Anyone lost an item and been able to move on?

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Just in case any tabloids deem this to be newsworthy- FUCK OFF DAILY MAIL, THE SUN, THE STAR, THE MIRROR. FUCK THE FUCK OFF.

I've lost three rings! Engagement, wedding and one that DH gave to me on our 10th anniversary. I feel absolutely sick.
I last had them just over two weeks ago- came back from a night out, not drunk but had been drinking, and put them somewhere. And I don't know where! I've looked everywhere. Pretty sure it was downstairs. Looked in bags, shoes, toy boxes, between, under and behind the sofa....everywhere.
I've come to the conclusion that I dropped them in my work bag and either they fell out as they were in open side pockets or I threw them away by accident when throwing some paperwork away.

They've gone. I need to accept that because I'm having problems sleeping. Life is very stressful at the moment (I could write a whole series of threads...) with job issues, a health scare and school problems and this would be a huge source of comfort if I could just let it go. But how? How do I stop thinking "oh, they could be in the suitcase with my summer clothes" or "maybe I accidentally put them in the freezer" and then look there and of course, they aren't there but the disappointment kicks again.

Has anyone lost anything, forever, and stopped looking for it? I know these are just objects and I've lost people so I know it's not the same but I just need to move on from this.

Oh i love this update - yes its things on the up for you!!

Fantastic news. 😊 You must feel great! Hooray!

I also lost my engagement and wedding rings having put them in a safe place when I had a nasty bout of excema on my hands. When I went to put them on again they weren’t where I’d put them. It was horrible- the engagement ring had belonged to DH’s late mother. I’ll never forget the panicked searching. Over and over again in the same place and then in all the unlikely places. Must have lost days of my life looking for them! I eventually stopped looking after we’d moved house and assumed someone we’d had in to do some work must have taken them.

They turned up two years later in a little used stationery file - I had no recollection at all of moving them from one place to another. Soooo happy!

(I kept the replacement ring we’d got though 😉)

My mum ‘lost’ 3 rings many years ago - a couple that belonged to her grandmother and one my dad bought her. They were gone for 20+ years and she always thought they had been ‘lifted’ by someone who was feeding their cats while they were away on holiday but never said anything as, obviously, there was no proof of this.

4 years ago my dad died and, during the spring/summer we cleared the house and decorated from top to bottom over the course of a few months. Anyway, on the last day of decorating what was to become her bedroom when we moved back in (had been dad’s bedroom before and they shared it years ago), I was moving a pile of books that were on the window ledge ready to paint it. Out from between 2 books a tissue packet (think Handy Andy’s from the age) fell to the floor and I was about to throw it in the bin when I realised there was something in it. Opened it and found the 3 missing rings - rang my mum to tell her and she was astounded that they had been there. She believed it was my dad telling her it was all ok and he approved of the revamp the house was getting.

Another tale is I misplaced a ring I was given that had been my grandmother’s and, 2 house moves later, it’s never turned up so I’ve accepted it’s gone forever!!