You know your husband/ wife/ partner’s a good’un when ( lighthearted)

[Dowser]

He’s waiting for you to join him at the car for a weeks break and
You’ve just decided to water the hyacinth bulbs and
You’re looking at a heap of soil on the kitchen floor and
As hard as you’re trying to sweep it up ..it’s spreading all over and
You say, ‘ say anything and I’ll cry ‘ and
He just mucks in and helps with the big clear up and
The bloody dyson hasn’t been plugged in and
He takes it all in his stride and
We make the best of a bad job and
Phew..it got sorted and
Ok we left ten minutes later than planned and

All was well.

Your stories ?

He rings the consultants secretary on a Sunday night to beg for morphine for his post op sobbing wife 😂

You ask him to pick up some snacks because you’re hungover and he brings 3 family sized bags of crisps and 4 Easter eggs and he doesn’t expect you to share (I did 😜)

He's brought me a cup of tea in bed every morning for the last 21 years

He smothers my face with kisses at 3 in the morning when he gets up for work. Sometimes I wake up. Sometimes I don't.

Comes home when I'm having a night in with friends with an XL pizza, chocolate and more wine without being asked!

When it snowed the other year he shovelled all the paths and dropped bread and milk off for our elderly neighbours either side of us. He also spent many hours that week driving docs and nurses to and from the hospital for their shifts when the roads were really bad but his 4x4 has no issues getting round.

He's a bloody good un!

Not major but he just knows when I need a hug and asks no questions but strokes my hair and says soothing things.

Makes me laugh every day, sometimes to the point of pain
Gives me tummy rubs in the middle of the night when I’m constipated ( sorry if tmi!) & generally very reassuring when I’m ill. He used to be a naval medic
Cup of tea in bed most mornings
Thinks farting is as hilarious as I do!
Is a really good cook & baker
Doesn’t always find it easy to relate to DD but tries really hard & goes to a lot of trouble for her eg he’s building a summerhouse so she can have a much needed bolt hole
Very affectionate. Love when he says “ Pull up a husband” if something’s bothering me
He cries at tv programmes like “ Call the Midwife” & I really love that about him

When you’re dancing at a party and unbeknown to you your left tit has popped out and is swinging free and he just calmly and quickly puts it back inside your top without missing a beat. 😂

Offers to come home straight away (staying with his mum an hour away as fil is in hospital and he wants to reassure her- which quite frankly I think is lovely in itself) when you text to say small has vomited and you hasn't realised how awful dealing with a scared vomit covered 2 year old and the bedding by yourself is.

When discussing New Year’s Eve food his family said “Tani is vegetarian right so she needs veggie pizza. So shall we make it half vegetarian?”
He said “No, she needs her own pizza.” His mum looked surprised “She can eat a whole one?” And he said “Yeah, she needs her own pizza.”
I knew he was the one right then.

FYI we live in Japan where pizzas are a lot smaller - there’s no way half a medium would have been enough lol.

He always has a cup of tea waiting for me when I get in from work.

If it's really cold and I'm going to bed before him he will lay on my side of the bed to warm it up while I go toilet/brush teeth etc.

Makes me hot water bottles and buys lots of sweets that time of the month when I need them. Or if I say I'm having a bad day/tummy ache.

When I was pregnant he would order me whole boxes of flumps as he knew I loved them!

Makes me feel good about myself everyday and always knows how to make me smile/laugh.

These are lovely!

I came home from an overseas work trip this week and he greeted me with a huge bouquet of red roses at arrivals.

A couple of nights ago, I went out for the evening, came home, DH had gone to bed and put a glass of water by the side of the bed.

A couple of examples this week of how thoughtful he is

Does the night shift with our newborn DD on 4 hours sleep so I can have a solid 8 hours. Thanks DH .

Wrings the neck of the injured blackbird maimed by one of the cats. And does it with tears in his eyes.
And lies to the kids that he's taken it to a bird rescue sanctuary as they were both upset.

Goes out at 3am on an emergency dioralyte and imodium run because I was… ill.
Did his fair share of night wakings with the kids.
The best thing though? He's taken the children on a 5 day camping trip and I get to stay at home on my own. He does this with them usually twice a year. It's great!

AlexaAmbidextra that's made me choke on my cuppa. Hero!
My husband sends me random loveheart emojis, writes me beautiful birthday and valentine cards, and tries really hard to understand things I get upset about even when I know he hasn't got a damn clue why it's such an issue for me, doesn't argue or comment, just gives me a hug anyway

When we were dating and lived quite far apart, he messaged me from work asking how I was doing, and I mentioned that to add insult to injury I’d run out of teabags and couldn’t even have a cuppa.

He drove a two hour round trip that evening just to turn up at my door with tea. He came in, made me a tea and then insisted he left me to rest.

It told me everything I would ever need to know about him. He is just as thoughtful and kind all these years later.

I got really ill about two months into our relationship, nearly had to quit work. Loads of medical tests etc. He stood by me the whole time, even though I spent what was supposed to the "honeymoon" period, shitting my brains out in his bathroom everyday 🙈 (and we all know Mumsnet users NEVER poo in someone else's house.) he proposed a year later, 2 weeks after my final colonoscopy!

When both dds had left home and it was a boiling hot summer he bought a paddling pool that was for ME! I never had a garden as a child so this was the first one that was just for me.

When i was sat cold and tired after a long plane and train journey waiting for a bus as i couldn't phone him to bring me home for the final leg due my phone dying.
He knew my flight had landed and when the train had got in.
He came striding down the bus station like a knight in shining armour, took me home, made me my favourite meal and ran me a bath while i ate it before tucking me up in bed with a cuppa.

Didn't bat an eyelid when I signed up to be a kitten fosterer on a whim when he was working away and came home to find our spare room turned into a kitten nursery with a litter of 2 month old kittens making quite a mess in there.

When he is a tradesman that does a job for a family member (that has a shoe store) who then asks how much is owed and he says 'a pair of shoes for Lady Minerva will cover it'. Even though he thinks Lady Minerva already has too many shoes.

When you go to 'just look ' at another horse and he says "Take the horse box anyway , I'll bed down a stable by teatime "

he brought me a cheeseburger and nuggets into my private room a couple of hours after i had ds. and a strawberry milkshake.

he puts up with my completely irrational fear of flying and crying at the airport by either a) indulging my sunglasses habit b) buying me wine and letting me cry silently into it all the while trying to make up beat conversation

he said nothing when he found out that i'd eaten an entire pack of jammy dodgers the other evening. (in my defence they are delicious, and i am 6m pregnant).

he (begrudgingly) lets cat face sleep on the bed with us. he knows that i need her as much as she needs me, and her purring helps me go to sleep. (i am only allowed one cat on the bed though - if we get another, the bedroom door gets closed)

He cleans my shoes if I ever step in... er... something unfortunate.