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Has anybody ever heard anything like this???

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howembarrassingisthat · 28/03/2019 20:09

Hi everyone, long time poster, name changed for reasons that will soon become obvious.. Blush
Something happened to me years ago that has bothered me ever since because I've tried googling the scenario and nothing ever came up.
Also this is extremely embarrassing but I was young and learning, so no judgey people please Smile
When I was 18 I went on a typical girls holiday abroad, think Magaluf, Kavos, that sort of thing.
Third night in had lots of cocktails and shots and meet a lovely Albanian barman and things went from there as one could imagine..
When we went to, ahem, do the deed, the man put his penis in me and then it was in out in out twice until he said "oh my god there's blood". I look down and there is blood literally running down my legs onto the floor. I remember there being puddles of blood on the floor and showering not stopping it etc. Long long long story short I ended up in hospital in a foreign country with five stitches in my vagina!
I have never heard of anything like this in my life, and haven't managed to find anyone who's been in a similar situation. It was one of those things where my mates and I never spoke of it again but it did really mentally scar me and made me afraid of sex for a long time.
I wasn't a virgin at the time but wasn't exactly a sexpert either.
Think I'm just wondering if anyone has ever heard of anyone having a similar experience? I surely can't be the only one.

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howembarrassingisthat · 28/03/2019 22:02

I don't want any in depth gruesome stories- I've got my own! Just wanted to know if I was the only one that's all..

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ShitAtScarbble · 28/03/2019 22:03

What on earth difference would it make to anything if someone you will never know had heard of a similar experience? They might be making it up to make you share more of your 'story' - do you see?

You keep saying this - to see if anyone had heard of a similar thing happening to anybody else. Why?

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howembarrassingisthat · 28/03/2019 22:05

I've just felt like a freak for years, like I'm the only woman who's vagina is broke. I have tried googling it to see if it's common and nothing has come up. I thought if I asked in an anon forum and people had heard of it happening then it would reassure me that it's not as strange, I'm not sure.

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ShitAtScarbble · 28/03/2019 22:06

Your vagine is not 'broke'. You had an injury. It was treated. The end.

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howembarrassingisthat · 28/03/2019 22:07

Yes I know that I was injured, you don't need to tell me the story because I was there. I've asked if the injury is common and if you don't want to answer then you don't have to, but there's no need to be rude.

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GucciDay · 28/03/2019 22:08

'People should be wary of (over) sharing their stories on MN about stuff like this, given the high number of pervs and trolls who frequent the site for wank fodder. And yes, I have reported.'

Would you like a medal or something for services to mn?

FlutterShite · 28/03/2019 22:14

Well it sounds truly horrible, and it's terrible that you've felt like there's something wrong with you. You really are not a freak of a woman, just someone who suffered an awful injury but doesn't know why or how. I can't imagine many women wanting to chat about it in company, as it sounds traumatic. I hope there are no long-lasting physical effects.

ElizabethMainwaring · 28/03/2019 22:20

Didn't you mention it to your friends? Or anyone when you got home? It's not that embarrassing. People do have sex.

DogHairEverywhere · 28/03/2019 22:22

Maybe it is something you can talk through with your GP. He/she could advise how common such an injury is and what the likely causes could have been. I think I would feel I was more likely to get a genuine medical answer from a sympathetic gp, than asking on an anonymous forum.

ILikePaperHats · 28/03/2019 22:23

Was it your period? Hmm

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howembarrassingisthat · 28/03/2019 22:28

No I never told a soul when I got home, I was 18 and mortified by what had happened so just acted like it had never happened really, but it's always been in the back of my mind since.
I've been trying to bring myself to speak to a GP about it but I find it really awkward, the reason I asked here is just the whole being anonymous and hiding behind a screen kind of thing.
And no, I do not believe doctors use a needle and thread when the diagnosis is period.

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ToTheWinchester · 28/03/2019 22:39

I read something a long time ago about the shape of some guys penises causing internal vaginal harm. So instead of the average 'arrow' shape, some men have a 'spear' shape. Not sure if this is relevant but your post made me think of that!

ElizabethMainwaring · 28/03/2019 22:40

You should definitely speak to a gp. They will be happy to explain and put your mind at rest. They are utterly unshockable. And it really isn't that embarrassing. Talk to your GP, it's their job.

QueenKubauOfKish · 28/03/2019 22:51

Could you talk to a practise nurse first, or even a counsellor, about seeing the gp and explain you’re feeling awkward? Or even a phone support line of some kind as then you’d be anonymous.

I’m sure a nice female gp would be supportive and understand, but it might help you prepare and talk it over.

DogHairEverywhere · 28/03/2019 22:53

If you feel awkward telling the GP, you could always write it all down and just sort of wordlessly hand it to him.

ragmayo · 28/03/2019 22:54

A friend once told me a similar story from when she lost her virginity, she bled loads. Sounded like a hemorrhage, no idea why

QuestionableMouse · 28/03/2019 22:55

It was probably a bit of an awkward angle and caused a tear.

hazeyjane · 28/03/2019 22:56

Surely a tampon after being stitched up would be an infection risk.

MashedSpud · 28/03/2019 23:00

Google bleeding during sex.

SelkieRinnNaMara · 28/03/2019 23:00

I can see why you still need to make sense of that.

For a while, i bled after sex but it was a polyp and after i had it removed it bled more but from then on i did not bleed after sex. So i wondered if itvwas a polyp but you wouldnt have needed stitches. It must be odd not to be able to figure it out.

MyKingdomForBrie · 28/03/2019 23:01

You just tore, you're not a freak or weird or broken. His skin caught yours and he was 'thrusting' hard and fast and it ripped. A horrible experience for you but not weird or shameful or any of those things.

poppinpink · 28/03/2019 23:09

Hi, something similar happened to me about the same age as you. I had really bad thrush and didn't know it which caused the skin inside to become really aggravated and during intercourse it ripped. I was bleeding so much I passed out by the time my boyfriend got an ambulance and got me to the hospital. It was embarrassing at the time because I was young and didn't know what thrush was or that I had it and obviously with my parents then being called to come to the women's gynaelogical ward. It's happened once more since then. You are not alone and it's really not anything to worry about.

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howembarrassingisthat · 28/03/2019 23:33

Thanks so much for all of these posts, they're much more helpful than the ones earlier on.
I agree that the tampon thing was weird but they gave me antibiotics and a special wash thing to use so maybe they thought it was fine. They kept me in until morning and then took the tampon out to check the bleeding had stopped and were then happy to send me home.
I'm going to really push myself to talk to somebody about what happened, thanks for all the suggestions and how I could make that easier.
I guess some of us are just unlucky!

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Lovestonap · 28/03/2019 23:44

As a pp mentioned, this happened in The Bell Jar. It was never properly explained and I was left wondering wtf was that about. That one sounded more like an internal haemorrhage though.

IncrediblySadToo · 28/03/2019 23:57

Bloody hell. If they put a tampon in me when I didn’t have my period I’d have screamed the place down on insertion and extraction. Dry tampons HURT.

Maybe he was too rough or used his fingers and caught you with one of his nails. That HURTS too. Though I wouldn’t have thought that either of those would leave a tear you could, or would need, to stitch.

I would, however, assume it was something he did rather than your vag being broke!