Has anybody ever heard anything like this???

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Hi everyone, long time poster, name changed for reasons that will soon become obvious..
Something happened to me years ago that has bothered me ever since because I've tried googling the scenario and nothing ever came up.
Also this is extremely embarrassing but I was young and learning, so no judgey people please
When I was 18 I went on a typical girls holiday abroad, think Magaluf, Kavos, that sort of thing.
Third night in had lots of cocktails and shots and meet a lovely Albanian barman and things went from there as one could imagine..
When we went to, ahem, do the deed, the man put his penis in me and then it was in out in out twice until he said "oh my god there's blood". I look down and there is blood literally running down my legs onto the floor. I remember there being puddles of blood on the floor and showering not stopping it etc. Long long long story short I ended up in hospital in a foreign country with five stitches in my vagina!
I have never heard of anything like this in my life, and haven't managed to find anyone who's been in a similar situation. It was one of those things where my mates and I never spoke of it again but it did really mentally scar me and made me afraid of sex for a long time.
I wasn't a virgin at the time but wasn't exactly a sexpert either.
Think I'm just wondering if anyone has ever heard of anyone having a similar experience? I surely can't be the only one.

Goodness OP, I don't know, If you were drinking tbh it could've been anything really, fingernail or injury, a burst ovarian cyst, period come early (sex has definitely 'brought on' a period for me before. Rare medical condition- anything!

With that aside the way you speak about your vagina as being broken sounds very negative. Are you saying the experience has made it not possible for you to have sex since? Either physically or because you are scared to do so?

I would definitely suggest counselling, and googling vaginismus if the above is an issue. I see a womens physiotherapist for an issue relating to essentially, my vagina, on the NHS. I wasn't able to have vaginal sex basically- there are plenty of things you can do and you would be best advised ultimately considering it just another body part, because that is what it is. My womens physio treats it as such- muscles to be trained basically, no different to a leg etc. It just takes a while to get your head around to drop some of these negative and shaming societal notions. There is more to you and your vagina than sex or this sexual experience OP. Nothing is broken and it really says nothing about you other than what you allow it to.

A traumatic sexual experience is no small thing though and it's a shame some are keen to minimise it.

People are so rude.

This is a site for women. For support around motherhood and all women's issues.

This woman had something happen when she was young, in a foreign country, that wasn't fully explained to her and she is asking if anyone else had a similar experience.

Yes there are men who come here to be pervs but are we honestly going to allow them to Ruin mumsnet for all the genuine women with questions and problems out there by not believing every woman who posts about sex or something slightly out of the 'norm'.

You are just letting them win.

And even if you have doubts about a poster please just REPORT QUIETLY. You don't have to call a poster out publicly.

Wouldn't you rather report and let MN look into it in the background than risk making a genuine, real woman who came here for support about something she cannot discuss is real life, feel like utter shit and disbelieved??

Think about it.

I agree pp!

OP is posting because she's unable to make sense of it. She needs to figure out what happened. All of the posts minimising what happened and minimising her right to the reaction and trauma it's left her with are so rude and unsupportive.

''get over it'' has never been good advice. Shocking that people think ''what you need to do is get over it, it was nothing'' is worth posting.

I’m really shocked by OPs treatment in this thread.

OP definitely speak/write down the problem and take it to a nice female GP. I can understand why this maybe traumatic.

Op, I have heard of this before.

If happened to a friend of mine (unfortunately we're not in touch now or I'd ask her again).

She was in her mid 20's. She'd had 2 children and was having sex with her new partner. She'd been seeing him a few months do not a brand new partner.
As you described, she started gushing blood everywhere. Her partner ran her into A&E. Exactly the same as you she, I think she had a few stitches. The Drs explanation to her was that she'd had a 'thinning' of some interior skin (perhaps from previous births) and her partners penis had hit a blood vessel somehow and GUSH!
I'm sorry I can't remember the exact details as it was 10 years ago now but I remember her explaining all to me in horror and she was really embarrassed and shocked by it all.
She was totally fine afterwards and went on to have twins.

Just one of those weird things OP.

I'm glad you've had some kinder responses OP and I hope you find the courage to speak about it to someone in RL

I think you should consult with your GP.

Not sure searching for stories on Mumsnet is going to help.

You might be better off having a look through reddit - they've experienced things that quite literally redefine the laws of physics.

Not sure why people are being so arsey on here today

Op out it out of your mind, you were unlucky to be injured but you got the appropriate treatment and healed well, your body works fine

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It's not just today that people have been arsey. Op posted on Thursday and it's been controversial ever since. I've no idea why op doesn't just go to the doctors. you

It's totally normal to ask on MN if other people have experienced something in particular - it could be children's behaviour issues, health issues, work issues all sorts. If it's health issues most people realise if they need to go to the GP, but it helps to hear from others about their experiences. Someone might have really helpful suggestions or info.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with OP asking about this.