave your partner but that's not everyone. Your neighbour must have suffered years of abuse that she doesn't know what's normal. For some women being beaten up is a form of attention seeking. That absolutely deserves your sympathy and not derision

Anyway, I would keep calling the police and social services. This will not impact your house sale at all. It's only current and past disputes you need to disclose. I'm moving house partly because of an idiot neighbour too.

And please don't call people a bunch of twats. I see one twat here alright, and it ain't anyone who has replied to you.

Yeah im just going to delete my account because I'm fed up of abuse on here.

My life has been ruined by her - but I'm in the wrong apparently. I try to help her as much as I can.

The trouble she causes is so bad I've developed mental health problems. All your trolling makes this worse.

My goodness. What a horrible thing to say.

You opened the thread. Asked if you should report. People said yes and you’ve come back with personal insults and degrading words.

No-one wrote your posts for you. You asked the question, people said yes and now you’re angry that we did?

I’m totally lost.

The Op has the right to quiet enjoyment of her home. She believes the children are not safe. She has reported to the police and social services. She wishes to get away from her abusive neighbour who is impacting her mental health. In order to do this she has to sell her house which will be difficult. If the police and social services are not interested what more can she do.

Social services automatically receive a notification when there are police reports of domestic disturbances.
How many times are you saying you've called the police?
I'd be calling every single time, if that's every day then so be it.
Poor children.

OP I do sympathise with your situation, but for the sake of the children you should call social services. This time and every other time. Witnessing domestic violence is damaging to them. If you report it Is not going to make your situation any worse so you might as well do the right thing .