Should I be feeling miffed over cheap Birthday present from millionaire friend?

[Theonethatsblonde]

I've just had a birthday and my very rich millionaire friend has just brought me a cheap scarf in the sale. I know I sound ungrateful, and, I know its the thought that counts, but in the past shes brought luxury designer items for other friends, way into hundreds. So my dilema is what do I do?

Grabby or what...

Did she not select an item from your registered birthday gift list op?🤪

Maybe she wasn't impressed with your present. Does she normally spend more on you or just on certain others? Maybe her other friend had a special birthday or is valued more than you.

You cut it into a thousand pieces and send it back to the tight cow.
Or you just be grateful you got anything

You can get a t-shirt printed
"My friend is a millionaire and all I got for my birthday was this crappy scarf"
Then, wear it with the scarf next time you see her.

Love it Diana.
I'm thinking she knows you think of her as your millionaire friend rather than 'Sue' or whatever she's called. She realizes you see pound signs when you look at her.

think it depends

we have a family member who is very rich and very tight fisted. she only ever spends the bare minumum on any gifts and then expects enormous level of thanks!! and god forbid if you dont spend the equivalant amount getting her something or she goes off moaning to her mother. her meanness with gifts is a reflection of the fact she is generally not a nice person

that said personally i dont mind a cheap gift if it is thoughtful and the person is generally kind. i dont know which category your friend falls in to😄

What attracted you to your very rich millionaire friend, OP?

Maybe she saw it and thought you would like it. I have a budget for presents but don't spend the same amount on everyone every time. I buy things I see that I think that the recipient would like, sometimes I buy things in the sales, just because your friend has a lot of money why should she be any different? Sounds as if you're expecting her to pay for her friendship with you based on her income which is frankly pretty grasping of you.

You would probably hate the people in my family/friends' circle as we often just make each other things like home-made fudge as that shows time spent rather than money!

What do you do.....

Say thank you!!

What else would you do??

Are you new to MN, OP? On here you're never meant to complain about a gift. Ever. Even if someone gives you back a gift you gave them, you have to thank them and be grateful.

Of course in the real world if someone gives you a crap gift that shows that no thought has gone into it, you notice. You realise you're lower down in the friendship stakes than you thought, and that hurts.

Why would anyone be grateful for a "That'll do for her" present?

Why feel miffed, this is why friend is a millionaire, they don't spend their money.

Really be grateful that you had a present and be grateful. If I was rich I would be suspicious of anyone that was expecting expensive gifts of me that they weren't a true friend and just saw the money signs. How much did yours to her cost by the way???????

@hollowtalk the difference is that OP mentioned “millionaire friend” “cheap scarf in the sale” and “luxury designer items” and the post title mentions cheap birthday present..
Therefore it comes across as $€¥ focussed and grabby... I think if OP always gave very expensive presents and always got ‘cheap’ things or nothing in return she’d get more sympathy but it sounds like they spend about the same on each other’s gifts...

How do you know it was in the sale?

If you are guessing then you are being unreasonable.

If there is more to this story and you feel it's been done pointedly then perhaps you may have more of a point?