Do you feel grown up?

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I was thinking this today. I'm 42 with kids a mortgage and a good job but I don't feel "grown up" I don't know why!

I have started to enjoy garden centres etc in the last year so maybe it's coming but I think my parents seemed to know much more of what they were doing at my age!

Maybe they didn't and were just putting up a good front

Hope I'm fooling the kids!

I play fantasy card games every friday (magic the gathering) with my 13 yr old son at a comic store.
We are frequent visitors of boardgame cafes.
I get stuck out on rocks when the tide is coming.
I think I loved legoland more than my son.
on the other hand:
I also knit. a lot. granny style :)
Love gardening
have a job/career.

No, never felt an adult for one single moment. Even when my son was born we managed to be so infantile (together with my DH) that my mum said "Grow up already!" :)
To be fair my DH said to me during pushing phase: Honey you need to be a bit more quiet.... It still makes me laugh :)

And I'm already 43.

I don't feel grown up - not mentally anyway - physically I feel about 90!

However, I am almost 40 and have finally decided what I want to do with the rest of my life (I am actually not kidding, finally decided on the career I want) ... so maybe I am growing up...

It regularly boggles my mind that I have a 12 year old- I’m way too young for that.

It confuses me even more when other people aren’t shocked by the fact I have an almost teenager!

Nope, I'm 39 and have all the gear, DH, DC, house, mortgage, job, car - still feel very much like a teenager living a grown ups life!

This is exactly how I feel.

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No - I often look at other grown-up grown-ups and think there's another level of grown uo i haven't achieved yet. House car married job etc so I have the majority.

day to day, not a fucking chance, I have huge imposter syndrome for house stuff, work and parenting

I'm late 40's and this is utterly relatable. I'm reasonably successful in that I have a good job, homeowner and my kid is happy and doing well. How to rid myself of this?

I hate all this "oooh where's the adultier adult, I did good adulting today" shit I see people post on fb. It's self indulgent and an excuse to always be a bit crap and unreliable while other people keep the show on the road

A psychologist friend of mine once said there's a difference between being childish and childlike. At some point we should all strive to grow out of the childish mindset (failing to take responsibility, remaining dependant on others etc). Remaining childlike on the other hand (into silly games, finding farts hilarious etc) is completely fine!

I'm 20 with 33 years of experience

Always reminds me of this

I feel ancient

Nope. I'm 53.

Having imposter syndrome is supposed to be a sign of intelligence

No. I'm 43 and still find myself pathetically looking for an "adult" to make decisions from time to time... then I realise that adult is me... damn

Nope not even vaguely.

We've just bought a new house, are in the middle of doing it up and are moving on Saturday, have a stable relationship, dc, work etc.

Not really got a clue what I'm doing though. Definitely winging it and still feel like a teenager despite being 28.

I also tend to find that the more I know, the more I know I don't know anything. Oh to know as much as I did when I was 18 and knew absolutely everything!

I also don't like (and I loathe this term but for lack of a better word I'll use it) adulting.

It's all the bullshit jobs like washing dishes and taking bins out and buying toilet roll instead of music. A pack of loo roll is the same price as a cd. I still feel a pang of resentment that I now need to spend my money on boring but essential stuff instead of being able to blow it all on cheap clothes from tammy girl and woolworths pick n mix

I always feel a bit disappointed if I do something really grown up. When I took out an ISA I swear a part of me died inside.

For years I put it down to not having children. And then I looked at my best friend with children who is still very much in possession of her inner child... we're both in our 50s.

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Er, did you not always use toilet paper?!

The other week I was sat in the dentist waiting area. I jumped up and offered my chair to an 'older person'. She looked bemused and declined my offer. Afterwards my mother laughed and said she was only a little older than me! I think you're as young as you feel. I only feel 25!! 😂

My grandmother used to talk about "the old lady next door", who was in fact an age mate of my grandmother's. They were in their 80's at the time and my grandmother was on the lookout for a new partner.

As for me, I feel like an adult in so far as I have learned how to do all the things, but in my mind an adult used to look like parents in the 1950's post war austerity, a relationship to death, a seriousness. Time's have changed. While I am the one most likely to take the lead in a group and be the first one to be a bit parental, I am also the one most likely to drop the facade and belly laugh outright at silliness at work, to get the giggles, hysterically at times, while on the phone to IT, or to use "language". The rules have changed.

I don't feel grown up. I don't feel I even look grown up. I want to look like a professional woman who is taken seriously in work but even dressed up, I feel like I look like a girl and that's reflected in how people talk to me. I'm in my 30s now, wondering when I'm going to feel and look my age.

My Dd 19 is the grown up.

She thinks I have ADHD.

My DD and I are like Ab Fab! I'm the one out partying / having fun / spending money all the time and she's the introverted stay at home one.

When I compare what my mum and I were like at my age now (46) there's a massive difference, she was very adult and responsible and I am err not...

I think we are the generation who never had to grow up