In a complete panic about my weight- so depressed

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I’m 5foot 2 and weigh 15 stone 8. It’s disgusting. Got down to 9 stone 5 years ago but have completely and utterly let myself go. I feel so bad about myself, it is on my mind constantly.

Going abroad in September for my dp’s 30th. We have booked a villa with him and his friends/their dp’s who are all a size 12 and below. I can’t go away looking like this. My dp has 2 different sports that he plays 4 times a week so he’s really fit. I get out of breath walking up the stairs.

It’s so easy to think ‘ just eat healthier’ but I can’t seem to get my head in gear and as the holiday draws closer I feel like I’m on the verge of a panic atttack constantly. Thinking of doing the Cambridge diet, it’s expensive but thinking it’ll kick start my loss if I do it for a couple of months? I just feel so down and so disgusting. I’m going to a work event with dp (he started a new job earlier this year) on Saturday and I’m worried they’re all going to look at us together and wonder what the hell he is doing with such a fatty

Morning OP, simply saying eat healthier doesn’t usual work with me either. I need to get back into walking, then some fun excercise classes then I change my diet to follow. Currently got 2 stone I need to loose and I’ve slowly started back into fitness...

What you wear can boost confidence for this upcoming event, what are you planning to wear?

Oh, I know just how you feel. I am 5ft 3 and about the same weight as you. I think constantly about it too - I even had a dream last night where people were commenting on my weight. I sort of feel like it's gone too far for me to fix now, but that can't be true really, I know.

I have no advice for dieting, though I'm always trying new things. But for the night out, my advice is to fake it until you make it. Pretend to feel confident even if you don't feel it. I know it's a cliche but it helps me feel better when I'm out. Sending you lots of feel good thoughts.

You’ve got nearly five months. You could load loads in that time so stop panicking when you think about it.

I find the Lose It app on my phone really helpful. I track everything I eat and it helps a lot. If I can see how much I have eaten it makes me stop and think. For me not eating any white carbs or refined sugar is the answer so I never eat white bread or pasta or rice etc. Could you start even with just those two things? The app and no white carbs.

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Ok - you will lose the weight on the Cambridge plan. It works really well BUT you have to be REALLY CAREFUL when you stop because it will pile back on if you're not.
If you do it, make sure you drink LOADS of fluids or you'll get bad breath.
You could lose about a stone a month if you do it perfectly, if not a little more.

This was me once. I lost over 6 stones (still losing!) by calorie counting with diet ready meals or any ready meal that was low fat/low calorie.

You could join Weight Watchers to do this.

I also found this diet helpful.

www.goodtoknow.co.uk/wellbeing/diets-exercise/lazy-girl-s-diet-60196

It saved me having to think and cook tiny diet meals in the kitchen every night. When I totted up the cals on this diet, I reckon it came to about 1300/day. Give it a try.

I ordered all my shopping for the week online. That way I could think properly about what I needed instead of getting swayed by temptation and stress once in store.

Hypnosis (try Marisa Peer's mp3 on weight loss) really helped too.

Take up walking. Just walking my dog for an hour a day has really toned up my legs. Health problems meant I couldn't just go straight to working out in the gym.

So to sum up:

*Join WW.
*Work out a diet using pre-packaged stuff - make it easier on yourself.
*Walk as far as you can as often as you can.
*Shop online.
*Hypnosis mp3s.
*Read about amazing weight transformations online. There are people twice your size who have slimmed down.

You can totally do this!

As for Saturday, just go - your husband loves you and wants you there. You have done nothing wrong. Your weight is not a value of you as a person. Just keep telling yourself that after Saturday, you will be getting thinner every day and you will never feel like this again.

I worked with two women for years and they were yo yo dieters. Slim mining world and weight watchers numerous times over the years as well as slimfast, the Cambridge diet, cabbage soup diet, you name it they tried it.

They would lose weight but always regained it.

They then went to Lighter Life meetings and lost all the weight and have kept it off for over five years to date.

Apparently they discuss why you overeat/eat too much and get to the underlying cause.

In five months you could lose a substanti amount of weight.

If you want to. That’s the key.

www.lighterlife.com

Oh bless you. I'm a shorty too (just scraping 5 foot 1 and a half).
Please try reading Michael Moseley's fast 800 book. It is inspirational and it works. WW is great for weekly motivation but personally don't like the points system. Good luck. It is totally doable to loose a big chunk by your holiday . Good luck xx

And join one of the threads on here for support x

Don't do a diet of any kind.

Get a fitbit and record calories COMPLETELY HONESTLY WITHOUT LYING TO YOURSELF. It's calories in vs calories out.

It's the only way to ever lose weight consistently and keep it off.

I am in the same position. Almost the same height and weight.
I live outside the UK and cant get all that pre-packaged low cal stuff which is a shame cos the lazy girl diet looks good. I also cook for a large family.
I have literally a box full of diet now products. I want to use them. I keep thinking I will start next week.

Oh and I meant to say - I totally understand the feeling of despair. I remember feeling that my weight had gone too far and that there was no way I could go back to being slim. It was like I didn't have control any more. I changed my eating and just had to have faith that the laws of physics would prevail (calories in/calories out as a pp put it). It WILL work if you do it. It HAS to.

