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I am really bothered by dick pics - has anyone ever met someone after receiving one?

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lborgia · 04/04/2019 07:31

For some reason I’ve been told about, or read about dick pics and dating several times in the last couple of weeks. Here is my question.

Has anyone gone on to meet a guy after being sent an unsolicited photo? Ever?

I can imagine that once in a while you both get carried away, and that’s a whole other thing - no problem there - but is it ever anything other than confronting (or laughable) and why would men keep doing this if they don’t actually get in sex out of it?

Kind of a dull question I suppose, but I’m truly baffled.

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lborgia · 04/04/2019 07:32

Oh dear, I’ve just seen my title - I am not inundated with photos, obviously. Blush

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TeddyIsaHe · 04/04/2019 07:34

No! But sadly have had dates with guys I thought were lovely who then sent dick pics afterwards. WHY? They don’t look good in photos, do men think women just find them so attractive they must see them? No idea. But it is a definite deal breaker.

buzzbobbly · 04/04/2019 07:37

I'd like to think I would have the ovaries to agree to a meet and then plant the venue with a whole bunch of people who had big printouts of the offending knob, and who would all flash mob him at the secret signal.

I'd then like to think I would also spam his family and friends and employer with details of his nasty habit.

In reality I'd probably just delete it, block him and carry on being disgusted at men.

ALannisterInDebt · 04/04/2019 07:42

It would be an instant deal breaker for me, and they would be immediately blocked.

PaulHollywoodsSexGut · 04/04/2019 07:45

I absolutely don’t get it at all.

Why would any man do this?

It comes across as sexually aggressive and nothing more.

Although I know one girl who got this kind of shit via text from the guy who is now her DP and the father of her baby.

So perhaps that is one tale of dick pics leading to a happy* ever after???

*shes not happy

Fairylea · 04/04/2019 07:46

Would be an instant block from me too.

I met dh on plenty of fish (been married 10 years now) but there was no dick pic Grin

Awrite · 04/04/2019 07:51

I asked a male colleague why he thought men sent dick picks (he doesn't, he's been married a few years, nice guy). Anyway, he thought that as men think that breasts look nice they probably think that women want to see dick pics.

I know.

Could it really be that simple? Or, is this chap stonkingly niave?

Sarahjconnor · 04/04/2019 08:01

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lubeybooby · 04/04/2019 08:22

Unsolicited dick pics are no different to the old stereotype of a flasher in a mac, imo

Revolting and should be made a criminal sex offence. If I were ever single again I wouldn't meet anyone who sent one.

Downunderduchess · 04/04/2019 08:30

I get unsolicited dick pics on Instagram often, I've never responded. Not sure why they do it, not exactly showing themselves in the best light. On dating sites I've been asked if I want them to send me one. At least they ask first!

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lborgia · 04/04/2019 08:31

OK, well that’s all pretty reassuring, I was starting to think I had a slightly naive view of life. Awrite it did occur to me that some men might think it’s equal to a page 3 effect, but surely over the age of ...21 ? They would realise it really isn’t.

Sarah how exhausting to forward photos to 100 women for one shag. Surely they’d be better of getting off with someone at a nightclub?! I suspect there would be better odds if they just had a decent couple of texts with 10 women?!

As to techno-flashing, and power games too, probably both relevant for some of them.

Anyway, still baffled, but at least not as worried. Grin

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OldAndWornOut · 04/04/2019 08:36

I think men tend to be very proud of their dicks, so they think you'll be overcome with admiration when you see it.

I would consider it an insult to be sent an unsolicited pic.

confusedfornow · 04/04/2019 08:37

Almost every single woman I know, and even some married ones Confused have sent pics of various parts of themselves to men they are trying to get with.

How is this any different?

Think it's a little bit of a cheap shot (no pun intended) to castigate men for doing virtually the same thing women do.

ComeTheFuck0nBridget · 04/04/2019 08:48

I think it's fine if they ask if you want one, and you say yes.

BUT if they send you an unsolicited one, I really don't see how it is any different to flashing. You should be able to report it, get a warning for the first one but then serious consequences for the second.

I don't think they are sending them out to hope to attract women, I think they're just having a wank and it turns them on to show it to women.

It's disgusting.

Palominoo · 04/04/2019 08:58

I get sent them all the time on Facebook from guys requesting friendship.

How they think that will entice me is beyond me.

I reply asking them why have they sent me a photo of a child's penis, to deflate their ego.

Sending unsolicited photos through a dating site would immediately make me cease contact once I had laughed at them and told them how small it is.

KaterinaPetrova · 04/04/2019 08:59

A friend was sent a dick pic when she answered a roommate ad on Craigslist. Despite having a small child she did take the room. They ended up actually becoming a couple and are married now. But she's a Trump supporter so there's a question about her rational thinking anyway....

SneakyGremlins · 04/04/2019 09:00

I'm not a woman but I think it still counts - guys seem to send random dick pics and then "Interested?". Erm, no? I just want to go for a drink with someone! Plus it's never as impressive as said man thinks.

I did meet up with one guy who kept sending them, to tell him it's never going to happen, stop sending them, and if not I'll go to the police for harassment.

Sarahjconnor · 04/04/2019 09:21

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lborgia · 04/04/2019 09:22

Of course it still counts if you’re a guy sneaky ! Still very very weird.

Confused I know I shouldn’t. I really shouldn’t. But I will.

If I knew women who did this, I would be telling them to stop being so ridiculous, and if I knew men who had women throwing themselves at them when they’re (either of them) married, then I’d be telling them to tell their spouses.. as it goes, I’ve been reading about dick pics, and picking friends up off the floor who have been dealing with dick pics. So that’s what I’ve written about.

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Tawdrylocalbrouhaha · 04/04/2019 09:26

Almost every single woman I know, and even some married ones confused have sent pics of various parts of themselves to men they are trying to get with.

What the hell?! Unless you mean their face, I don't think this is usual at all!

SomethingOnce · 04/04/2019 09:30

I'd like to think I would have the ovaries to agree to a meet and then plant the venue with a whole bunch of people who had big printouts of the offending knob, and who would all flash mob him at the secret signal.

Genius!

bsc · 04/04/2019 09:31

Almost every single woman I know, and even some married ones have sent pics of various parts of themselves to men they are trying to get with.
Really, confused?
I don't know any women that do that.
Women send pictures of their dripping fanjo (because presumably they need to indicate they're aroused, I'm guessing "dick pics" are erect, not flaccid??) to men? cant believe I've typed that!
Women are socially conditioned not to be provocative, to be modest, demure, not draw attention to themselves. You don't really get many women flashers... So who are these women sending unsolicited pics of their sexual organs? How many do you know that do this?

SneakyGremlins · 04/04/2019 09:33

I know one woman who does. One.

User10fuckingmillion · 04/04/2019 09:35

Tbf lots of men seem to want to see disembodied tits (to the extent that they ask for pictures of them), whereas I have no desire to see a disembodied penis.

Luglio · 04/04/2019 09:36

It's digital flashing. That's all. A lot of men get off on making women feel uncomfortable. Many, many men.