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In-laws dog bit toddler

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Upyourdaisy · 08/04/2019 11:10

My little girl came home from the in-laws yesterday, I noticed a mark on her arm but left it until this morning to text. I sent a picture and said 'I don't know what this is on names arm' mil then phoned me and said she was really sorry, but her dog had bitten dd, she said dd threw a bike at her (dd is 2, we have our own dog at home and she's never done anything like that) so the dog bit her. I was a bit shocked really that mil didn't tell me without me asking first. My other half is (rightfully) livid, we don't want to seem harsh but dd won't be going over again, even with the dog locked away I still wouldn't feel comfortable.

In-laws dog bit toddler
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Upyourdaisy · 08/04/2019 18:10

Nurse applied a little dressing with some iodine, and said to keep an eye out for any signs of infection. She said it must have hurt to bruise like that, however mil is insisting she didn't cry, and is backtracking now and asked dd if it was the horse 🤔

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Redshoeblueshoe · 08/04/2019 18:17

A horse ? Blimey she sounds bonkers

AuntMarch · 08/04/2019 18:20

She was left with a horse (With a very small mouth) ?!

aweedropofsancerre · 08/04/2019 18:21

Sadly your inlaws lack of honesty is the worry here. Not only not telling you but then blaming your DD for getting bitten by suggesting she threw a bike at the dog and now suggesting it was a horse....keep your DD away from their house

SnuggyBuggy · 08/04/2019 18:22

Horse?

GreenTulips · 08/04/2019 18:23

Dogs get put down for less

They can lead to nasty infections

Wolfiefan · 08/04/2019 18:24

A horse bit her?!?!
Sounds likely they left her entirely unsupervised and don’t actually know if she cried or not. Poor kid.

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Upyourdaisy · 08/04/2019 18:24

They have Shetlands and were feeding them bread, she would have been there the whole time so would've seen that if it had happened. I think she's just trying anything and everything to take the blame away from her dog. It's trying to keep it from me that really doesn't sit well

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ChariotsofFish · 08/04/2019 18:26

She’s trying to pretend a Shetland pony did that when yesterday she had a full story about your DD throwing a bike?!

Wolfiefan · 08/04/2019 18:26

Feeding them bread?!?! Sure it wasn’t a swan bite OP? This makes no sense.
Accidents happen. I would be fed up if they failed to keep my child safe but I would hate more that they weren’t being open and honest and being determined to prevent her ever being hurt again.

SnuggyBuggy · 08/04/2019 18:26

Again it's the not being honest with you that's worrying.

flitwit99 · 08/04/2019 18:28

It's the lack of honesty that would bother me too. Not telling, changing her story. I could accept that the dog bit out of fright and will be kept completely separate from now on, but if mil is lying to you about what happened how can you trust her to actually keep the dog separate?

It would be a long time before DD went there without me again. Or her dad, good he's in agreement with you.

Jaxhog · 08/04/2019 18:30

A dog bite is bad enough, but she lied by omission. That would be enough to stop the visits.

SosigDog · 08/04/2019 18:32

My DS poked our dog in the face with a truck and it bit his hand. Not enough to draw blood, just enough to scare him off. You can’t blame the dog. The parent (ie me) should have kept him away from the dog. Obviously it’s terrible that your child was bitten but it’s understandable that a dog who receives a painful smack in the face will bite. Keep dog and child apart in future until child learns to respect dog.

Blueowls · 08/04/2019 18:32

Well, unless her Shetland ponies have serious dental anatomy issues, that is quite clearly not a pony bite.

Gertie75 · 08/04/2019 18:42

I work with dogs and that's definitely a small dog bite, I've been nipped many times and more often than not it doesn't leave a mark but that on your daughters arm was done with some force and must've hurt.

The whole story about the bike sounds odd, most dogs having something thrown at them would flinch or run away not race at and bite the person, I could understand more if your dd had fallen onto the dog.

MitziK · 08/04/2019 18:46

I want to see these Vampire Shetlands. They'd be ideal for the next Resident Evil movie.

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Upyourdaisy · 08/04/2019 18:48

She should have told me straight away, I can tell by the way she's behaving she thinks we're over reacting.

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Upyourdaisy · 08/04/2019 18:48

MitziK Grin

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MitziK · 08/04/2019 18:50

With the new information, I suspect that she was on her bike unsupervised and the dog chased and grabbed her by the elbow/arm, she then fell off.

Probably lots of screaming involved, unfortunately, they then realised something was happening and found her trying to get away with said dog hanging off her arm.

Lying to that extent suggests it was a considerably more serious incident.

Let your DH go ballistic at them. They've earned it.

YAmILikeDis · 08/04/2019 18:53

Lied by omission
Probably lying about the bike
Now asking if the horse did it

They are full of shit. Let DH go fucking nuclear. This absolutely warrants it.

EleanorofCastile · 08/04/2019 18:56

There is no way she didn’t cry having a dog bite her!

My mum’s dog snapped (a warning, go away teeth baring not a bite) at my toddler DD, and DD was beside herself. It would be a horrible shock even without the pain of a bite.

Elizabeth2019 · 08/04/2019 18:56

Oh my! The immediately not telling you and taking your child straight away to be seen would stop me leaving her alone with them.

I would expect your DP to be going absolutely ballistic, reiterating that they have broken your trust etc. And until your little one is able to speak fully to explain to you, i wouldn’t leave her there. Hope she’s okay

Shinesweetfreedom · 08/04/2019 19:00

What has your child said happened
I don’t blame the dog
Don’t think the adults are responsible enough

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Upyourdaisy · 08/04/2019 19:04

Shinesweetfreedom she doesn't speak properly yet

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