Rude, entitled mother in Pret

[IloveJudgeJudy]

DD's story; not mine.

She was in Pret A Manger this afternoon, minding her own business, eating lunch (bought from Pret) with her headphones on. A woman with a pushchair tapped her on her arm to get her attention. DD looked up and smiled at the woman, and the woman said "give me your table". DD said "no" and woman persisted with a few more "give me your table". When DD said "no" again the woman asked why she wouldn't and DD said "you didn't say please". The woman then told her she needs the table because she had a pushchair and DD said "I don't care, go upstairs". Woman gets angry saying "how dare you speak to me like this, move now". DD Stands her ground and tells her to go upstairs again. A Pret employee approaches the table and asks what the problem is. DD tells her this woman poked her arm and told her to move; not ask. Employee tells woman there are other seats upstairs but woman says she wants to sit at DD's table. DD says she's not moving and the woman says "I'm never coming here again" etc etc. Employee apologised to DD and older couple remarked on how rude she was.

I've never had an experience like this. I've read on here about situations like this before and I couldn't really believe people act like this, but now it's happened to someone I know. How rude!

When DD said "no" again the woman asked why she wouldn't and DD said "you didn't say please". The woman then told her she needs the table because she had a pushchair and DD said "I don't care, go upstairs"

Who says you didn't say please and i dont care - both sound rude, what area is this

Perhaps " Can I have your table?" But no please?

And I too have had to tell a woman with a sleeping child in a pram, who considered that to be her Access All Areas pass, that the table she was offloading her bag, nappy sack, magazines etc was already in use... by me.

Her response was to the point "well you'll have to move for me"

I didn't. She shouted a bit and left without ordering anything.

I am in my 50s. Such shit does happen, thankfully not all that often

Who says you didn't say please

Me for one.

ILoveMaxiBondi

If you don’t believe then report or leave don’t make yet more stupid remarks

TBF even if the DD did left details out, the woman was still a CF.

Anyone else wondering if ILoveMaxi is the mum???

Well done to your DD for being assertive. And I LOVE the you didn't say 'please' comment.

Was the woman foreign?

Why do people always do that stupid “oh it must be the person!” Whenever anyone says anything negative about a thread? If I was the woman I would be telling it how it actually happened

In the past DD has not been assertive at all. In fact, she herself would agree that she used to let herself be walked over. If the conversation had started differently or the woman had apologised and said she was having a hard day, no question DD would have moved. She's not unreasonable, but she needs to stand up for herself for the good of her MH. I was proud of her.

IloveJudgeJudy i’ve had similar happen, so certainly not beyond the realm of possibility! Good on your dd for standing up for herself!

I don't know how to say this without sounding rude, so I won't bother to make the attempt.

Why should anyone care whether you believe it or not ILoveMaxiBondi? It's not like you're a judge or jury that has to be convinced beyond all reasonable doubt.

Believe or don't believe, it matters nowt to nobody.

FWIW, I do believe it, I've had similar happen to me in a pub when a woman got most irate that we had a bigger table than she felt our group warranted - not realising that we were going to be joined by several more in short order.

@ILoveMaxiBondi I really don't like what you're implying here. DD doesn't lie. What possible reason would she have to do so? It was only after she told me that I asked her if I could post her story as she and I talk about threads on MN sometimes.

@ILoveMaxiBondi Please report my post if you don't believe it.

OP I don’t for one second think you are making this up. I think your daughter has been flexible with how it happened. All you’ve done is presented it as you’ve been told.

You're troll-hunting, ILove. When you tell someone their thread is made up.

There are some astonishing folk out there. My DS and I were in a shop today and a woman with a child in a buggy was coming past making everyone move by saying ‘Excuse us! Excuse us!’ Basically just pushing to move faster alongbtge through way. We all moved. She did not so much as say ‘Cheers’ or ‘Thanks’ let alone ‘Please’ in the first place. I suspect we mostly did because we feared she would keep on moving forward and shove us out of the way regardless. One person said, ‘You might of said thanks Love!’

Before anyone says it - her child didn’t need a wee as we passed her looking at some chocs further in the shop

No I’m not, I don’t think OP is trolling at all. It’s clear she was just relaying a story as it was told to her.

IloveMaxiBondi - the whole point of the OP's post is that this is a very unusually rude women - that's why it's worth posting on an internet forum.

If the woman had asked politely, it simply wouldn't have merited a second thought.

Can't really see why the OP, or her DD for that matter, would make this up.

Ok. I’ll leave you all to it. OP I am sorry to accuse your daughter in the wrong.

Absolutely I don't have to like your opinion, you're fully entitled to it, and to express it!

I do find it funny though, how people who have never even met any of the protagonists can feel they somehow know better what happened, and can feel qualified to pronounce with some certainty on the veracity of an individual via a brief snapshot encapsulated in a thread.

Well good for your DD, OP 👍Too many CF on this planet.