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DP is not happy

31 replies

TheFuckfaceWhisperer · 16/03/2019 11:24

Because with my birthday money from last week, I've bought myself a drill. And a little tool bag and various tool things.

I want to teach myself DIY and general making things and having the house nice.

OP posts:
Jackshouse · 16/03/2019 11:26

Why is this making him unhappy?

IM0GEN · 16/03/2019 11:27

He sounds lovely Hmm

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TheFuckfaceWhisperer · 16/03/2019 11:28

Oops posted by boob when I leaned over .

Anyway, waiting for him to do things I'd doing my head in, I want things done and doing then myself would be so much easier!

So I told him yesterday I'm buying a drill with my birthday money. He said "You're not" I said I've already ordered it, it's coming tomorrow... He actually said I should have bought myself a nice dress or some makeup!! Then said he'll be spending his time plastering walls where I've tried to put shelves up Hmm

Would it be wrong to put a new patio on my lists of things I'll do??

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Redwinestillfine · 16/03/2019 11:28

Depends entirely on what he's not happy about. Has he specified why?

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TheFuckfaceWhisperer · 16/03/2019 11:38

I'm assuming it's because he doesn't think wimmin should be using power tools! I think the "You should have bought a pretty dress or some makeup" and "I'm going to be spending my time plastering walls back up after you've tried to put shelves up" pretty much speaks for why he thinks I shouldn't... He's being very sexist and I haven't heard such claptrap from him Angry

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PhilomenaButterfly · 16/03/2019 11:40

Ask him if he operates power tools with his penis.

Soubriquet · 16/03/2019 11:40

How pissed will he be if you do a perfect job!

wowfudge · 16/03/2019 11:41

I don't think it's that, it's to do with "waiting for him to do things" and him not having done them. Order those slabs.

Easterbunnyiscomingsoon · 16/03/2019 11:45

He is obviously panicking that before long he will be surplus to your requirements....

IM0GEN · 16/03/2019 11:45

I have some spare cement left over from my own patio building.

Crinkle77 · 16/03/2019 12:54

Posted by boob? That's the best thing ever. However he is a divvy. My partner would be made up if I decided to learn how to to diy. However it ain't gonna happen cos I couldn't think of anything more boring but you go girl.

MrsMozartMkII · 16/03/2019 13:02

Patio sounds excellent.

Tell him as you're ordering the shovel and cement... Grin

bagpiss · 16/03/2019 13:06

He's being ridiculous.
As it happens, i own all the power tools in our house, my dh loves that It's me that put up shelving or built a wall unit etc (not from a lazy pov) he really enjoys being the helpmate lol. He does try to do things himself and often asks for my help in how to do things but he just doesn't have the knack. My dad was a builder and taught me all this stuff from a young age so i just naturally get on with it.
Good on you for doing it yourself.

PerpendicularVincent · 16/03/2019 13:06

I didn't realise that a pair of testicles was a prerequisite for being good at DIY.

You crack on, I would do the same!

CurtainsOpen · 16/03/2019 13:08

Oh, aye Hmm

MamaLovesMango · 16/03/2019 13:14

‘Posted by boob’ the new #1 MN phrase ever Grin

of course YANBU

ohfourfoxache · 16/03/2019 13:15

What a Prince Hmm

FiveLittlePigs · 16/03/2019 13:16

I did the same with my ex. Curtain poles, shelves, hung the bathroom cupboard etc all with my tools. Ex tried taking the credit when his mother came around, I suggested he showed her the new drill. He didn't even know where it was and she guessed rightly that I had done the work! Grin

AnyFucker · 16/03/2019 13:18

Build that patio and put him under it

Mememeplease · 16/03/2019 13:18

It's probably not that he thinks you can't do it - he's just taken it as a criticism of himself because he won't do it. He's got defensive.

bobstersmum · 16/03/2019 13:33

Aww bless is he worrying about his masculinity? In our house I do all the DIY, if I didn't, it wouldn't get done. Ds age 5 yesterday alerted to me a loose floorboard in the kitchen, I said go and tell your dad! He said I'm not telling him he's not a builder! I said neither am I, and he said yes you are you can fix anything! I was suitably chuffed.

ohtheholidays · 16/03/2019 13:35

Posted by boob that is the best thing I have ever seen posted on here Grin

Your DP is being a Tit Grin and needs to get over himself.

I'm far better at DIY than my DH is and he's thankful for that fact,I was raised in a household of builders and decorators and I enjoy DIY.

It's very lucky that I can sort things out myself because I had to do loads to my home when I was heavily pregnant with my 4th DC and on my own,I'd have been screwed if I didn't have the skills to sort my house out.

Holidayshopping · 16/03/2019 13:40

Are there already drills and tools in the house? Are you buying duplicates and he doesn’t see why?

ohtheholidays · 16/03/2019 13:41

OP my DH said you should write him a list of all of the jobs he's kept promising to do,tell him your going away for the weekend with the lovely new dress that he told you to buy Grin and that you expect to come back to the list having been done and he said if it's not done tell him your having the divorce papers drawn up.

When I told him your not married to him(I presume because you said DP not DH)he said well that's even easier then say it's all done by Monday or your done with him.

He said that or his other option is he shuts up and lets you get on with the DIY.

cstaff · 16/03/2019 14:00

@ohtheholidays I love your husband. If you are ever done with him send him over to Dublin Grin.

OP tell your partner to either get stuck in to the DIY with you or fuck off. Seriously he can't have it both ways. He is obviously feeling threatened by a little lady taking on the big man's jobs and needs to get over himself or grow the fuck up.