DH never takes pics of me with DC

[Ginger1982]

I love my DH to bits and he's a great Dad. Anytime I see him cuddling DS or reading with him or having a laugh I grab my phone and take a picture. He never does this for me. Practically all my pics with DS are selfies. I don't want to say 'please can you take pictures' as I think it makes me sound like I just want pics of myself 😬

My dad died when I was young and I love looking back at old pictures of us together. It's not that I'm constantly thinking morbid thoughts but if anything did happen to me, I would want DS to have pics of us together to look at. On a more normal level, I just want some nice pics of me and DS that I haven't taken myself!

Does anyone else have this with their DH or have any ideas what I could say to encourage him?

Yes same here!

I think it’s quite common among Dads. My partner was rubbish at thinking to take a picture, so I would ask. Our dd is 6 now and he’s pretty good at remembering on days out, but it still wouldn’t occur to snap a quick unposed shot at home or in the garden.

Just ask him, I'm a photographer so take photos of everything but have to ask dh to take ones of me, it's not that he doesn't want to he just isn't into photographing anything so never thinks.

Tell him what you've said here that you want photos for your son to look back on when you're no longer here.

My dh is the same. He just doesn't get it. I have mentioned it but he still never does. He manages to take pictures of cars to send his mates though

Or get a tripod and take your own, I've been known to set my camera up on a 10 second timer then play with the kids to get candid photos of us!

Same. It's thoughtlessness. I have to ask, and then look at them and ask him to focus/ not have a tree appearing to stick out of my head etc.

Why does it bother you? Just ask. I do.

It's not thoughtlessness at all. Why do people take so many pics of mundane moments these days?

Same. It’s very frustrating.
I’ve told him I would like him to take more pictures of me with the children but he replies he hates the whole Facebook thing. I wouldn’t mind but I never put pictures on Facebook so his argument makes no sense!

Have you got any friends or family who would take photos for you?

Same

'If you want to know what someone fears losing, watch what they photograph'
Sorry OP!

Singlenotsingle I suppose I feel I shouldn't have to ask but maybe I just should.

I'm single so rarely get photos with DD

Chickenwing I don't see it as mundane moments. It happens (or doesn't rather) when we are on holiday and on birthdays etc. Should I not have any pics of me and DS on those occasions? And even if it is mundane to be, eg playing with DS, I think it would be nice to have some pictures.

Sagradafamiliar thanks!

Same here OP.

My partner took one picture of DC when she was born, and sends me random funny ones of her when im out, but thats it. His camera roll is pretty much empty (Apart from ones i or his friends send him) and some DC pics, Some people just aren't into photos i think.

I understand what you mean about snapping away cute photos, when they're reading, playing and if you ask it feels forced and not a candid shot. Luckily i have a relative who always has a camera out so i do have some of us all.

I'd hate DH to whip his phone out to take pictures when I'm relaxing with DD. It's not a given and therefore, ask.

Some people aren't picture takers. I never take pics, it pulls you out of the moment. You are a picture taker, like some of my friends, and don't get that it just does not come to our minds.

Same!
There are millions of pics of DC with DH. I’m only ever in a picture when I actually ask DH to take a pic. Infuriating. When looking back at photos I now say, “oh that looked like a good day and no one would even know I was there”
It seems many men don’t even think about these things.

Rather than prompting him at the time you want a photo how about talking about it earlier.
We're doing xyz later, be good to get some pics
Then when you call 'photo op' later, he is primed and hopefully will just start snapping

Same here too!! Every photo is taken by me of DH with one or more child. I’ve tried asking if he’ll take one of me with them but everyone’s generally lost interest and moved on to something else. It makes me sad when I see so many photos of my DCs and I’m in a mere handful, if that. ☹️

Exactly the same here but it suits me as I despise having my photo taken. Occasionally I will ask him to take a photo of me and the children and I invariably hate them but have them just so that they have them to look back on.

This is so common - I had this conversation with friends today. If you don't ask him to take a picture, he won't do it, so unfortunately you have to ask. Over and over and over. And you still won't get the kind of natural, unposed pictures you take of him and DS.

I am the other way round. DH takes loads of me, but I just never think to. Or I find it a pain. I just want to enjoy the moment and not faff with my phone.
DH did mention it to me so now I try to make an effort. But I really have to try hard to remember. I think you should just tell him. I didn’t think DH was being all me, me, me, I appreciated he had a valid point and tried to accommodate his request.

Same here. I don’t even have a picture of me in hospital with DD. I try not to dwell on the thought as it breaks my heart.