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Petty Mothers day gripes

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FartersDay · 31/03/2019 11:30

Dh cooks for me once a year.

Last Mother's Day I was woken up at 8am for cold toast with clover smeared on top (while cold) and tea.

I hate clover. It's vile at the best if times but dh keeps it in because he is lazy and likes the spreadability. His excuse for not using butter was that the toast was cold alredy so had to use clover. Hmm

I've been after American pancakes this year, smothered in maple syrup. This bit is important he knows this.

This year I was given a massive plate of American pancakes. No butter, no syrup covered in thawed black currants.
He said he didn't know I hated them that much. THAT MUCH.

Black currants are literally the only fruit I wont eat. I hate them. he knows this. I won't even touch black currant jam or ribena. THESE HAD NO SUGAR.

We're talking about two handfuls worth of black currants. I took a bite assuming they would be blue berries because what kind of monster would do that to pancakes. But no, black currants. I'm a vegetarian but I cook all his favourite meals, meat included. And he has a list as long as your arm of vegetables he won't eat that I can never use.

Just one fucking day.

Anyone else have any petty complaints?

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FartersDay · 31/03/2019 13:21

DH has just apologised on behalf of Ddog for forgetting to get me a card this year. I am mildly miffed tbh

If a years worth of cleaning up another creature's poop with a bag over your hand isnt worth a card I dont know what is!

Suppose you could send him to the dog house ....

I'll get my coat

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AGnu · 31/03/2019 13:21

My DC presented me with DVDs "for us to watch together" when we were needing to get out the door this morning so we were late because I had to do the required cooing over their quickly drawn handmade cards.

That's it for my day. No special meals/activities because DH didn't think about it. The children have been rude & disobedient all morning & I get screeched at if I even mention not wanting to get shouted at on mother's day...

FartersDay · 31/03/2019 13:22

Dc have just had a full blown punch up over some hama beads so you have all my sympathy agnu

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EdithWeston · 31/03/2019 13:26

My DHas been lovely and bought me a bunch of flowers.

But I don't quite know why she decided to give them to me by biffing me over the head with them.....

RevealTheLegend · 31/03/2019 13:31

What's the point if we can't do nice things for each other?

But.. but.. you aren’t doing nice things for eachother are you.

It is you doing all the gruntwork, he treats and fails due to total lack of effort. Once a year.

Maybe don’t stop altogether then, but certainly don’t put much effort in till he actually understands how much effort you do make normally.

TheQueef · 31/03/2019 13:32

I've been complained at because I've not bought onion rings and on the back of that heinous crime a fryable alternative...... This particular DC works at Tesco and is failing to understand how I could forget onion rings as it's such a staple. Didn't bother getting any from work though.
DS still sulking because I didn't give him petrol money last week.

Gum I know it's 21st but I've stopped fags and chocolate so it's next week to help me cope Grin

SaucepanMan26 · 31/03/2019 13:32

Dp is at work so i've spent the morning trying to stop the dc's killing each other, stripped and re-made all the beds, washed all the bedding and walked the dog.
Dc's have taken their fighting upstairs for now so I'm ignoring them while wishing there was alcohol in the house Hmm

happymummy12345 · 31/03/2019 13:35

At least you got something. I got snapped at my dh as he was running late for work. No lie in, no tea, no cards or presents. Not even a happy Mother's Day as he got ready. I've spent the day at home just ds and I, doing washing and ironing.

yumyumbutternutchicken · 31/03/2019 13:38

My first Mother's Day and I got nothing. I asked to go out to brunch but no, he's too hungover. Apparently yesterday was enough (baby's first birthday party). So just me and baby hanging out today. Which is not bad but it is a bit grating seeing all the lovely things my NCT friends are doing with their whole family :(

WhoWants2Know · 31/03/2019 13:48

I got shouted at by my eldest and everyone ended up in tears as I told her that her behaviour was poor enough that I was considering keeping her back from this year's residential.

recreationalcalpol · 31/03/2019 13:50

Nothing for me this morning, not even a cup of tea in bed whilst I fed the baby (also, 1 hour less sleep on Mother’s Day, WTF?)

Realisation dawned on DH when the significance of the day kept being mentioned on the radio, whereupon he told me he was ‘nipping out to the shops’. Came back with flowers, I pointed out that this was all a bit shit. Happy first mother’s day to me!

