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Is it bad to start drinking at 1.30pm?

74 replies

Beerintheafternoon · 15/03/2019 13:41

When you're at home with two three year olds who are managing to get on every last nerve?

It would only be one, DH is home at 4, and we don't have to go anywhere.

They've never driven me to drink before, but I've had such an awful morning with them that I need some sort of treat. And there's no chocolate in the house.

OP posts:
roundligament · 15/03/2019 14:29

Yes have a drink why are there so many of you who think it's an issue it's only an issue if you drink so much you can't stop or you are not able to look after your children
Some wine on a Friday when you have no commitments is fine

Felipa · 15/03/2019 14:31

Plan to have it later and you will enjoy it soo much more, on the sofa with peace and quiet. And get your DH to bring chocolate home!

SleightOfMind · 15/03/2019 14:32

Ah, we’ve all felt that way with very small children OP. It’s so relentless sometimes.

Most of us back away in case it becomes something we rely on and reach for the next time it gets a bit tough.

I’d save the booze till your husband’s home if I were you, but that’s because I use wine as a way to chill out in the evening too much anyway so daytime drinking is a huge red line for me.
Have you got a friend you can invite round for a coffee instead?

Sounds like a shit day. Hope it gets better soon Flowers

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 15/03/2019 14:33

Is drinking your way of coping OP?

Badwifey · 15/03/2019 14:36

Dragonsnextwife I'd be absolutely disgusted and fire you on the spot if you were drinking looking after my children.

AnnaComnena · 15/03/2019 14:37

Plus you will feel absolutely awful by 3. You will feel nauseous, tired, light headed, exhausted, and even less able to deal with your kids than you are at the moment.

You'll be hungover by 5pm.

On one glass of wine, or beer? Really? As long as op has something to eat with it she'll be fine.

I don't know op's particular circumstances, and whether it's a good idea in her case, but a great many people are capable of having a glass of wine at lunchtime and still able to function, and not be on the first step of a slippery downward slope.

WeepingWillowWeepingWino · 15/03/2019 14:38

I would toast something and slather it with butter, proper butter, none of your spreadable shit, and eat it really slowly with the butter running down my chin, and a large cup of tea. Having thrown my DC in the garden and accidentally locked the door.

make sure DH is primed to pick up wine on the way home!

MissionItsPossible · 15/03/2019 14:39

You're alone with young children. Calling them names and needing a drink. Your Husband should be concerned.

What a complete overreaction and unpleasant thing to say.

jusdepamplemousse · 15/03/2019 14:39

Context is everything.

In this context - starting drinking at 1.30pm really not great.

Just take them out - shake it up.

And get a bit pissed with your husband later after they’re in bed!

isabellerossignol · 15/03/2019 14:40

I love a drink but I'd think this a bit of a slippery slope too. Because then the next time you're stressed it's tempting to do it again etc

On the other hand, if the post had been 'I'm out for lunch with friends, would it be wrong to have a drink at 1.30?' I'd say crack on.

FemalePersonator · 15/03/2019 14:41

When you're at home with two three year olds who are managing to get on every last nerve?

I think it's best to wait until after 5pm to give toddlers alcohol.

DishingOutDone · 15/03/2019 14:42

Don't have the drink but god we've all thought it. Thats why we all know its a slippery slope, because with two kids at home you could knock out a litre of lambrini no worries, I know I could have Confused

IveGotAlpen · 15/03/2019 14:45

@Badwifey @Drogosnextwife was clearly tongue in cheek.

AdamNichol · 15/03/2019 14:46

On one glass of wine, or beer?

Maybe it's one of those glasses that fits 2-3 bottles of pinot?

Fightthebear · 15/03/2019 14:46

Stick them in front of the tv and have a bath?

WhentheRabbitsWentWild · 15/03/2019 14:50

Don't do this OP .

I started that way too . It did not end well at all, believe me .
There were mitigating circumstances, so to speak, DV, deep depression and hopelessness etc etc so perhaps thats why I went down the path I took for the next 2 years .

Please, just no .

Tinyteatime · 15/03/2019 14:50

No. I like a drink but I never Day time drink unless I’m at a wedding.

Pinkbells · 15/03/2019 14:52

It would become a habit, would be my fear. Sometimes my husband gets me a g&t at around 6 when I'm cooking, and I always think that's a little early (only when we're not going anywhere, and the kids are older!) We don't get blotto, but I think we might if we started at lunchtime!! It's a mistake to reach for a glass to settle your nerves, though in any case, otherwise it could become a prop.

cantbearsed1 · 15/03/2019 14:53

I think it is fine as a one off.

Travelban · 15/03/2019 14:56

Another one saying don't do it, only because it will quickly become a habit...also talking from experience

Steamedbadger · 15/03/2019 14:57

This is when you are totally allowed to put the TV on and let them watch while you make a cup of tea.

golddustwomen · 15/03/2019 14:59

Oh Jesus have a drink. It's one drink. I went to the pub for lunch today and had a pint before the school run (walking not driving) no difference with having one in the house.

Kennehora · 15/03/2019 15:00

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babysharkah · 15/03/2019 15:01

You know what, I have twins they've driven to me to drink and beyond on occasion!

cantbearsed1 · 15/03/2019 15:03

Become a habit? I suspect some people are prone to this becoming a habit. I am not prone to this. So yes I would. It would be a one-off. So no big deal.