What does your perfect life look like?!

[Theninjawhinger]

I’ve had a crap time lately (terminal family illness, bad break up, single parent, zero hours contract, let myself go etc) and I’m trying to picture how my perfect life would be.

I think my house would be white and spotless, with no clutter and lovely art on the walls. I’d run every day and feel in control and strong. Lovely healthy meals with fresh ingredients in the fridge. Ds bedroom would be tidy and i’d make his bed every day. We would sit down and do his homework together every day before our evening meal. I’d run my own business from home around Ds, and my lovely imaginary partner would come over every evening for supper together. Oh! And I’d have fresh flowers in every room and a dog!

Some of the above I can implement, so I’m trying to work towards that. What would your ideal life look like so I can steal ideas from it please!

I’ve thought of something else! I’d be naturally tanned and always have a pedicure!

Immaculate beautiful home...all my family living close by...enough money so I don't have to work....everyone healthy and happy. I would spend my days at the gym, shopping, beauty treatments and baking.

A lovely emotionally available kind good humoured husband, two little girls and a baby boy, working part-time in my current career, with two nights a week to be able to go to my hobby. Loads of family time.

Right now I have my dream home, my career and my hobby. But life feels very lonely and empty and at 35, time seems to be running out.

Ahh yes! Enough money not to worry - that’s top on my list too!

Eleanor time is def not running out at 35! I’m 38 and I’m hoping to somehow have my life magically in order by time I’m 40.... I figure there’s still half our lives left to live, we can’t write ourselves off just yet

Sorry you’re having a shit time of it OP! There’s nothing on your list that can’t be achieved with a bit of time. Life is cyclical and sometimes we get all the crap life has to offer. Then things turn around and get better. Just don’t give up hope. My perfect life will involve an annual winter holiday someplace warm and beautiful! And another cat.

I’m 51 and my life turned 180 degrees for the better when I was 41. It’s never too late to receive the gifts of life!

Yes Mimibunz! That’s the sort of thing I need to hear - I look at how drastically different my life was 10 years ago, there’s no reason it won’t be drastically different for the better in time either. I bloody hope so anyway! I also hope you get your holiday and cat too

I'd just like to be carefree - no worries.

I'd like one of those stunning renovated Victorian terraces with a big extension on the back (lots of glass) and a freestanding bath 😂

Not have to work.
Bigger house(at least a 2 bed and a garden).
Another child.
Another cat.

Keep playing the lottery

To feel well-rested all the time. Days spent gardening and cooking and baking for family / friends. Clean, minimalist but warm and friendly home. Productive garden with veg and flowers. Happy and content children. Healthy nearest and dearest. Plenty of reading time.

I fantasise about lottery wins almost daily.

My perfect life would be not having to work but with a regular income (trust fund or lottery win). I’d be in the same house with the same car (house is new but car isn’t, it will do though) and every day I would take dd to school then go to the gym for a session with my PT who is going to make me shift a fuck load of fat and actually make me fit. Then I’d come home and walk my dog/s which I can’t currently have as we have no time for a dog.
After the dog walk I would do a bit of house work, prep dinner and maybe help out at the village cafe for an hour or two before picking DD up from school.

All I want is a quiet life without the stress of full time work and time for me to get fit and healthy as that has all gone by the wayside.

OP, do you have a plan for how you’re going to implement the changes you want?

The one I have now. And that's not a 'love the life you have' meme, I'm really really lucky. I'm healthy enough to enjoy physical activity, have a job I really like, a son who is great, friends and family, a sex drive and fun partners. i have a home and I decide what happens there. I would rather piss about on the internet than watch tv, so mostly I do. I would like to read more so I belong to a book club.

The house is a bit of a shit tip and the garden looks terrible. My tip is to force yourself to have visitors so you have to clean up!

I'd have a four year old who has the ability to listen, do as they're told and wipe their own arse. Not too much to ask eh?!