Squickety · 31/03/2019 14:13

fartersday i actually felt bad for Ddog as I think if she could go to the shops by herself with her paw-ket money she'd definitely have got me one. I gave her a cuddle and said 'don't worry I don't need a card to know you love me'. DH did actually look a bit distraught, he's usually really good with stuff like that so I'll let him off this year.

IntoValhalla · 31/03/2019 16:11

Highlight of my day: I escaped to the supermarket for a whole hour by myself. Was like a holiday.....but obviously returned to the inevitable screeching/fighting/general dickishness that I’d left behind Confused

FartersDay · 31/03/2019 16:17

Gin and Flowers all around.

Petty Mothers day gripes
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LuggsaysNotaWomen · 31/03/2019 16:27

March is always shit for me because I get the glorious delight of having both my birthday and mother’s day utterly ignored.

IntoValhalla · 31/03/2019 16:27

Farters oh what I’d give for a very large gin and pink lemonade Sad
DC3 currently growing like a weed in my belly is putting a stop to that joy!!

Have a big one for me!! Wine

LuggsaysNotaWomen · 31/03/2019 16:28

Oh and DH and DS 2 are at loggerheads and making the home environment a war zone. I wish I had alcohol.

Janjango · 31/03/2019 16:32

Sorry to hear about all the crap mothers days.
My husband got up eventually after I poked him about 10 times. It was time for me to get up anyway at that stage. He made the breakfast at least.
There was a bunch of flowers on the counter in the kitchen with a card that the kids put their names on.
We have teen boys and they were still snoring.
Husband went back to bed, and I cooked a roast dinner, did more washing and drove kids to meet friends.
Then I ate my dinner on my own.
So just another normal day here.
I should be grateful for the card and flowers but I would have loved for them even to say "Happy Mothers Day Mum".
Maybe I'm expecting too much. 😕

MrsJonesAndMe · 31/03/2019 16:34

Flowers to you all

We were out and it was freezing! Now listening to them squabble while playing on the games console Angry

Chilver · 31/03/2019 16:37

10 years i've been trying to train DH that I all I want is a little forethought, not going out on the day of (birthday, mother's day, whatever...) and bringing back flowers/ card. This year he has thought in advance for both birthday and mothers day, albeit for today only a day in advance. All good.

However, he forgot to rope said child into the mix so she said the lovely orchid is not from her.... but he hadnt thought to ask her to make me a card in advance, so I got a hastily pencilled card this morning and £1.05 of her money thrust at me in embarrassment as a 'gift'.

DH is working all day and Dd has gone to a party so I begrudgingly took myself for a very, very rare mooch around the shops - and came home realising that all I did was buy things for the two of them and others, thinking in advance for Easter!! I feel aggrieved that I put so much effort into the little things for them and get fairly fuck all thought in return.

Chilver · 31/03/2019 16:38

Oops, essay, sorry Blush

MillyMollyMandy2018 · 31/03/2019 16:42

This year I ordered my own chocolates in the weekly food shop and gave them to DH to give to me this morning. At least that way I get something I actually want. I won’t be sharing either.

doIreallyneedto · 31/03/2019 17:33

@TheQueef - It would be nice next Sunday not mother's day to sit tormenting me for a week while I finish lent.

Have you never heard of the Lenten exemptions? You're officially allowed break Lent on certain days: your birthday if it falls during lent, St. Patrick's day if you're Irish, Mother's Day if you're a mother.

That means you can have the easter egg today. You'd better get eating as you only have a few hours left.

Lolly34h · 31/03/2019 17:39

As neither of my teenage children acknowledged Mother's Day and the one year old is far too young I've done half the gardening that needed doing cleaned the windows and cooked Sunday lunch and cleaned up after! So as a treat to myself for being an absolutely amazing single momma I've treated myself to a new Kurt Geiger purse to me from me cause I fucking deserve it!!!

mollyblack · 31/03/2019 17:42

Ugh hate mothers day. I would like dh and kids to think about it before the day before. I got some nice presents from the supermarket. However its not really about presents, I'd just like a bit of appreciation and to be looked after for the day, even a little bit, i have still done washing, tesco shop, made dinner, weeded the garden etc. I would CRY WITH JOY if any one of these fuckers said "sit down molly, i'll do that for you". I hate being a martyr- but this shit needs done.