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Is it bad to start drinking at 1.30pm?

74 replies

Beerintheafternoon · 15/03/2019 13:41

When you're at home with two three year olds who are managing to get on every last nerve?

It would only be one, DH is home at 4, and we don't have to go anywhere.

They've never driven me to drink before, but I've had such an awful morning with them that I need some sort of treat. And there's no chocolate in the house.

OP posts:

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 15/03/2019 15:03

Irresponsible to say it’s fine and then compare your pint in the pub.

How do people know this would be a one off? They don’t.

Bluntness100 · 15/03/2019 15:07

You will feel nauseous, tired, light headed, exhausted, and even less able to deal with your kids than you are at the moMent. You'll be hungover by 5pm

Lol , after one glass of wine? You either really don't drink ever or are having a laugh, 🤣

Op unless you think this will become habit or you can't stop after one, then go for it, it's jist a glass of wine.

Skybooks · 15/03/2019 15:07

*If you're seriously thinking that you need a drink at 1pm because you're so stressed, it is indeed a slippery slope.

Plus you will feel absolutely awful by 3. You will feel nauseous, tired, light headed, exhausted, and even less able to deal with your kids than you are at the moment.

You'll be hungover by 5pm.*

What.....

I'm sure she'll be fine

Drogosnextwife · 15/03/2019 15:08

@Badwifey

Exactly, I just wanted to see the reaction to someone who wasn't the parent saying this. OP is alone with young children the same as I usually am (off today though).

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 15/03/2019 15:08

I've read the OP several times to see if it's supposed to 'lighthearted'. I'm not sure but it does make me uneasy whenever anybody asks others whether they should be drinking or whether they can drink? Why ask?

If you want to chat then chat. Using alcohol as a prop makes me shudder. I have alcoholics in the family and it's just not a jokey kind of topic any more than smoking or taking drugs would be.

Sorry OP. Hope your afternoon is a bit more pleasant than this morning sounds.

limpbizkit · 15/03/2019 15:12

I feel your pain. Totally been there. My sympathies to you. But deep down you know its not a great idea. If it was truly one glass then its not going to harm anyone but it depends if you trust yourself to let it be just one and as others have said it could then become a good habitual crutch leading to problems. It's usually how problems start. In a nutshell. Alcohol =coping mechanism. It's unhealthy. I talk from bitter experience. (thankfully past tense) I know it sounds dramatic but that'd be my stance. Can't you leave them in front of TV/tablet whilst you close the door and sit alone for 10 minutes with a cuppa and Google crap on your phone. Sometimes you need the 5 minutes out.

limpbizkit · 15/03/2019 15:18

Also to the people encouraging it I think they're possibly trying to justify their own habits. Plenty of other cultures survive life without alcohol as a coping mechanism. It's something bred into our British society that it's OK/normal/acceptable. I'm so glad I have left those dark days behind me of desperately trying to justify my drinking. I'm not judging anybody by the way. But when I see posts like this I see how easy it is to start normalising alcohol as a coping mechanism and it makes me cringe.

anniehm · 15/03/2019 15:21

On occasion it's fine! Sometimes kids do that to you. (But if you are regularly feeling like this then it's time to think about how much you are drinking)

cantbearsed1 · 15/03/2019 15:22

No I do not use alcohol as a coping mechanism. But if it is a one-ff, it is no big deal.
Only the OP knows if she is at risk of this being a regular thing. But many many people occasionally have a lunchtime drink and it does not lead to them becoming an alcoholic.

TheLoneWolfDies · 15/03/2019 15:22

Talk about an over reaction. I swear half the people on this site walk around with a permanant stick up their bums! She didnt ask if it was ok to shoot up heroin or smoke a load of crack. Have a drink OP! Ignore the cronic pessimism!

planespotting · 15/03/2019 15:25

My goodness, in my home country a small glass of wine with your lunch is perfectly acceptable, or a snack.
😳
Definitely does not mean you drink the bottle.

limpbizkit · 15/03/2019 15:25

@cantbearsed1 I think there's a difference between having a lunch time drink and having a drink when you're alone in sole charge of children and you're having that drink to feel like you can cope. In no way am I judging. Or saying its wrong. But there Is a difference in the circumstances

limpbizkit · 15/03/2019 15:28

@thelonewolf no stick up my bum. I've been there and done it with bells on!

limpbizkit · 15/03/2019 15:29

@planespotting. The op isn't having a small glass of wine with lunch out on the veranda. She's asking if she should reach for the wine because her children are stressing her out.

dellacucina · 15/03/2019 15:31

I think you know this isn't a great idea, OP.

Sunonthepatio · 15/03/2019 15:52

Drinking to resolve stress is never a good idea. It is the start of an unhealthy association.

SherlockSays · 15/03/2019 16:05

Well I've been contemplating a can of cider (nice cider btw) for at least 3 hours now because 7 month DD and the 2 dogs have driven me to complete madness. I have had chocolate though - which I had to have in moderation because it's actually DH's.

I've promised myself the cider as soon as DD is in bed at 7pm. To take the edge off the day before bed and to commiserate on what a shitty mother I've been today!

In all fairness, today was supposed to be a DD free day but SIL brought her home after an hour

PickAChew · 15/03/2019 16:09

Nah. Your kids will still be difficult and you'll have a fuzzy head on top of that.

TheFuckfaceWhisperer · 15/03/2019 16:12

Also to the people encouraging it I think they're possibly trying to justify their own habits

I would have said enjoy a little drink and I rarely drink, so I'm justifying nothing

Greatbigwhoooo · 15/03/2019 16:40

OP I get you. If you can’t get out and can’t even enjoy secret chocolate hiding behind the kitchen door you must be going a bit bonkers. If it’s a one off/very occasionally it’s not a habit, so don’t stress, however you know own self control to know whether this really would be the slippery slope others are concerned about. If you haven’t had your drink yet I’d say 5:00 is a bit less controversial though. I occasionally have a g&t getting the kids tea ready after a tough day. Makes me less likely to be shouty mummy at bath time & bed time. Also find having a ‘disco’ and silly dancing with them helps relieve some stress.

Badwifey · 15/03/2019 16:47

I don't have a stick up my bum either and I have drank while in charge of my child. One or two at Christmas etc. What I have a issue with is the fact the the OP is looking for a drink to cope with the stress of her children. It is a slippery slope into alcoholism.

I think "mammy drinking" is being normalised of late... pink gin, wine o'clock, prosecco lunches and the like. It's a really bad example to set to children who are already growing up into a binge drinking society that alcohol is a good way to deal with your problems.

I also agree with with whoever said it that those telling the OP to go ahead are trying to normalise their own behaviour.

No it's not shooting up heroin but can be equally as damaging to children watching their mother drinking to cope with the stresses of motherhood.

golddustwomen · 15/03/2019 16:54

Some of the replies on this thread are ridiculous.

OP- it's nearly 5pm on a Friday so I hope you've either had or are about to have your one glass! Cheers !!!

Kennehora · 15/03/2019 16:55

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sparkling123 · 15/03/2019 16:56

Know this is late but as people are saying it's a slippery slope if you open the bottle, why not have a g and t instead and use those miniature cans...?

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