DH never takes pics of me with DC

[Ginger1982]

I love my DH to bits and he's a great Dad. Anytime I see him cuddling DS or reading with him or having a laugh I grab my phone and take a picture. He never does this for me. Practically all my pics with DS are selfies. I don't want to say 'please can you take pictures' as I think it makes me sound like I just want pics of myself 😬

My dad died when I was young and I love looking back at old pictures of us together. It's not that I'm constantly thinking morbid thoughts but if anything did happen to me, I would want DS to have pics of us together to look at. On a more normal level, I just want some nice pics of me and DS that I haven't taken myself!

Does anyone else have this with their DH or have any ideas what I could say to encourage him?

Yeah it's a catch 22 with me. I'm the photographer of the family so there are rarely pictures of me beyond selfies. And I do wish DP would take more candid shots of me and DC. But on the other hand, I usually hate myself in pictures and I like to control the shot so I don't end up looking like a troll. So I'm in a bind.

But to the point of the OP, my DP never thinks to do it. It does make me sad. The meaningless moments are the ones that make up a life.

I can understand about being in the moment and not thinking about taking pictures and perhaps we do live too much of our lives on phones and stuff but I suppose I just think it would be nice for him to think the same way as I do. I like the idea of saying it in advance but I doubt he would remember when it came down to it. I feel it more on special occasions.

Ah bless you, I do understand how you feel. Honestly you are just going to have to ask him to make sure he takes some pictures as you feel sad that there aren’t any of you and DC. I am sure he will oblige.

I just think it would be nice for him to think the same way as I do.

It's not the 'right' way though, it's just your way. I prefer to live in the moment and I think reels of pictures are useless. I'd rather have a few good ones.

I get disappointed with this sort of thing too, my ex never took pictures of DD and I, I have less than 10 of us together in her first year that I didn't take myself, and of those 10 many are of me looking like a haggard troll in a manky dressing gown. It made me really upset as I have taken hundreds of him and her, and he loves having them. You can't make people do it though, and if they aren't that way inclined it probably isn't going to happen even with nagging.

I felt like this with my oldest so I spoke to DH about it when I was pregnant with DS2. I also explained that I would like him to take several shots, because even when he did think to take a photo he'd only ever take one whereas I always take several shots to maximise the chance of getting a good one. After reminding him a couple of times he is much better now.