Get a fitbit and record calories COMPLETELY HONESTLY WITHOUT LYING TO YOURSELF. It's calories in vs calories out

^ This. You will find treating your body well gets addictive once you get past the first hurdle.

record calories COMPLETELY HONESTLY WITHOUT LYING TO YOURSELF. It's calories in vs calories out

^this. I don’t even exercise due to health problems and I have lost 1&1/2 stone just by weighing and logging everything I consume in MyFitnessPal and realising the calorific value of things. 5 months is long enough to drop weight IF that is what you want. Your husband loves you regardless and I can’t imagine anyone being horrible enough to “. wonder what the hell he is doing with such a fatty “ If they do think that, that says more about them than you!

You need to make a lifestyle change and do it yourself. You don’t need all these different diets you need to eat healthy. Just the phrase I’m on a diet implies it comes to an end. Healthy eating has to be a lifestyle
Change not a diet.

I wouldn’t focus on the holiday to loose weight. I would focus on the long term. Make small changes like cutting back on one particular thing and once that’s completed start with something else. I have cut out chocolate for medical reasons (gives me headaches really bad), this ten led to no fizzy drink, and lowering carbs so no bread, rice or pasta.

I really feel for you OP, I am a similar weight and height though a little taller at 5’4 and I am in the process of losing it. My DP in the other hand has the metabolism of a teenager. Try not to let it overwhelm you, there is no reason why you can’t do it, it’s just getting into the right headspace.

I started by just keeping a food diary and writing what I was eating daily and then changing the meals for healthier versions slowly, rather than going cold turkey on everything ‘bad’ for you. I also am doing fitness dvds in the house because I’m not yet brave enough for the gym and going for walks on the weekend.

I find Instagram really useful for recipe ideas, and I would recommend the Body coach 90 day plan if you want a kick start - I only lost about 7kilos in weight but have lost 25 inches overall, I plan to sign up again for round two. My friend did the Cambridge diet plan and is now even bigger than she was, so even as a short term solution you might find it more damaging in the long run.

You can do this please get in touch if you need moral support / a healthy eating friend! Although it’s important you know your weight isn’t the be all and end all and I find even though I’m obsessing about it, realistically nobody cares how big I am apart from me - enjoy yourself at your DP’s event and don’t let it ruin it for you he’s obviously proud to have you go!!

Don't panic OP.

Think about it like this. There are about 20 weeks until September. A healthy weight loss schedule is about 2lbs a week. So you could definitely lose at least 40lbs (almost 3 stone) by then just by cutting back on calories slightly and upping your exercise a little bit.

I wouldn't pay for any diets or anything like that but use a weight loss calculator online to see what a recommended calorie amount is for you to reach your goals then use something like My Fitness Pal to track all of your calories. That way you can still treat yourself and won't feel too restricted and more likely to binge on "bad" foods.

And if you can't afford the gym this is the perfect time to get out and get walking! Every little helps :) Exercise is what will give you the kick you need. Even if you start walking to work or get up half an hour earlier (you have to force yourself at first until it becomes habit, believe me!) to go a walk or work out, once you've exercised you'll feel less inclined to overeat. I suffered with binge eating for years and this works for me.

It's worth also looking into your BMR. If you google it you'll find a calculator. This is the calories your body burns daily if you were just to lie in bed all day. You could stick to this and you would lose weight.

I know you can do it :) Remember as well that all of your worth is not in your appearance alone. If people judge you for that, that's their problem. Your DP loves YOU as a whole and that's what matters.

Another one saying Michael Mosley's Fast 800. My DH has tried many methods and decided to go for this (wanted to lose a few stone), he's now 2.5 stone down in 2.5 months and isn't doing anymore exercise than he was before (and that was only manual labour!). Its been incredible and the food is gorgeous!!

Use MyFitnessPal for calories in and a Fitbit to see how many calories you burn.a day.

I lost 2 stone using this.method, a consistent 2 pounds per week.

SW. I couldn’t have lost over 2 stone without the group support.

Hi OP I'm exactly same height and weight as you! And I'm nearly 50..... ! I've rejoined SW and paid for 12 weeks in advance I find it too much and too upsetting to think of all I have to lose so I've decided to take it three months at a time. I'm using a good diary to write everything down and getting out with my dog and walking more... I use a Fitbit to log my steps and trying for 15000 a day this is easier than you think if you use public transport and don't take the lift in work! I feel a bit less daunted if I'm only thinking of a short time period at once, sort of breaking things up into manageable chunks. So I'm working towards early July, then I'll make plans for rest of summer , then Christmas period. Anyways, good luck and just keep on keeping on!

I can highly recommend MyFitnessPal in conjunction with a Fitbit. I lost over two stone last year using both. But I walked absolutely everywhere. At the beginning I was breathless and sweating at even the slightest hint of a hill but towards the end of the summer I was far more able to walk up hills pushing the pram.

I completely understand the panic, and the comparisons to people smaller than you. Try not to do that, it'll just upset you and stop you trying. Best of luck!

I really rate Jo Wicks for weight getting fit just losing fat shouldn't be the goal getting for should be. I seen a fb post that said losing weight is hard being fat is hard choose your hard it kind of put it in perspective for me.

OK so I have looked and I have about 6 months worth of bloody diet now products. I'm starting tomorrow. I will do 2 weeks and then I am fasting for Ramadan anyway. I will try to avoid sweets during this time. Then, it is only 4 weeks til I go on holiday. So, here we go.....

Hi OP, sorry you are feeling so down. I really think you need to do a plan with a weekly support group. Loads of people near me have done slimming world with great success. Don’t panic and go on a food restriction diet. Sure, look into why you overeat (I do too) but any calorie restriction diet in my experience is bad news long term. Slimming world or similar helps you build healthier habits long term.