How do I face everything falling apart? I’m not strong enough to be strong for the children if it’s over. They love their Dad especially the youngest. We have a new home and have just moved to a new area (a year ago) but I feel the rug has just been pulled from under me.
DH took up a hobby and has been out 2-3 times a week straight from work, not getting back until after we are all asleep plus the hobby takes up a chunk of Saturdays too. It’s good that he enjoys it and I’m genuinely pleased he’s found a hobby he enjoys. I have at times resented the amount of time away from me and the kids and if I’m honest that I have to now do his share of the jobs on those days. He’s also started running 2-3 times a week before work too so it’s gone from being at home for some of the time in the morning before to leaving before we are even up. The combination of the early morning running and the evening/Saturday hobby at once have felt pretty life changing as it feels like we hardly see him. He’s out doing his thing and having fun whilst I race about, hanging out washing and sorting out the kids bickering, loading and unloading the dishwasher, tidying up etc.
Now he has said we have no common ground anymore and he is much more fun when he’s not with me. His friends don’t understand why he stays when he tells them what it’s like. He then listed all the things he enjoys that I don’t to prove his point and told me it’s over.
He’s not come back after work today and when our middle child text to ask if he was back for tea he told her no as he was going for drinks and dinner with a friend. I’ve pulled on all my willpower and resolve not to text or call him today and I will have to find more reserves for when he gets home as what I want to do is have a hug and ask to make up. If I ask for that and he refuses I’ll be in bits so I’m trying to make myself strong enough not to ask.