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Does any woman ever actually want to see a dick pic?

86 replies

Echobelly · 08/04/2019 14:16

I really don't get why men sent dick pics unless they're just being abusive bastard who wants to impose himself on a woman and upset her? But I see evidence online that there are guys who still think a woman might be pleased by one and not totally put off.

Does any woman ever ask to see one? Do blokes think women will be flattered that he has a hard-on for her or something?

Be interested to know if anyone has actually asked, has been pleased by one? Cos for the life of me I can't see why! Confused

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bsc · 08/04/2019 18:23

Wait, flaccid? Confused
I had no idea....
Every day is an education on MN!

plominoagain · 08/04/2019 18:24

I don't get it , at all tbh . I mean what are you supposed to do - critique it ? A friend at work ( yes really ) has a folder full of these things on her phone and not one of them is an attractive sight ! They're not even well lit .

Babdoc · 08/04/2019 18:26

On a point of historical correction - no, we didn’t take them to Boots for developing. We had Polaroids...! Grin

Sparklingbrook · 08/04/2019 18:26

I would imagine the sender would quite like a picture in return maybe. Bleurgh.

toomanycats99 · 08/04/2019 18:27

I got one about 7am on the tube through airwatch. I purposefully gave no reaction and they sent another one a minute later........

Made sure it was turned off after that!

Didn't work out who it was.......

Sparklingbrook · 08/04/2019 18:27

Would Boots even develop them come to think of it? I thought there were rules back then?

A Polaroid Penis. Lovely. Grin

MenuPlant · 08/04/2019 18:30

"They're not even well lit ."

Grin
PottyPotterer · 08/04/2019 18:30

I was watching Amy Schumer stand up the other night and the topic of unsolicited dick pics came up. She suggested sending one back, which I thought was quite funny. Not sure where you'd get one mind, maybe stock images on the net no way am I googling.

WhoWants2Know · 08/04/2019 18:30

Genuinely annoyed by them, so it's a good way to get blocked.

TeaForTheWin · 08/04/2019 18:30

They'd probably have to develop it first to know what they were developing xD at least with some of them.

SilverySurfer · 08/04/2019 18:31

I would be horrified to receive one and think my only response would be something like 'have you seen a doctor about that' Which may make him at least put it away for a while Grin

Likethebattle · 08/04/2019 18:44

I got a few, one guy was fairly happy with his penis and it was quite long but none of them are attractive. I did point out that length matters not a joy to a woman just to men and it was too skinny to really be worthwhile. He called me a bitch. Another sent me one and I said ‘ew what’s that? It looks like a penis only much much tinier!’

Blompitude · 08/04/2019 18:52

Personally I wouldn't, I'd be horrified if I received one.

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Echobelly · 08/04/2019 21:15

@FizzyGreenWater - I think I'd feel the same, kind of grossed out and embarrassed!

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Pollaidh · 08/04/2019 21:30

Would put me straight off, in fact I would see it as a red flag and block that person. How stupid must they be to think it's appropriate to send an unsolicited dick pic? I don't want to date an idiot. Am married, but friends who do OLD agree. Dick pic --> rejection.

As part of ongoing sexting, then it's more appropriate, but I'd still expect to be asked first, rather than have one just appear in the inbox. Wouldn't appeal though. Picture of a bare chest or their cat/dog would work much better.

Nicknacky · 08/04/2019 21:32

A bare chest would do nothing to me as part of ongoing sex chat.

If I was OLD then no, don’t just send it and I would be pissed off with that,

But as part of a relationship then it can be fun.

Pollaidh · 08/04/2019 21:35

Though I did talk about this with a gay friend and he said it's a lot more acceptable amongst his friends, and he quite likes getting dick pics actually. I forgot to ask whether that was flaccid or erect.

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Echobelly · 08/04/2019 22:58

I think it is perhaps men thinking that the female gaze is like the male gaze? The way some blokes don't understand harassment because 'I wouldn't mind being "harassed" sometimes hur hur!'

I mean, I've never got mainstream porn - I've sometimes looked online trying to see if there's anything I'll find arousing but most of it seems to be lots of close-up wobbling, spurting genitalia... I mean, no, yuck, I don't want to look at that, let alone be turned on by it, but apparently a lot of hetero blokes do. Confused

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Nicknacky · 08/04/2019 23:05

Heterosexual women find that a turn on too. It’s not just men.

Chocolatecoffeeaddict · 08/04/2019 23:42

Depends who it's off. I'm married now so only have pics of my husband's and I enjoyed receiving them when we were dating, though I preferred full nude pics.
If it's a pic off a randomer I wasn't expecting ( and having done OLD I've had plenty) then no I don't like getting those.

Mother87 · 08/04/2019 23:48

Millicent - "taken in the loos - I hope"GrinGrinGrin

ahtellthee · 08/04/2019 23:50

I received one. I was curious as it was completely hair free! (Been married for 17 years, people still had pubes when we were single). I couldn't help myself but to ask about his penis beauty regime and upkeep.

It was an eye opening experience, for the wrong reason.

nancy75 · 08/04/2019 23:56

If O asked dp to send me a dick pic he would think I’d taken leave of my senses. I can just imagine the texts:
‘Do we need anything from the shop?’
‘Yes please, toothpaste, a bar of chocolate & a picture of your willy’
Thank god i’m old & not single

HunnyCaramel · 08/04/2019 23:56

Not interested, even from partners. Intrigued other women get something out of it.

YouBumder · 09/04/2019 00:00

I’ve been married for a long time so not in the market to receive them from randoms or new prospects but I also haven’t, nor do I want to, receive them from my husband. I know what it looks like, I don’t need a photo and I don’t find dick pics sexy.