Sorry you're having a shit time OP

I'd be an lp, self-employed gardener and cat sitter with paying clients.
My cottage would be near the sea but with good parking and access. It would have a big cottage garden.
I'd cycle daily and be busy with work. I'd eat well. My dd would have full use of her legs and lots of mates popping over. I'd smile whilst listening to them giggling. She'd be happy and confident.
I'd have 2 implants and perfect eyesight and my knees wouldn't hurt.
In the evenings, my family would live nearby and we'd chat, drink and listen to music in front of a crackling fireplace.
My cats would be on my lap.

I already have a good life . But would love to have a nicer house and turn into a tidy person. Be tall and willowy with cheekbones and a face that aged beautifully . With lots of money, a villa in Majorca and enough money to fly first class to the Far East a couple of times a year.
But if I ever got all that I would give up if it meant my 2 dc were happy in life

Great thread! Theninjawhinger, do you have an idea for what your business would be? Perhaps you could make a go of that?

Bloody hell Regina now that would be a miracle and a half!

I am loving reading these - I want all your perfect lives too!

For me, I’m trying to create a vision of how I want my life to be, and then work it backwards. So I want to be fit and run and feel strong, so I’ve started doing c25k. It’s only been a week, but I figure if I do something little each day then it might add up without me noticing?

Business wise..... gah! I don’t know! I had a recruitment agency which I ran from home. I’d like to start that up again but I feel like because I let it fail once (my ex didn’t like me working so I just sort of let it drift) people will judge me for starting it up again?

Hiddenaspie I hope you get to hear your dd giggle with her friends many, many times

I would live in a hillside village off the beaten track in corfu, have goats in the garden and the odd olive tree where I could harvest a bag or two and press my own olive oil. I'd hopefully meet my greek partner who would have a little business renting out speedboats and he and I would open a café on the beach.

Potty training would be over.
My mortgage would be paid.
I wouldn’t be lonely.
My sons trauma would no longer exist.
I would have found someone kind to love.

I would have no debt, spare money to be able to do things and go places without having to justify it, a part time, stable job in a lovely school, a nice house that's not pebble-dashed in a nice area with a wide front door and plenty of plug sockets. It'd be well decorated and not full of clutter. My dc would behave and not whinge and whine at everything. I'd be thin and healthy.

I would have loving and kind parents who enjoyed spending time with me and my dh and dcs. We would spend Christmas together and have fun.
My parents are abusive and so damaging we don't see them anymore.
My dcs would still be autistic but the world would suit them more. The whole world would be more autistic so that they didn't suffer. I would not have to worry about their future and especially after I'm dead. I would be sure that they can achieve their dreams.
My dh and I would have more time for each other because the struggle of supporting our dcs wouldn't be there as the problems they have wouldn't exist as the world would suit them. We would talk about films and laugh.
I would have a job because ds1 would be safe to leave alone in the house. I would be happy and confident. My dcs would also be happy. We would not be afraid to leave the house as the sensory issues wouldn't exist, people would not stand too close, and would be sensitive and kind to us, even if my dcs were experiencing strong and overwhelming feelings. My dcs would feel safe and calm.
It would only rain at night or just to make rainbows. In the day it would be warm and sunny. We would live by the sea, so when our windows were open we would hear the sea. I would have a garden where I could grow vegetables and have an orchard.

No anxiety and depression. Other than that, i’d be fine with everything I have now.

I'd love to be living in a nice "village" where theres lots of bars and restaurants that is commutable to London. I would have a 4 bedroom semi detached house that has a bay window that gets lots of light, and my bifold doors on my beautiful kitchen would open out onto a sunny garden.

I would have 3 kids, a beagle and a westie.

I would work part time as a marketing manager at a company in London that is a brand that people have actually heard of.

My husband would be a contractor in the little niche that he works in.

We'd drive a Mercedes and a 4x4 Volvo and would have long haul holidays every year, plus a couple of weekend city breaks for the culture.

Ahhh... one can dream!!

Oh I know @Theninjawhinger - gotta have dreams though, right?