In a complete panic about my weight- so depressed

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I’m 5foot 2 and weigh 15 stone 8. It’s disgusting. Got down to 9 stone 5 years ago but have completely and utterly let myself go. I feel so bad about myself, it is on my mind constantly.

Going abroad in September for my dp’s 30th. We have booked a villa with him and his friends/their dp’s who are all a size 12 and below. I can’t go away looking like this. My dp has 2 different sports that he plays 4 times a week so he’s really fit. I get out of breath walking up the stairs.

It’s so easy to think ‘ just eat healthier’ but I can’t seem to get my head in gear and as the holiday draws closer I feel like I’m on the verge of a panic atttack constantly. Thinking of doing the Cambridge diet, it’s expensive but thinking it’ll kick start my loss if I do it for a couple of months? I just feel so down and so disgusting. I’m going to a work event with dp (he started a new job earlier this year) on Saturday and I’m worried they’re all going to look at us together and wonder what the hell he is doing with such a fatty

Calorie “ restriction” is pretty much the only way to lose weight!

There’s nothing intrinsically unhealthy about a home baked wholewheat roll. It will however contain more calories than a massive plate of green vegetables.

As a fellow short fattie I had to lose the alcohol and embrace the idea of life not revolving about food. No snacking, no baking cakes and bring finejust going without. If you know breakfast/lunch/dinner is coming, you can go a few hours without eating.

Blood sugar diet is brilliant because it’s not about weight but about hidden fat in your organs.So you lose the sugar and carbs and that fat ( mostly round the liver ) disappears - you get a waist and a flat stomach back within a few weeks.

I said food restriction, not calorie restriction. Isn’t that what the Cambridge diet is, food restriction and meal replacement? Sorry but I personally don’t think this is a healthy idea for the long term.

That plate of veg is a ‘better’ choice than a bread roll is a basic message of slimming world but it doesn’t make you feel you failed for choosing the bread roll one day. I personally think that sort of plan (with a support group) is more helpful than the Cambridge diet long term. Just my opinion!

Sorry - I see I did say calorie restriction. I stand corrected

OP if your DP is out to do all that sport, do you get time to go as well? It's really hard to start a sport when you're feeling like this but I would recommend the more sensible diet and calories tracking as PPs have said, but also to join BMF (be military fit) or something similar to that. Circuits are good as you are always changing task so you have little time to worry or think during the session. Do not worry about going, they are so friendly and just want people to get into exercise. I've seen people transform - but it's done sensibly and in a way that you can then keep it off.

I found that ordering some home delivered weekly meal replacements that just needed heating in the microwave - low fat proper food and plenty of vegetables included - helped me to kick start my weight loss.

I had been emotional eating for a several reasons and this worked for me because it was reasonably expensive, and, basically, I am cheap. I am not going to spend over the odds on these meals and then waste that money by eating a 400gm Toblerone (which had been my snack of
choice, and which my local supermarket seems to have for 50% off about half the time). I had no excuses for not eating reasonable meals because all had to do was toss it in the microwave.

Like everyone else, I know quite well what I should eat, and this helped me to break the cycle I was in.

Another one for calories in and out. You need to create a calorie deficit to lose weight.

I've tried everything in the past and this is the only way to do it. I use my fitness pal and log everything, it asks you what you want to lose and at what rate and tells you your daily calories.

I try exercise 40 mins a day using FIIT and YouTube so I can do at home. I also track my steps and make sure I do 10,000 every day. I've cut back on drinking and only do it once a month.

I've been doing this for two months and have lost a stone but toned up and look like it's much more.

They say it takes three weeks to become a habit so try push through.

Also if you're on Instagram follow jamessmithpt he has some great videos that put it very bluntly how to lose weight. He's completely changed my way of thinking.

I'm a similar height to you OP and two weeks ago I weighed in at 14.1. I've done Slimming World and WW over the years but hate the cliqueyness of the groups. In an act of desperation I ordered two weeks of meal replacement shakes and have had two of these, lots (I mean LOTS) of water and a low carb meal in the evening and in the first week I lost 7lbs. Once the two weeks are up, I'm moving to the Fast800 plan.

I've also downloaded Calorie Counter by NutraCheck which is fab. The food database is British so makes it so much easier to track calories than MyFitnessPal - no weird cup measurement. It's free for a week, then £3.99 a month. I'm definitely going to keep using it - much cheaper than a slimming club.

You can do it OP. Track everything that passes your lips and keep thinking how much you want to lose the weight. Between now and September you could easily shift a couple of stone.

agree with the posters who say dont diet, calorie count. Got to be brutally honest when writing down otherwise its easy to skip a few hundred cal and then wonder why you're not losing weight.

I can second what @FiremanKing has said, LighterLife is the only weight loss company that looks at why you eat the way that you do. I started in February and have lost 2st, one more to go! Please don't get disheartened there's lots of options for you, you just need to know what you want out of a diet. Short term success or long term change? Good luck x

Hi, I totally empathise. I am also 5' 2" and have tried, succeeded and re-gained over the last 15 years. I finally decided 4 weeks ago to try LighterLife.
I've joined one of their Xpress meetings, which is totally free! I couldn't believe it as I've been used to paying about £5 quid a week for other slimming clubs.
I've been following the plan for 4 weeks now and lost exactly one stone. It's the easiest and quickest weight loss and I'm really enjoying seeing the weight come off.
I even had a few treats and a few glasses of prosecco over Easter and I still lost weight.

I hope you find something that works for you but I can't recommend LighterLife Xpress enough. It costs nothing to pop along, so you have nothing to lose by meeting the mentor and finding out more. Good luck and let us know how you get on.
Sam xxx

I have lost 3 stone so far using the nutracheck app, which is only £3.99 a month. It makes you aware of hidden calories, and has really worked for me. I lose 1.5 to 2 lb per week, consistently. So by September you could potentially have lost loads of weight and feel good about yourself. Good luck

I was the same weight as you. I was seeing an orthopaedic consultant to get a date for my knee replacement. He said that my BMI was JUST below their cutoff point, but if I could lose some weight it would make it less dangerous for me. I had no choice so I cut out sugar, bread, and butter, counted saturated fats, counted calories and just got on with it. I don't have a scales but I've gone down a dress size, from 20 to 18 and I feel a lot better. My op is next week .
Good luck xx

A lot of people whose weight fluctuate dramatically like that can be carb sensitive.
If you are then you can lose weight be reducing your carbs, especially wheat and grains. Blood sugar diet works well for that.

Sounds stressful, but as others said there is time and change is possible.

Cambridge and other similar diets can work, but they'll downregulate how much your body burns which can make the calories you can after without gaining weight after lower than before for a while. Sustainability is better than crashing out.

I agree with other posters finding ways to make tracking food easier. The My Fitness Pal app has a great scan barcode function and my phone has a step counter already on it and just seeing those numbers has helped me tweak things for the better without really much other planning.

I'd recommend having a look around youtube, facebook, maybe googling to find a fitness person who you enjoy and feel you can learn and get motivation from rather than the fitness people who make you feel guilty. Personally, I enjoy James Smith PT and Michelle McDaniel's stuff. Make learning about and doing this stuff fun rather than punishment will help things go better in the long-term.

I am now on day 3 of diet now. It is ok.
My plan is to do it for the next 2 weeks until Ramadan then again afterwards until we go on holiday.