Any oldtimer MNetters out there feel like they are outgrowing Mumsnet?

[WelliesAndPyjamas]

I might be feeling maudlin and incoherent (chesty cold, stomach bug, and exhausted after several months of 50 hour working weeks) but having put myself to bed this morning and allowing myself the treat of browsing Mumsnet properly for the first in ages...I feel like I have outgrown Mumsnet 😱😱 I can’t seem to find that many threads of interest to read any more. I think I joined MN about 13 or 14 years ago and I used to love it, finding it a constant source of laughter, advice, and kindness between people in similar siutaions or just seeking advice. These days the threads seem a bit samey, people very quickly and easily turn against each other, and you rarely if ever come across anyone you ‘know’ for a laugh and a catch up.

Any oldtimers out there - am I rosetinting the old days or have I actually outgrown MN?

Fair chance I am just too ill and should just shut up and put away the ipad though 😂

There are lots of embellished or made up threads, yes. Many are harmless though. I think as pp said you just outgrow things. It fits with a period in your life then when you realise you're discussing p&c parking for the 20th time or arguing again for women to have the right to choose if they have body hair or not then it's time to move on.

@continuallychargingmyphone, I have no clue about what you are talking about.
I am an active member elsewhere, but never really post about anyone on MN elsewhere.
I don't even know who you are, here or elsewhere.
Which part of what I said made you assume I was talking about you? I really have no clue. I got a lot from MN over the years, that's only thing I have said. And I can assure you, I haven't talked about anyone on MN off board. PM me if you are really worried.

Funny,I was thinking the exact same thing yesterday.

I'm back after a long break,about a year I think and I only recognise Sparklingbrook and Anyfucker.

It's so serious here now, there's been a definite change.

Maybe Gransnet is the place to go?

Been a member since early 2007 although I pretty much left for a few years. Rarely post and have kept the same name (plus another one for my meanie alterego ), unusual I think?
I hope I’m a long way from being a gran, and they don’t even have a sex forum on Gransnet,which along with relationships, is my most visited area, so it’s not for me.
I feel MN keeps me updated on issues l may otherwise miss, and I hear opinions from people I might not meet in my real life NottheFordtype for one.
I get frustrated by the troll hunting.
Anyway, I’m comfortable and entertained.

All the good threads get deleted. Drives me absolutely wild. Seriously pisses me off.

I'm with you OP. I joined when DS was a baby (15 now) and it's so different now. It's always been a no nonsense place where someone being a twat would get their arse handed to them on a plate, which is why I liked it, but now some posters take real glee in trying to make someone else feel shit. They almost deliberately 'misunderstand' so they can twist words. I said it on a thread this morning - I saw a couple of posters who I had real respect for as they were always able to put their point across in a decent way, even in disagreement, act like cunts. Not nice.

@continuallychargingmyphone, you have made a serious accusation about me, for me to tell you and all others reading here my identity on other social media, I really appreciate you would respond.

I remember threads like these a decade ago, so personally I think it's more rose tinted glasses than things having genuinely changed.

That said, I think the size of the user base and the name changing prompted by data breaches etc make MN feel more anonymous than it used to.

I also think for me at least it does just have a lot to do with the age and stage of my DC.

I have literally no idea what is going on here but is it not a bit ironic to turn a thread about what a shame it is that MN is less friendly and supportive than it used to be into a bizarre fight?

'I remember threads like these a decade ago, so personally I think it's more rose tinted glasses than things having genuinely changed. '

This with bells on.

In fact I find it nicer now. More namechanging etc but that does stop people getting targeted by weirdos. If people want to 'know' posters there's lots of other smaller sites.

I've been on here for about 12 years. At first I used the same name and most others did. You felt you knew people.

The necessity of frequent NCing these days doesn't help
This is true.
Then came the data breach and at the same time an increase in press coverage. I became more aware of posting about family and started to name change frequently as I think many others do.
My currrent name is a Line of Duty special

I have started looking at Gransnet. DC are grown up but early 20s so no GC but GN does feel gentler.

I remember about 10-12 years ago a poster, Soapbox I think her name was, started a thread to give Xmas presents to Mnetters who were worried about money.

It was one of the first over 1,000 posts. People offering to send gifts to people. Amazing, could never do that now. How sweet and innocent it all was then.

We used to do gift swaps too. Madness :)

How can it change so much in a decade?

I mainly just read threads in classics now to remind me of how MN used to be.

Some people really took advantage of mnetter kindness.

I have no idea why I was deleted, by the way

Because your comment breached the talk guidelines and I reported it. At a guess.

‘Get a life’? Gosh, that was a cutting edge personal attack

That isn't what you said though. Although accurately repeating it will just get you deleted again I imagine.

No, it really was. Get a life, followed by the emoction.

You are lying by saying otherwise. I have no idea why you are lying, but you are.

This is going well

Yes, can I change my answer about thinking MN used to be nicer just being rose-tinted glasses?

Well, you’ll just have to take my word for it, which is why I’m mildly put out that my comment was deleted because to be honest it makes it look far worse than it actually was.

Since you reported it you should have it word for word on your email, as per mn reports

'Get a life’? Gosh, that was a cutting edge personal attack'

It maybe isn't a cutting edge personal attack, but it's a put down said in a derogatory way isn't it?

Just be nice or don't say anything!