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Should I be feeling miffed over cheap Birthday present from millionaire friend?

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Theonethatsblonde · 02/04/2019 12:30

I've just had a birthday and my very rich millionaire friend has just brought me a cheap scarf in the sale. I know I sound ungrateful, and, I know its the thought that counts, but in the past shes brought luxury designer items for other friends, way into hundreds. So my dilema is what do I do?

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grumpydwarf · 02/04/2019 12:31

Be grateful you got a gift at all? What else would you do? Adults don't make fuss over presents being a bit shit surely.

PrincessScarlett · 02/04/2019 12:31

Do you like the scarf?

Sculpin · 02/04/2019 12:32

You say thank you! And you adjust your planned spend on her next birthday downwards. What else could you possibly do?

Mrsjayy · 02/04/2019 12:32

I think your friend has cottoned on who their friends are and maybe she doesn't think your friendship needs buying the presents are superficial nonse nse are they not ?

81Byerley · 02/04/2019 12:33

No. Words.

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Theonethatsblonde · 02/04/2019 12:34

Not really to tbh

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AllTheFours44 · 02/04/2019 12:35

What did you buy her for her last birthday?

Ellenborough · 02/04/2019 12:35

Maybe she knows you don't have loads of money so she wants to keep things to a sensible/moderate budget so you don't feel under any pressure to reciprocate in kind?

TheGrey1houndSpeaks · 02/04/2019 12:36

Dilemma? What do you do? What on earth...

Didiusfalco · 02/04/2019 12:36

I know you shouldn’t feel bad but that sounds so generic and un-thoughtful, I think I would feel a bit ‘meh’ about it. For me it really isn’t about cash but if a very wealthy person got me a cheap and impersonal gift, especially when they got nice things for others I would assume I was unimportant to them. But, I am someone who puts loads of thought into choosing presents so this might skew my perspective.

RapunzelsRealMom · 02/04/2019 12:37

Maybe she liked it and thought you'd like it. Do you?

It's a little strange that she spends so much more on other friends in the same social circle. Perhaps you've given her the impression that you expect more from her because she's well off and she's teaching you a lesson?

(I'm sure the paragraph above reads much harsher that I intend - I don't mean to be rude, but the fact you have posted about this is a hint that you may have).

I'm reasonably well off (not as well off as your friend) but I don't set a budget and stick to it when I buy gifts. I just see something I think the person would like and buy it (within reason of course).

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Theonethatsblonde · 02/04/2019 12:37

She was having trouble sleeping so I brought her the This Works Sleep Set.

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TheFaerieQueene · 02/04/2019 12:37

🤣

LeesPostersAreInFrames · 02/04/2019 12:40

Kinda makes you sounds like you're only a friend for the money Confused

Incidentally how did you know it was from a sale? (Particularly curious as I don't have much money and often get friends decent brand presents in the sales, because it's a way I can afford to give them better things.I know that's not the same as your friend's situation, but to me a gift from a sale is perfectly acceptable, I wouldn't advertise that it's from a sale but nor would I mind if they found out. I've had some weird gifts I would never have chosen before, but I appreciate my friends time, effort and money in then finding something they think I'd like.

nespressowoo · 02/04/2019 12:41
Biscuit
Theoldwoman · 02/04/2019 12:43

Be happy you got a gift, it's the thought that counts.

I have never had a friend buy for my birthday before.

feathermucker · 02/04/2019 12:43

You do nothing.

fullprice · 02/04/2019 12:43

Tell her you expected a more expensive gift and wait to see what you receive next year.....

fullprice · 02/04/2019 12:44

Clue= probably nothing!

ChrisPrattsFace · 02/04/2019 12:44

What do you do?
Unfriend her, you’re ungrateful, shallow, rude and she deserves kinder friends.

AllTheFours44 · 02/04/2019 12:44

Sounds like you spent a similar amount on each other so all is good.

You do nothing and ask yourself is she your actual friend or a cash cow. Really sit with yourself on that question because you’re not coming across as a true friend on this thread.

chillychicken · 02/04/2019 12:47

One of my friends is a multi-millionaire. I am most definitely not. We buy each other token presents. I'd never expect her to spend more on me just because she could afford to. The presents she buys me are always great and well received.

What do you do? You ask yourself if you value her friendship or just want her in your life so she can buy you expensive presents.

whitesoxx · 02/04/2019 12:48

What were you expecting from her?

BasilWhoosh · 02/04/2019 12:50

You send her a thank you note thanking her for her lovely present!

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 02/04/2019 12:52

There's nothing that you can do.

Does she usually get you something better; or have you just noticed a disparity between what you got and what others got?