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Realising that day drinking and going to the pub is actually boring...

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Clairesbalding · 13/04/2019 21:34

I’m in my mid forties, DH, mid fifties. A few years ago, when the children were younger and we actually needed to arrange a babysitter we loved nothing more than going into out nearest city, having a good few drinks with friends over an afternoon and into the evening.

Now, we don’t need babysitters the children are grown, we met with friends today at 2pm and by 6 I was desperate to go home. DH equally doesn’t enjoy himself, he gets ratty and argumentative after drinking these days so a few of an evening and straight home to bed Is better for him.

Today I realised that it’s actually a crap thing to do, go into town on a packed train, try to find seats in smelly, over heated pubs surrounded by a cacophony of screeching hen parties, pay silly money for drinks. Really awful, DH is moody and miserable and so we are home early,

I’m officially old at 45!

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ShitAtScarbble · 13/04/2019 21:42

Yep. There's very little quite as boring as drunk people. And going out is SO expensive.
We just don't do it anymore and put the money we save into city breaks - we go away about every 6 weeks. Much more fun!

Isth · 13/04/2019 21:45

I don’t know... sounds like a rubbish combination of not having a decent place to drink and having a husband who isn’t good when he drinks.
My favourite way to while away the occasional afternoon / evening is to hole up in our local with my fiancé. It’s cosy, and reasonably quiet, and it’s nice to just chat. Too easy to stick the TV on if we’re just at home.

dontpointatme · 13/04/2019 21:47

It's still better than going out at 8pm like we used to and starting from sober then...

Do you think you just need to start earlier and earlier the older you get?!?

Bluntness100 · 13/04/2019 21:48

I'm not sure about this. You don't need to drink to excess you know. And you can pick a nice place to go with your friends. You don't need to go to smelly overheated pubs and get pissed

museumum · 13/04/2019 21:48

Your town and local bars sound awful. A daytime pint in a country beer garden on the other hand,..

NaturatintGoldenChestnut · 13/04/2019 21:49

VERY boring! I do like a lovely lunch with friends and perhaps share a bottle of wine and then go for a walk.

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 13/04/2019 21:51

I love going to the pub with DP and spending an afternoon people watching with a cider; but it has to be the right place for people worth watching, and it's made by the conversation really. I can't do it with people that the conversation doesn't really flow or grip me; it feels so dull then.

SosigDog · 13/04/2019 21:51

YABU. I never get to drink during the day any more since having DC. I used to enjoy it.

TapasForTwo · 13/04/2019 22:01

I can't think of anything more boring. I prefer to have a couple of drinks in the early evening then go home for tea.

AllTheWhoresOfMalta · 13/04/2019 22:03

Can’t do it since I had kids. Officially get knackered.

Bluntness100 · 13/04/2019 22:07

Sounds like you've not moved past your student days op, going to spoons with the intention of getting wankered.

Instead why don't uou meet friends in a nice pub, have lunch, share some wine, whatever, chill and chat.

Is that getting old? Well it's a better way of getting old than going to some dive, necking booze, and going home early with an arsey husband.

Sparklingbrook · 13/04/2019 22:09

I can't drink in the day any more, i just want to go to sleep if I do.

I like going to a pub in the evening though and walking home.

RosaWaiting · 13/04/2019 22:12

it sounds like you are actually taking the trouble to travel, on a packed train, to a packed pub.....I'm lost already, I didn't want to do that when I was 20!

can't you go somewhere you actually....like?

BornInAThunderstorm · 13/04/2019 22:15

You’re doing it all wrong. You should go to a nice pub with a good beer garden on a sunny day. Somewhere you can travel by taxi or on foot. Have leisurely drinks with bar snacks interspersed. Lovely

Lalalalalalalalaland · 13/04/2019 22:18

Since I've had kids ive found i can't day drink anymore.

If i have a few drinks with lunch i feel shit and tired by 4pm.

Day drinking you either have to really commit and continue drinking into the evening or not do it!

happyhillock · 13/04/2019 22:21

I don't enjoy going to the pub at all, i to think it's boring, we like going for a pub lunch couple of drinks go home and open a bottle of wine..

Jiggles101 · 13/04/2019 22:22

Going for a few chilled afternoon drinks in a pub garden somewhere and then for a nice dinner is a lovely activity imo. Your husband sounds like he ruins it by being a miserable fucker who can't handle his drink 🤷🏻‍♀️

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 13/04/2019 22:26

I’ve never been a good day drinker. It knocks me out and I’m ready to zuzz by teatime! Possibly an age thing.

Studentnurse1981 · 13/04/2019 22:30

Your pubs sound awful. Nothing better than a quiet drink in a country pub.

ZenNudist · 13/04/2019 22:38

I had a lovely glass of wine in a great restaurant by the river in York this week. Our table overlooked the museum gardens. Even having thd kids there didnt spoil it, they yummed their food down and read Viking books we'd just bought at Jorvik.

My point is you can have a drink in the day and enjoy it. Nice drink, nice setting, good company.

Find somewhere better to go.

BadLad · 14/04/2019 07:50

Try going to pubs which aren't shitholes.

Fairylea · 14/04/2019 07:55

I’ve been bored of this since I was about 25. If I have any time to myself I like to travel to a city I don’t know well and explore it, not sit in a pub all afternoon. But then I’ve always been that sort of person, I love architecture / museums / countryside walks etc. I think everyone’s different but if you’re bored then you need to try lots of different things!

PolaDeVeboise · 14/04/2019 08:14

I much prefer 'day' drinking. Pals, lovely lunch, few wines - nice, buzzy pissed. Home at a reasonable time, no hangover next day - WIN. occasionally rip it, start on shots and don't get home till gone midnight

ExpletiveDelighted · 14/04/2019 08:26

*I can't drink in the day any more, i just want to go to sleep if I do.

I like going to a pub in the evening though and walking home.*

Same here, I've never been a daytime drinker and there's always a chance I'll want to drive later in the day. I still like a nice pub lunch without drinking though or going for a drink in the evening.

kaytee87 · 14/04/2019 08:27

Go to nicer bars, prebook some seats and have more interesting company.

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