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Was this CFery of me?

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BakedChicken · 30/03/2019 17:30

Had an event at my DDs Nursery yesterday. Sandwiches and cake were provided by Nursery for everyone in attendance including me and DD.

They over catered and there was loads left at the end.

I helped clean up and asked the manager “Could I take some sandwiches for X’s tea?” X being my DD.

Manager said fine and put half a dozen sandwiches and 2 big wedges of cake in a Tupperware box, all she said was “Can you return the box next time X is in?”

Wondering if it was CFery of me? And the manager now thinks I’m a cheapskate?

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TheGrey1houndSpeaks · 30/03/2019 17:31

Why didn’t you think these things before you asked?

BlameItOnBianca · 30/03/2019 17:32

I don't think so, you did ask. If the manager was bothered about it, she could have said no.

Don't worry about it. Enjoy the leftovers and bring the clean Tupperware back on Monday.

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BakedChicken · 30/03/2019 17:33

Because I just said it without thinking and then thought about it after.

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dinkydolphin · 30/03/2019 17:34

Awk I would have thought it was cheeky but, no harm done!!

Hotsummerplease · 30/03/2019 17:34

I honestly wouldn't worry. Better than food going to waste. And they could have said no!

CCquavers · 30/03/2019 17:35

I wouldn’t have asked but I would have been to embarrassed to say no to you asking me.

KnitterOfSocks · 30/03/2019 17:36

I wouldn't have said CF, as you waited until no one there wanted any more food and you were helping them. It would have just gone to waste, surely?

If you'd packed a box for him before anyone else had eaten, or swooped in and grabbed the leftovers and legged I would have said deffo CF, but that's not how this comes across.

MyKingdomForBrie · 30/03/2019 17:36

No you weren't. You asked nicely and were happily given. No problem.

Calzone · 30/03/2019 17:37

I would far rather things were eaten than wasted and I would have offered the food to people if I had been in charge.

Definitely not a cf.

HarrySnotter · 30/03/2019 17:39

Oh god not more sandwich drama! Grin

littlebillie · 30/03/2019 17:39

Nope sensible

Bluntness100 · 30/03/2019 17:40

I think in future it's better to ask what they will do with thr left overs. As opposed to can you have them.

If you wish to take it for your daughters dinner, id also have said yes, most people would, as no one would want your child to go hungry. I'd have assumed you didn't have anything else and needed the food for her.

ILoveMaxiBondi · 30/03/2019 17:41

I don’t think CF. Far too much food gets wasted. It’s better you asked than not I think.

Angelf1sh · 30/03/2019 17:42

Doesn’t sound it to me either. Context is everything and the context here is that they’d have all otherwise gone to waste. I think it’s clear she didn’t think you were a CF because you only asked about sandwiches and she gave you cake too. She wouldn’t have if she’d been annoyed by you asking.

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BakedChicken · 30/03/2019 17:43

Didn't need the food for her, manager is aware of my situation and DD had a hot meal at lunchtime at Nursery, it was just I didn't want the left overs going to waste. If she'd said no, I'd have accepted it and gone home.

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TheGrey1houndSpeaks · 30/03/2019 17:43

Why the assumption that it was going in the bin? The staff may well have used it themselves.

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BakedChicken · 30/03/2019 17:46

I didn't assume that it was going in the bin, if she'd have said no I'd assume she was keeping it for the staff, but there was loads left over so she probably kept some for the staff too.

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thewreckofthehesperus · 30/03/2019 17:47

I wouldn't have minded either. Rather it be eaten than dumped in the bin.

TheGrey1houndSpeaks · 30/03/2019 17:48

You said you didn’t want it to go to waste... It wasn’t necessarily going to be wasted.

Millie2013 · 30/03/2019 18:15

I wouldn’t have asked personally but I wouldn’t have been offended at being asked Confused

Friend asked if she could take home some of the leftover food from DD’s party. I didn’t think she was a CF, I was happy it wasn’t being wasted

WhatToDoAboutWailmerGoneRogue · 30/03/2019 18:53

Why didn’t you want the leftovers going to waste? What would it matter to you if they did?

They catered, they are free to do with the leftovers whatever they like. If they had wanted anyone to take some home they would have offered. I think it was cheeky of you to ask.

wineandcheeseplease · 30/03/2019 18:55

Staff usually love the party left overs (says a nursery assistant!)

Catsinthecupboard · 30/03/2019 18:59

Why waste food? It was fine!

Wash the container and give it back with thank you if that'll make you feel better.

Sparklingbrook · 30/03/2019 19:02

I wouldn't have asked personally. But you did, they said yes and were obviously fine with it, and that was that.
Wouldn't give it much more thought TBH.

I would imagine the staff would have shared the leftovers anyway.

I wonder how many little (or big) grubby fingers had touched them though, and how long they had been out. But that's just me.

mummmy2017 · 30/03/2019 19:05

Oh come on she gave you cake as well, that was a lady happy to send you off with more.